Yes I am ugly and nobody in this world loves me even my stupid ******* dad
He always shouts at me, make fun of me and humiliates me in front of my
Brothers and tells me how ugly I am and wishes that I wasn't born..
I just hate him so much.
Am entering the university next month which is far away from
Home so I will have to stay in an apartment (thank god)
I told my parents that I want to be a dentist then my dad told me that I should
Be a cleaner not a dentist because am ugly but am studying for free so
He can't stop me from being a dentist.
He treats me like **** while he treats my brothers like kings
Like when my little brother shouts at him he won’t say anything
But when I shout at him he gets mad and shouts at me and even slaps me
And threatens to kick me out.
To be honest I don't think I am that ugly but the way my dad and others
Treats me I feel that am so ugly
so people do you really think that i can have a happy life?
what should I do with him ?
2006-08-11 02:49:44 · 28 answers · asked by James 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
perseverence, endurance and patience . thats the key for sucess in ur life.
dont mind wat ur father says or wat the world says. if a person loves u then they will love u for who u are not for wat u will be for them.
and physical beauty is not everything in this world, beauty lies skin deep. its your heart that should be beautiful.
try speaking to a best freind or anyone close to u. it will help. do not bottle up feelings. it will harm u.
and dont worry about the world, u do wat u have to. when someone is inciting anger just leave the place, take a walk or get a nap. it will help. cry if u have to, if it helps.
but dont be a pessimist. get up and walk, show people that u r a step ahead. and enjoy life aournd u, enjoy positive people and their company. it will help u boost ur confidence.
ill pray to God that u may well soon get over this and be happy as u wish to be. all the best for ur bright and beautiful future. hope 2 see u someday on TV.
and when u do, plz drop me a message
2006-08-11 03:00:34 · answer #1 · answered by marissa 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Several things come to mind:
You are on the verge of starting a new life, don't take the hate with you, wish your family the best and move on. If you need counseling to do that, then take care of yourself and do it.
Secondly, I've seen people who are miserable and people who are happy. The happier ones don't necessarily have a better life, they mostly choose to be happy and when they are down help someone less fortunate. You might feel like you are the lowest person in the world right now, but there are people who are even lower.
I once hated my Dad for the way he treated me, but before he passed away I saw he was just a man with faults, just as his father was before him and just as I am, a person with faults. Whatever his reasons, and you may never know what they are, there are reasons for everyone, your Dad is what he is.
Now as a grown man with a new apartment and a chance at university, you have a great starting point to carry on in a positive way. You see the way you were treated, and perhaps it made you a stronger person, a more caring person, and someday you will treat your child with the respect you wanted and be a better father for it.
The choice is yours continue with the hate or get help, let go and move on.
P.S. Most women would rather have a beautiful soul in a man than a beautiful face, although it takes a while for some of them to figure that out, they do come around! Also, if something about your appearance truly bothers YOU (not your dad) perhaps a little self esteem boosting would help with a new haircut or new suit when you get to university.
May God bless you always with health, peace and much joy!
2006-08-11 03:15:30 · answer #2 · answered by T S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dorian, I know you might not believe me but it's true when I say, not all women judge a man by looks. The ones that do judge a man by looks tend to be really shallow, do you really want a girl like that? My boyfriend is not the best looking fellow out there but you know what? I don't give a f*ck because he treats me with so much respect, is smart, and actually loves me unlike the other douchebags I dated. It might be a while or might take the shortest time till a girl finally realizes that you are an amazing person. So please just have patience! Oh and a little tip, not all people will think you are ugly, everyone has a different idea of what they think is handsome. Hang in there!
2016-03-16 21:22:22 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fukc your father. he is not a good parent if he does all you say he does and if he does all that stuff i would venture to say that he is probably not the person who will give a truthful answer as to whether or not you're ugly. i think there is no reason you can't have a happy life, ugly or not. which ever it turns out that you really are.
if you want to be a dentist do it. and if you are unattractive you can still get a good looking wife (if thats what you're worried about) as lots of women are less caught up with looks and also dentists make a lot of money and some women like that.
2006-08-11 03:03:09 · answer #4 · answered by jesse r 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can have a happy life. You can make your life happy by chosing to do so. It's going to be easier after you stay far away from the people who make you feel inferior. I don't know why they treat you that way but I can sense you feel helpless (since you still live with your dad and still have to obey him) and angry. I wish you luck and hope you will manage to become a dentist. That will be a way to prove to everyone that you are better than they think. You might be feeling ugly because they tell you that. Learn how to ignore those insults or treat them like constructive critisms. You are entering university, stepping into adulthood. If you find it too hard to face the past then step forward into the future. Still, I think you should try to patch things up between you and your dad. If one day he asks for forgiveness from you, forgive him. After all, he's still your dad. For now, study hard and try to ignore those insults.
2006-08-11 03:12:44 · answer #5 · answered by alex 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, for one thing, you seem to be in a pretty good shape since you're able to speak openly about it and you recognize that your dad is the bad guy in all of this. So you have to cut him off from your life completely - not an easy thing, but many people had to do the same and lived happily ever after. Your sense of self-esteem seems to be in a decent shape, too, since you say that you don't find yourself that ugly, so it looks like you managed to keep your sanity and your mental health. Awesome. Frankly, I find it really odd that a father observes his sons' physical appearance and comments on it - I think that he has some really deeply suppressed issues, homosexuality is my 98% bet, on top of being just a plain ol' miserable, bad S.o.B. So, you're off to the university, he can't kick you out anymore, get on your feet and when you're ready, confront him and tell him to simply butt out of your life forever, no matter what. He might mind or not, but you'll feel better for the sense of closure you'll get. I find that phrases like "Oh, and if you ever get sick or need me for any reason... remember that I don't give a f**k and don't bug me." make it pretty clear and rub it in, how unwanted they really are.
So, of course you CAN have a happy life, all your problems are really with one person only, and your head is fine - get out and be happy.
2006-08-11 03:47:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep. But what is more important is everlasting life!
Getting away from your dad may be the best thing for you, at least at the moment...that is until (if) he ever realizes that you are his son, and he should love you no matter what. It certainly isn't your fault that your dad doesn't know how to treat his sons properly!
Go on and be a dentist, and if he doesn't want to talk to you or whatever because of it, you are better off. Live your life, but remember your Heavenly Father is completely different than the way your earthly father is!
2006-08-11 03:00:55 · answer #7 · answered by sarcrl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Outer looks are not as important as your heart. Through the pains and sufferings you have gone through God can make it blossom into a something beautiful if you let him. If you take these things and get angry it will only make you more ugly (your heart) and very bitter. If you learn how to forgive and use this suffering to something meaningful, you will become beautiful at heart. Forgive your Dad and show the love that he wouldn't show you. In the proverbs in the Bible one said "A soft answer turns away wrath" or something like that. My point is that it would do you ANY good for revenge, but only bitter and hatred.
It's not really right for me to say all these things because I haven't been really in you shoes. But I have gone through some things like being evacuated from the country I love, and other things. But I know that if I let God use it he will mold me into something worthwhile and beautiful. I will be praying for you!
Forgive and love!
2006-08-11 03:02:15 · answer #8 · answered by OnFireForJesus! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your dad needs to get on some meds and get some heavy duty counseling. I know it hurts, it always hurts when a parent is cruel, but you need to be strong and push away his insults. I hate to say it, but if if was my father, I'd leave for college and never go home again. You can be happy, I think the biggest obstacle is your father, get well away from him, and you should be fine. He'll come to regret his abuse of you, and you can forgive him then if you want, but until then, you're no whipping boy, just get as far away as you can and don't look back.
2006-08-11 03:06:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of his way as much as possible.
Go to uni. Get a degree. (Maybe work part time) and start your own life.
There are some real pathetic people in the world and we all have to live with them. But I guess it makes it harder if one of those people is your dad.
But anyway, look on the bright side, you'll be capable of handling yourself completely in a few years time.
Take period of life as a challenge. A test that will make you stronger for the lifetime of happiness you will have afterwards.
2006-08-11 03:02:23 · answer #10 · answered by Ranga 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you can have as happy a life as you want it to be.
Forget him. If he can't see the beauty inside you then that's his loss. He just lost a wonderful irreplaceable person.
I don't think you can be that ugly. YOU may not be ugly, he has just decided you are.
Forget him. You have your own life now.
I hope you become a great dentist.
2006-08-11 03:02:10 · answer #11 · answered by novagirl117 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋