I have been in a relationship for almost a year now and I feel that my boyfriend is starting to go in another room when I am in the same room with him. He is not cheating. I know this, but yet I still create these ideas of how he could and what he would do if he did. We cant afford counseling and moving out is not really an option because we both moved to a state (from different states) that we are not familiar with. Plus, Im in search for employment. I am starting to notice that I freak out and blow up if he goes into another room, if he wants to use my laptop, if he...just anything. I know its ridiculous but I cant stop feeling this way. He has never cheated on me before, but I have been cheated on before. How do I give my guy space and not feel so alone?
2006-08-11 02:48:53 · 7 answers · asked by Cocoa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have been cheated on in the past so your hypersensitive to everything. Any little thing that he does that does not include you starts panic inside of you. Those are your irrational fears. Because of that its hard for you to trust and rightfully so. What it all comes down to is that your never going to become this fully trusting person and you shouldn't. What you can do is decide to trust him. He has given you no reason so you have to make the decision within yourself that your going to trust this one person until they give you reason not to. Basically its either you do this or drive him away. Since you cant afford counseling why not read Dr. Phil's Self Matters ?
2006-08-11 02:58:43 · answer #1 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try hanging out with your friends more. If you dont have a lot of friends then get a hobby. You too can be in a successful relationship and not be around each other all the time. Sometimes guys just need to be with themselves for a while. It doesnt mean that hes cheating, or planning to cheat, or planning to break up with you.. it just means, he needs some alone time.
Try not to get consumed with the idea of him "cheating" that will not help anything.
2006-08-11 02:58:06 · answer #2 · answered by msadvicegiver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to be around someone 24 hours a day... everyone needs some time away from each other... I love my fiance a lot, but I don't want to spend every damn minute of the day with him, and I don't expect him to feel that way either...
2006-08-11 02:54:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should Trust him, God you can't just assume he will cheat on you, Just give him some space and he will be ok i don't like it when girls are always following me i like some time on my own maybe your BF does aswell.
2006-08-11 02:53:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to relax. find hobbies of your own. go for a walk, read, knit, something. stop turning nothing into something. if someone is going to cheat there is nothing you can do. being a spaz isnt going to help.
2006-08-11 02:53:53 · answer #5 · answered by mml619 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a professional counselor of some sort.
2006-08-11 02:52:47 · answer #6 · answered by wmp55 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just dont go into every room where he is. just give him some space to breathe.
2006-08-11 02:55:56 · answer #7 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋