Question about Christianity's stance on Gay Marriage?

Question

Agnostic here, not trying to convert anyone.

Christians have said they oppose gay marriage. They back this with such verses from the New Testement as Romans 1:24-27; and 1 Corinthians 6:9. Clearly after reading these verses we see that God doesn't want gays to marry is an interpretation of the New Testement.

We read this in the NKJV of Matthew 5:32 But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.

So to Christians who feel passionately about gay marriage, why have you not stood up for Jesus (PBUH) and lobbyed for legislation to ban remarriage?!?!?!

I think we see clearly in Matthew 5:32 how Jesus feels about divorced persons getting married, how come you feel its so important to push for stopping gays from getting married but you don't try and stop legislatively the divorced persons from getting married?

Answer 1

Jesus said it was an abmination but he still loved homosexuals. So the words I go by for sinners is "Love the sinner hate the sin"

Answer 2

Unfortunately the media controlls what the public sees. We do protest these things, but the media chooses what it wants to let you see and then twists the story the way they see fit.
I have always said that things like heterosexual couples who live together unmarried or just have sexual relationships are just as guilty for disobeying God. But, moreso, these kinds of relationships cause more social problems than we realize.
Things like fatherless children, disease, social problems, kids not paying attention in school, but paying attention to their relationship.

But in this specific scripture, you are missing one serious point. Two people who are not Christians and married don't fall under this commandment. If they get a divorce and re-marry, it doesn't matter because God never honored their marriage to begin with.
They don't consider marriage a covenant with God. I don't care how big the church is or how expensive the wedding was. These people get married and divorced at the drop of a hat. The last thing on their mind is if God is pleased with their lives. So, their marriage is only a marriage through the law of man, not the law of God.

Gay marriage is just an outright abomination, but it's the inevitable outcome in a sinful society. It's confusing to children and abusive to children adopted in such a household.
If it can be stopped, it still won't stop them from being gay and living together. Christians are frightened by it because it is a sign of the end times. We know the prophecies and what is going to happen during these times. It is going to be a time of great suffering for everyone.

I think that the reality is that sin is becoming such a snowball effect, that eventually we are going to sin ourselves into a complete pagan society which will lead to our downfall.

I fear for our nation and what will happen in the next 50 years. History has proven that the most prosperous nations are the ones that follow God and the sinful ones are the ones that fall apart.

The bible supports that fact in history with scripture. It says that righteousness exalteth a nation and sin is a reproach to any people.

We will suffer for our sins. I hope I die or Christ comes back before we fall apart.

Answer 3

I do know several pastors that will not perform a second marriage because of this scripture. There are several other scriptures as well on divorce. Did you study those as well? If a spouse is not a christian and the other one is, they can bring them to the Lord.
If an unsaved spouse leaves, let him go.
If there is adultery in the marriage, divorce is acceptable.

I am a remarried Christian. My first husband vilely abused me and my children. We were neither Christian at the time. I stayed to make a one husband home, for the kids etc. Thinking that was the best.
Know that I am a Christian, I cannot see where God held that marriage anymore valid than a gay marriage. My husband constantly cheated on me, flagrantly I might add. In addition too many physical ,sexual and emotional scars.

Now that I have remarried, in a Christian marriage, the whole game is different. I am bound by a different set of rules. What I have is of the Lord, I cannot compare the two.

Answer 4

Another good question! Not all remarriages are adultery and sin. All gay marriages are sinful and a abomination to God.
What about Sodom and Gomorrah? This should be a guide to all homosexuals. God detest the act of homosexuality, not the person. When people refuse God over and over again there will be a price to pay. Not just for homosexuality, but all sin. God is long-suffering and slow to anger. I guess sometimes, enough is enough. Some people think that God is cruel and impatient and blame any bad happenings on God. Are we suppose to be able to do and say anything and God look the other way, every time?
I guess I got a little of track, but I think you get the jest of it.
I do want to let you know that 99 percent of the time your questions are VERY thought provoking. I may not agree with you but your questions inspire me to get my Bible out and dig for information and answers.
Thanks. :)

Answer 5

Oh Sal,
(Sigh)
The evil liberal media tsk, tsk
So let me get this straight just for clarification;
Heterosexuals are causing moral decay by living together and divorcing- they all leave fatherless children, disease and social problems in their wake. Okay got that.
Next we have people who divorce, which I agree people should stay in marriages and try and work them out, but if things are overwhelming and can’t be resolved (even if they are Christians) their marriage is never honored by God. There marriage is no longer a sacred covenant with God. So people should stay in marriages that make them and their families wholly miserable to keep God happy. I understand now,
Gay marriage is an abomination; although ironically the separation rate between gay couples is surprisingly low. They are abusing children by bringing them into their household? Did you know that most children that are adopted by gay couples are children that are in the foster system, that are difficult to adopt because they are older or have backgrounds that are less than stellar? These children’s lives are changed for the better, and most love their new life. The snowball effect of sin. Hmmm what about the snowball effect of intolerance? Where will that lead us?

Answer 6

Good point... Christians love to pick and choose what parts of the bible they want. But at the same time, they claim that the bible is 100% truth.

You can't have it both ways!! Either go with the bible 100% (you know, don't wear polyester and stop eating that shellfish or you'll go to hell) or not at all.

By the way, marriage isn't a religious issue in the U.S. It can be, if you so choose, but it doesn't have to be. You can get married legally without religious involvement by a judge. Therefore, Christianity should have no say in the marriage process. Leave the bible out of it.

Answer 7

Your interpretation is a little skewed.
If a divorce happens because she let's say couldn't keep the house clean is not a valid reason for divorce.
Follow now,
Since in God's eyes she is still married because she did not commit adultery.
[any reason except Sexual immorality]
[If this causes her to commit adultery]
The man that marries her the second time is committing adultery because the first two are still married.
[A woman who has divorced commits adultery]
Marriage is suppose to be in God's eyes.
Divorce has been too easy to get.

Parables have to be studied to break it down into understandable sayings.
Was that easy or what?

Answer 8

I think a one-shot marriage manifesto is needed. Be you hetero or homo, male or female, you get one opportunity in the civil union state of matrimony. I heard of a woman, that was a good house keeper, she was married seven times, and kept the house all seven times. That is no sacrament.

Nor were benefits/penalties set in the tax system with gay in mind. Do people honestly believe that the decisions to give tax deductions to married people was to oppress or deny anything to gays? I believe it was set up to favor married people over single people, which has many socially redeeming qualities. But it would really be stretching to say that it was a moral decision against gay.

Answer 9

For me, the most important aspect of the gay marriage issue is that I think by trying to ban it, that would be a conflict of the seperation of church and state, therefore, it should be allowed legally.

I believe there are rules against remarriage and/or divorce in the Catholic church, but I can't be sure since I'm not Catholic.

Answer 10

Interesting...........
As far as gay marraige, marraige is between a man and a woman. However, I do believe that two people commited to one another, regardless of gender, should have a legal union that allows them to all the advantages and disadvantages that my husband and I have. (Such as we can make life or death decisions for one another, and also deal with the marraige penalty on our taxes)
Way I figure it, if you get it, you need to get all of it.

Oh and I believe marraige is for life.