our relationship was good but for unknown reason he broke up with me.i was in pain but slowly i started recovering & got back to studies. 2 days back he called me & as i loved him a lot i could'nt say anything & just started talking. today also he called me .i love him a lot but i can't understand the reason why he wants to contact me. i'll b e heartbroken if he ditches me this time. tell me how shd i ask him the reason why he wants to talk to me & shall i talk to him or not? we both r in different sections of class 9 in same school. he is very casual & filrty with his classmates. this was also the reason for our fights as i don't like this . please help please..
2006-08-11 02:11:14 · 16 answers · asked by beautiful babe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey u have to be really careful...Never..ever take such Guy's word..I'm sure that he has taken u for granted...only reason for his behaviour is bcaz only u love him and he doesnt love u the way you love him.....If he can break up with u once,wats the guarantee that he wudnt leave u again for some damn reason...Understood that u love him a lot...but what will u do if ur love is not reciprocated back..??
Maybe ur guy's motto in life is the so called playboy's quote " Variety is the spice of life"....Do u want to fall prey for all his emotional,physical needs....Moreover u r still in class 9 i feel that at this age of yours...u wudnt be able to decide wats good and bad......So at present just ignore him.dont talk to him.....If his love is true then u will know if it is really meant to be or not to be !!!
2006-08-17 00:49:30 · answer #1 · answered by zooni 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't accept or return his calls, you've started moving on and you should continue to do so. Remember: he broke up with you without providing a reason...this means he did NOT value you at all! That is rude and disrespectful and how do you know that he won't do it again? BECAUSE HE WILL!!!! Stay as far away as possible!! There are guys out there who won't leave you & if they do..they will give you the consideration and respect that ending a relationship deserves!! Good luck!!
2006-08-11 09:19:09 · answer #2 · answered by beautifully broken 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be up front with him. Tell him "look last time you really hurt me because I had no idea anything was wrong and you broke up with me unexpectedly. I dont want to get hurt again so I need to know what happened before and your motives now before we take this any further." Or something along the lines of that. Just be truthful but also be guarded be cause right now you dont really know his intentions. Good luck. Keep in mind you need to be happy. Don't sacrifice your happiness for his.
2006-08-11 09:21:35 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi,
well my advise is that u should ignore him, don`t talk to him, don`t return his calls...concentrate on your studies.... u might find this a bit difficult at first because u love him, try to harden yourself because he is only playing with u.... if he says he still loves u then ask him is he is willing to change his attitude with his other classmate and also ask him for the reason of your breakup... if u still love him and fing a change in his attitude then u might want to give him a chance, but if u do that, then be careful because u might end up with another heartbreak... the best solution is to ignore him, let him see how that feels and concentrate on your studies and u might find someone better than him...
good luck
take care
2006-08-11 09:30:10 · answer #4 · answered by vedz666 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Last time you didn't get toknow why he left you...so you didn't get closure...so yes, i guess you should talk to him again and ask him why he is calling you and what he wants from you...listen to his reasons...
If you are conviced with his reasons, then you can decide whther you can give it another try...
If you are not convinced, then YOU will tell him to stop calling and that you want nothing to do with him...
In both cases, you win...you either get back into a relationship with him on "your" terms, or you decide not to go back and you end the relationship with him once and for all....
2006-08-11 09:35:54 · answer #5 · answered by Need Help! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay away with him as it takes lot of time to recover may be he want to make sexual relations ,ignore him and talk to some one else who is not as attractive as he is , it will give him a thought for not to play with hearts
2006-08-11 09:26:00 · answer #6 · answered by Vineet S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all ..suppose u were in true love.u woudlnt b askin this..as u wud b clear of evrythng wht he wants frm u..n wht u xpect frm him..as u have somedoubts ....stay ALERT...well as u said he is somewht flirts wid his classmates...well i thnk he ucd b jst frnds wid them...as u his gf u cud b over reactin out thr..as usually girls dnt like to c their guy wid other girls...and..as u said u dnt like his beahvaiour wid other girls..by now if he really loved u...he wudnt b actin so stupid as hw he is actin now..n Secondly thr is no harm in jst talkin to him..n askin him whts goin on?..y is he behavin like this.....and Thirdly..i thnk u really young...n its imp for u to concentarte in ur studies rather in other thngs..as u have a long way to go...
2006-08-11 10:46:36 · answer #7 · answered by Chweet_alien 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r young so it might be he wants to be friends again
and perhap something could grow out of it
now if u are scare to talk to him cuz of fear of getting hurt again
then take more time to heal then allow contact
good luck
2006-08-11 09:37:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u r ready for another heartbreak go ahead and get back with him.
2006-08-11 09:23:53 · answer #9 · answered by ana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should not go back to him, if you do, he WIIL brake up whith you again, the perfect boyfriend wont do a thing like that.
2006-08-11 09:43:24 · answer #10 · answered by sohail k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋