Should I go for it??

Question

There is a man. We've known each other for a long time. He's 13 years older than me though. I really like him and he's really sweet. But we've actually never hung out alone. His parents are friends with my parents and thats how we met.

We talk through email alot. But he always thinks I'm being moody or something and I'm not. I want him to see the real me but I don't know if he wants to see the real me.

He's been hurt real bad before and so have I. He said he wanted to date me, but he's never actually made the effort.

Should I try to prusue this or should I just drop it and move on??


Please help.

I'm 20 years old by the way.

Answer 1

Firstly I would like to say to you, take a good look at yourself as an individual and see if you are ready to start some form of a relationship with someone 13 yrs older than you. I know we all have preferences.

Secondly, you mentioned that he has been hurt previously. As a person he deserves a fair chance as you cannot base your decision solely on his past experience. There are other things which are very important like your moral beliefs, if he shares them he has the potential to be a wonderful partner. With all this said, it is important to establish if your are willing to help him deal with his past if need should arise. You need to be prepared to face challenges.

My advise is not follow your heart, but count the cost. Are you willing to live with this. Good luck and God Bless

Answer 2

Life is short, do what ever feels right. I have been with 2 girls that were way younger than me, the first one was 18 when i was 30 and we had great time together. the other was 20 and we had nothing in common. we couldn't keep a conversation going. I don't regret going out with either one. As a matter a fact i would do it again in a heart beat

Answer 3

Why wonder what would have happened if you did try.....if you both feel the same way, go for it. Go on a date with him, it does not have to be anything elegant, do something fun like a amusement park. Just so you can get to know each other and get the feel of things, it may pay off in the end!

Answer 4

If you're both old enough sure, go for it. I would subtely ask him out via an e-mail message, tell him that you'd like to meet somewhere and just chat. Upon returning home write him a nice e-mail letting him know how much you enjoyed your time alone together, that you didn't know he had such varied interests, that you can hopefully see each other again, etc.

Answer 5

I know the times are changing, women can make the first move, but in this case i think you should let him make the first move. It sounds to me that he has not really made effort to show you that he really likes you. If he wants you, he will make the first move.

Answer 6

As long as you are at least 25- go for it. Otherwise- you're too young for him. Don't make a big deal out of asking him for a date. Ask him is he's seen a movie that you might both have an interest in- if he hasn't seen it- Say "hey, we should check it out!"

Answer 7

what u want with a guy that's 13 years older than u thats nasty

Answer 8

ive never dated a guy bfore but u very lucky to have dat oppurtunity and also f uve known someone dat long u SHOULD definitly ask him if he wants too tke it a step further-i kno i would

Answer 9

age is a difference so your 7

Answer 10

if you really like him then make the effort to ask him for a date...then and there you'll find out if you really click and you'll get to see if it's worth to pursue your feelings to him. Goodluck!!!