2006-08-11 04:24:23 · 42 answers · asked by Stud Buddah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
XXXXXXXXXXX I'd have to question my brother or best friend. They are breaking the unspoken rule that friends and relatives don't date exes of friends or relative. XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
2006-08-11 04:36:06 · answer #1 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do exactly what I did when I broke my girlfriend back when I was 17...be an adult. If you broke up in a reasonable, and honest fashion, there should be no ill will between you - also, if you were dating her in the first place, you must have seen something worthwhile in her - don't deny your bro/friends the same chance at happiness that you were willing to take..
My exGF at the time moved on to date my best m8s (2 of them), and then my twin brother afterwards. Good on her! (My only issue was that she deserved better!)
The main thing is, 10 years on, I still get on really well with her (and her now-husband). Don't let pettyness or jealousy get in the way of a good friendship with someone you obviously liked, and don't create an issue that could come between you and your friend/bro.
Relationships come and go - that's always going to be true. Your best bet is to accept that and move on - don't make problems were there aren't already some!
2006-08-11 04:39:34 · answer #2 · answered by Purecheese 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how long and serious the relationship was. If nothing serious...wish em luck...maybe they are a better match. But if you guys loved each other, were in a serious relationship or dated for a lengthy time...then they both SUCK and you should invite them both to Jerry Springer!!! Where's the honor in that! If that's the case I would let my brother/best friend know what I think without getting out of hand. In this second situation your best friend isn't a friend and you wouldn't want your brother sleeping with your wife in the future...so I would find out what thats all about!! Besides how do they know you guys were really done. Lot of times serious relationships find their way back. With regards to her in this second ituation, I wouldn't pay any attention to her cause she isn't even worth the trouble. Don't forget you broke up with her (for a reason) so either way you need to move on and find someone you match better with...
2006-08-11 04:32:02 · answer #3 · answered by GP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. Example, say you have a nice porsche, but after using it for a few years you decided to sell it, give it up or give it away. Do you have the right to do that ? yes of course ! But after departing with it, can you still claim ownership of the porsche ? Of course not ! Even if your brother or best friend buys it from you, or bought it from the dealer you sold it to. What you can do is to change your own attitude.
2006-08-11 04:28:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a guy i used to date did that (with a sister instead of brother cuz that would b akw : um lol) i would try and be cool about it. I might be a little mad or jealous but i wouldnt try to show it and try and keep my head cool, becuase after all I broke up with him. And, at that point, anyone else is fair game, and if you let them make you mad----
wait:
have you even seen a frickin teen movie???
this is like the plot in all of them... and bad stuff always happens when they get mad!!!!!!!
lol.
no, but seriously, you dont want to get in a fight with some1.
:( that could be bad.
pretend u dont give an orange jellybean.
2006-08-11 04:30:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's tough. The same thing happened to me a long time ago. I just couldn't be around the two of them anymore. It hurt too much to see them together. It didn't last though. When it was over between them, our friendships resumed. After a while...I got completely over him. Now we're very close friends and my fiance and I hang out with him and his wife.
2006-08-11 04:28:44 · answer #6 · answered by green is clean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...well pat yourself on the back for breaking up with a ***** like that!!!!! But really, i would start to question your brothers or best friends intensions with her and with the unwritten contract of friends and family...She may be a ***** but what excuse do they have?I would talk to whom ever she is dating that is close to you and tell them that u think its inappropriate and u feel uncomfortable with it...If they respond carelessly, maybe u should question the realness of the friendship.....good luck.
2006-08-11 04:30:41 · answer #7 · answered by eve11en 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say nothing since u did break up with her! but i do think that ur brothers/friends shouldnt do something like that to you
2006-08-11 04:29:56 · answer #8 · answered by custom_made_mami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept it. She isn't your property or anything like that, and she has the right to date whomever she feels attracted to. I've known some couples who are now together but were previously dating or even married to their current husband or wife's friend.
2006-08-11 04:27:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends if you want to hold onto the friendship you have with your friend and/or brother. I'd try to move on.
2006-08-11 04:26:44 · answer #10 · answered by six.pack.abs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋