towards me started to changed 1 year ago. He's like on & off. For simple thing i asked, he'll just get angry and said I'm too demanding and not being understanding. For the past few months, we still talk about our future together. How can a person said he love u deeply today and the very next day he just said he can't live with u anymore. He said he love me and will always love me.
After broke up, he still send me text message asking me how am I and telling me that he's sad. But when i plead n beg him for recomcilation, he just refused!
Is he a commitment phobe or what? I love him very much, what should i do now? Should i leave him for good? Please advise.
2006-08-11 03:11:47 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He told me its hard for him to leave me, but he's trying hard to. If he can't, he'll come back to me! Is he trying to pacify me or what? GUYS OUT THERE, what would make you to said this??
He even ask me to get find someone and get married soon as my age is catching up, i'm 25.
2006-08-11 03:36:02 · update #1
Wow, 6 years is a long time...it's unfortunate that this has happened. However, it sounds like he's not into such a serious comittment anymore. He's asking how you are because he still cares about you and it worried about how you're handling it. Of course he is sad, but this was probably something he needed to do- for his eventual happiness. If he was willing to stay comitted to you, then he would be. It's hard now, no doubt, but if he continued to stay with you and be hot and cold, then neither one of you would end up happy. I would be sad, rely on friends and family and try to move on. If you are meant to be together, you will end up back together. Relationships take work, and he obviously doesn't want to try anymore. Of course you both love each other, but love yourself enough to move on. You don't want him to come back to you because you cried and begged, he'll only come back becuase he felt badly, not because he wanted to. If it's going to work out, the two of you will come together.
2006-08-11 03:21:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He still wants the sex but wants to be single too. He's just saying that stuff because to he wants you to think about him still as your boyfriend so when he is ready then he can jump back in place with you. You said you guys were together for six years thats a long time speacially if you are a young couple. He just needs to think he can still pull chicks or whatever. Just be glad he had the respect for you to break up with you first. Don't answer his calls dont tell you love him anymore none of that the more you do things like that then the harder it will be and the longer he will be away.....
2006-08-11 10:27:22 · answer #2 · answered by de4life34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone who answer this question are correct
but something was left out
he might be text messaging u because its a habit that has yet to be broken
six years in a long time and to break a routine is hard
i suggest, leave him alone
right now he s confuse and doesnt know what he wants
and if u continue to go after him u r going to make ur self stress out
move on i know it s going to be hard but try to do it
and if he comes looking for u and u still want him
go for it
good luck
2006-08-11 10:37:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My sincere answer is that you are not that old (25+), plenty of time to look for a nice and good man. Better to leave your present boyfriend because on and off relationship have no good ending. Should you already commit sexual relation with him, then is another story. In this case, you better tolerate him because he is always advantage after getting your body.
2006-08-11 11:02:52 · answer #4 · answered by James Louis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not need to be in that situation. Something has changed him perhpas work, stress, friends, family life and it is making him push you away. Perhaps he is acting like this to force you to break up and he feels less guilty about it.
Just move on, it will take time and things will work out. You don't need nor deserve to be treated in such a manner.
2006-08-11 10:17:33 · answer #5 · answered by wingedgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
give him some space---always remember--absence makes the heart grow fonder----do not call him, or im him or email him....if he wants to chat with you he will do so....once u are out of the picture for a few days or weeks he will realize what he is missing.
2006-08-11 10:16:13 · answer #6 · answered by sunbun 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
move on....
if he really loves you, he won't act like that. there are many guys out there.
2006-08-11 10:17:47 · answer #7 · answered by makerunanrk 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋