What do you prefer, love and emotion or stability and affection?

Question

I have a relationship that have been hapened for 4 years with a person that i love. And i meet somebody that makes me feel special, but with my boyfriend i have stability and many things that i don´t want to change. And this friend is completly crazy and he likes the things that i like too. So, i don´t know what to do exactly.

Answer 1

Stability and affection. That rush that you feel with the other guy is dangerous. You could be setting yourself up for a ride on an emotional rollercoaster. I would stick with my man that makes me feel special and is dependable. The grass always seems greener but at least you know how how your grass currently grows. Maybe there's more here than I could gather from your question. Just proceed with caution! Don't make any hasty decisions. Examine what you feel is missing within your current relationship. A valiant effort to work on what you already have might be wise.

Answer 2

Listen here I love emotion, passion and true love!!! I also understand you when you say you like the stability and the random affection b/c stability is important to me I don't like to be from one crazy relationship to another probably like you. But hey all these things are probably present in your four yr. relationship and you haven't noticed because when you say true love that also means stability loyalty and honesty and I bet you have that all rolled into one with this man. Now someotimes the passion and the crazy spontaniety may not always be present but it can be that its just that you two are in a bit of a rut and you need to go out more and try new things together to rekindle that flame, b/c it must be there if it has lasted so long. Passion is always there whereever true love is and so find it and run with it. The other guy is a charmer and ya' he makes you feel great but he's no that one that knows you inside and out and would do anything to make you happy. Let him, go out have a romantic dinner together and have great sex once again you will forget that other losers name in no time, I Promise!!!

Answer 3

You have to remember that new love is actually the explosion of endorphins in the body, which gives you this sense of euphoria. This is why new love feels so grand and we are so blinded at first to peoples true selves.
When you met your bf of 4 years, there was more than likely this same euphoric feeling. After the relationship becomes comfortable, the endorphins are not being produced as much, but if you have a stable and affectionate relationship with this person still then this is a good guy for you. letting yourself be swept up in these new emotions with this other guy is not only DISRESPECTFUL but dangerous. What do you actually know about this new one?
Use that brain of yours...

Answer 4

I can understand your dilemma, and I feel for you. It is really hard to get lucky and have everything you want in one relationship. I think that at one time or another most women have met someone other than their current someone who makes them feel a little special. The thing that you need to think about is that this new guy is the new guy: he's doing everything that he's supposed to right now because everything is all shiny and I'm assuming that he knows you have a boyfriend-he knows that you are already taken-this is exciting for him too, but it doesn't make it real. I know that you think this is love, but what it really is is emotion.

I'm not telling you to stay or leave your current boyfriend; what I am saying is that you need to think about what you are giving up for what you are getting. I'm also not telling you to trade love for stability. NEVER do that. But do think about what you really have with your boyfriend and what you really have with this other guy.

If you decide that your boyfriend is who you want to be with, then you need to leave this other guy alone.

Answer 5

Relationships become comfortable over time, its hard to tell if it is because of love or because we get used to it. I prefer the emotion or love feeling over the stability and affection, but is your 4 years worth risking over what is probably just a crush or feeling of newness? Think over the last 4 years and you can decide what you should do.

Answer 6

Stability

Answer 7

You have invested 4 years into this relationship, and your willing to toss it away, because some one comes along and pays a wee bit of attention to you in a way that your boyfriend doesnt anymore....

It sounds like your boyfriend should get a girl, who is not a "teenager" at heart, but, a mature woman...

You need to either grow up, or dump your present boyfriend and have a losing life for the rest of your life because every time some one "new" comes along and pays attention to you, your going to kick up your heels and dance with them all night and go home with them and when you get tired of them, then you will look for your "next thrill"...

If your smart, you will stay with your present boyfriend...and marry him!!

If your stupid, well, the you have the rest of your life to suffer through, and you wont have anyone, when its about done...

I wish you well..

Jesse

Answer 8

Just my two cents' worth of advice:
You should not have to give up passion for the sake of "stability and affection". It is okay to value all of those things, and hopefully these qualities will be attainable with the right person.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

ask urself is everything u've had with ur boyfriend worth a risk for a boy uve only now met howd u know if this new boy is as stable as ur boyfriend x good luck chik x