at what age should you stop hitting your children?

Question

My wife thinks the kids are old enough to stop hitting them for punishment, but to be honest she sometimes deserves it herself.

sweetie: i would never hit them with objects like that

Answer 1

I'm 65 and I still beat my son.

Answer 2

You should never "hit" your children or wife. We merely call it spanking these days. You saying "hitting" really makes you look like a bad parent, even though I know what you mean. I am 21 yrs old and have 2 kids and my mother would still slap me if I said something out of line to her. I think there just comes a certain time in where you have to change your rules and start punishing them in a different way like grounding them, or taking stuff they really value away.

Answer 3

Spank, not hit. And not with your hand. Your hand is what you use to cuddle, wipe tears, brush hair, and bandage. Get a wooden spoon, switch, or skinny dowel rod, and use it only on the hineys, not naked bottoms (too humiliating for them), and never on your wife. Too old is when they move out. Otherwise, they are still under your guidance and protection, and sometimes that means protecting them even from themselves. Too many parents give up spanking just when their kids turn rebellious. That may be when they need it the most.

Answer 4

the age when they will hit you back...and probably give you a run for your money if it got out of control...so for a boy Iwould day about 12..and for a girl about 14

but you shouldnt hit your kids unless they cant understand what you mean verbally and this is usually the ages between 1-5

once they can really grasp what ma/dad wants them to do and they know they shouldnt do the opposite you dont need to hit them anymore and not necessarily HIT...more like a lil tap on their hands or buttocks or thigh or something...nothing drastic and no objects

if they dont listen to your word by then then you need to find other ways to get to them otherwise you'll lose them....besides punishments and restricting activities and revoking privledges works better than hitting

Answer 5

Hitting or spanking? There's a big difference. If it's spanking, the average child should have received their last major one by the time they reach their tenth birthday, but some other children demand to be spanked, and their wishes should be granted. I would say though, that by the time they reach 14, this method of discipline is no longer affective.

Answer 6

hitting should be a last resort, you should never hit your wife!. I never had to hit my kids are 10 and 8 well adjusted and do behave. My father always said the more you hit the more you have to hit the kids get use to it and it's a very primative poor parenting skill to use.

Answer 7

Bible says... spare the rod spoil the child. People wonder why kids turn out so bad. If they are old enought to mess up then they are old enough for the belt. If your kids are not afraid of you then they will never listen to you. You cant keep threatening them then never follow thru. I am not saying beat the crap out of them. But one firm whooping should do the trick everytime. Just the sound of the belt coming off and know what is about to happen is usually scary enough. That is IF you follow thru with it.

Answer 8

Children are not for hitting. How would you like it if everytime you made a mistake or didn't do what someone wanted... some guy twice or three times your size smacked you? I think you need to get help, especially if you think your wife deserves to be hit too. Sounds like abuse to me.

Answer 9

If you want your children to grow up thinking the way to resolve issues is by hitting, smaller, weaker, people you should always hit them. If you want them to live in an intelligent, rational manner, you should never hit them. People hit people because they are not smart enough to convey their wants and needs in such a manner that violence is not necessary.

Answer 10

spare the rod...spoil the child...we were spanked as kids and we turned out alright...Today's youth gets away with EVERYTHING cause the parents DON'T ~ there's a line between abuse and discipline....To spank a child on the fatty butt...MAY just teach them when they do something wrong... I don't mean to sound nasty but people who butt their noses in when a parent has a child acting out in public...the child needs a spank on the butt and a wait til you get home speech!!!

Look at the youth of today...my mother used to say IF I EVER SPOKE TO MY MOTHER/FATHER LIKE THAT ..I'd be picking up my teeth...I didn't back talk my parents and get away with it...and neither do MY children...There's that line...abuse is when You DON'T stop....but to spank when needed...It hurts my hand more than it hurts their butts!!!!

TIme outs, groundings and other simple punishments DON'T work for EVERY child....Taking things away only makes the child throw temper tantrums for the items taken...a quick spank on the butt...will let them know..IT ENDS THERE!!!

I DON'T NEED ANY NEGATIVE RESPONSES TO MY OPINION!!! SO DON'T BOTHER SENDING THEM TO ME!!!

Answer 11

when your child knows the difference right from wrong

Im a Filipino, and here we accept that the child needs to be punished by hitting so the child may learn.

The child learns to walk by knowing he needs to ballance himself or he falls down, learning to chew because whole food could not be swallowed.

Do you think by talking to a child that he/she made a mistake, he/she can understand why it is a mistake, because a child brain is not yet develop to register the words, a child remember physical pain and relate it to mistakes done.

Some adults upto now is confused, if you ask why they are confused, during childhood they did not understand the mistakes they have made before.