My boyfriend and i have been going out for going on 8 months and he said to me that he is ready and he asked me but i didn't say anything to him. but all we do is start to kiss then he starts to thouch my legs and arms.the next day he text me when i was at the mall he asked me the same ? but he said he had to go so the next time what should i say? oh he is 16 and i am 15.
2006-08-11 03:37:22 · 50 answers · asked by Jasmine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok listen. what i say is be true to yourself do u think that your ready to give it up to him. Remember once it's gone u could never get it back...anyways, if u feel that it's time for the next step in the relationship then i would say go for it. but u should really be ready emotionally,physically and mentally...it's a beautiful thing i do admit but only if your ready. if your not then let him know and if he really cares about your trust me it won't matter if u don't want to. now if he dumps u because u said no then girl that was all he was going for. don't do it just to keep him around there should be no man ever that u should lower your standards for. i'm sure you'll make the right decisions. good luck!
2006-08-11 03:58:27 · answer #1 · answered by Pisces chik 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well the age issue is only a problem dpeneding on what your family background , culture or religious upbringing is. If your culture of religion strongly advises against doing this than maybe you hould stand back and take a look.
But if none of that is an issue than you should still think it through morally. There is nothing wrong with being sexual at the age of 15-16 unless it is illegal where you live. Most people this day and age are right in that same age range when they do it. But alot of them dont think it through.
So think it through and take your time deciding on what you want to do. Taking 6 months to decide yes or no, is alot better than deciding yes on the first day and then the next morning feeling like garbage.
Whatever you decide, just be as safe as possible that way you wont be regreting your decision 9 months later or if you catch something. A condom is 99% effective against pregnancy. And the only effective way to phelp prevent HIV besides not having sex. Disease can still be spread through oral contact as well even through the risk is not as great.
Hope this helps.
2006-08-11 04:03:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO WAY!!!!!!!! If you were ready then he wouldn't even have to ask, you are not ready if you are here asking us what you should tell him, tell him the truth, your not ready and he has already done it (I am sure and can promise you that) and you don't want to give it up to anyone yet....... If that is all he wants then he would be better off with a tramp or whore, because you are neither and he is being way to pushy!!!!!!!! Tell him your not ready to take the chance on Hiv aids and other sexually transmitted diseases....... and you are soooooooo not ready for a baby!! So if thats all he wants from you, then he needs to move on and kiss the whores hello and kiss you good-bye!!!!!!!! Good luck, and Blessed Be.......
2006-08-11 03:59:50 · answer #3 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your young and that's not a bad thing but chances are your not ready to take this step and there is nothing wrong with that its not some thing to be taken lightly nor is it something you should rush into and do just because he wants you to it sounds to me like that is all he wants from you right now and if that's the case cut him loose and move on because when its right you wont have to ask what to do you'll just know and will go with the flow don't let him pressure you into it Cherish yourself for the person you are and don't let any one take that away from you until you are good and ready
2006-08-11 04:04:05 · answer #4 · answered by lonly_male4u 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No i think you should really wait. He couldn't be the right one either and he could go around telling all his friends he had sex and who with...kids in school will go around calling you a s l u t and all that horibble stuff. You have got to think about this kind of stuff. Just cuz he is ready doesn't mean you are. He just maywant sex for all you maynot know. But think about your self here hunny...your too young to lose your virginity to some one who could be thinking about himself..talk to him and tell him how you really feel and that you are not ready for this. If he doesn't respect how you feel...dump him...cuz then that gives you an idea he doesn't care about you...he just wants sex.
2006-08-11 04:00:31 · answer #5 · answered by ♥mcmanda♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call me square or uncool if you want, but DONT DO IT. When I was in High School and about your age I seriously considered it with my boyfriend of 1 year. I finally gave in. It was once and then the relationship was over. Over time, I had premarital sex many times. They all ended in pain one way or the other. Even if they had not, I know now how precious my body is to me and to God. No matter how strong the temptation, you will be so proud of yourself if you save yourself for marriage. It may be uncool now, but I promise, promise, promise....don't do it, you'll regret it one day.
2006-08-11 03:59:58 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're both very young. You'll be better off waiting. Waiting for marriage is the best way, at the very least you should be in a committed lovingrelationship. It think it's very rude that he'd text you and ask you about losing your virginity like it's no big deal.
2006-08-11 03:57:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl you are just 15 for crying out loud.Let me tell you something even if there are condoms etc that will not make you sleep with him.Sleeping with him will take away ur virginity i suggest u tell him NO NO NO and NO he should be able to wait untill u are married to him>If u eventually sleep with him now, he will dump u and look for another fresh girl
2006-08-11 04:02:12 · answer #8 · answered by JLY 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yall are still too young to be fooling around..... I know your excited and dont know what to expect ..... By fooling around Now you will ruin the magic of it all...... Sex is wonderful and all but I dont think you want to be thinking 10 years from now .....damn I gave my first Time to that idiot :-s who only cared for me If I put out :-s
But Most Important.... while its true that your too young... You still are Old Enough Not to do anything Without Protection! Too many people fall into that trap and I'd hate to see you be one of them.
Don't RUSH it ..Wait for the Magic!!
Take Care Girlie.... Good Luck!
2006-08-11 04:00:27 · answer #9 · answered by D B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to be sure you are ready for this major step in your relationship. Do you have the kind of trust and respect for each other that it takes to maintain this kind of thing? Are your feelings towards each other genuine? I personnally think you are too young but people are different. You may or may not be mature enough for this sort of thing. Best of luck.
2006-08-11 03:56:30 · answer #10 · answered by Big Thinker 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋