Of course its depression! Most of your answers are so samey, try harder, stop saying see a doctor?

Question

I am seeing a doctor.
It is depression.
Im 28
I might be getting divorced soon
Im facing a jail sentence
I might become homeless
Im not eating i feel so worthless
Ive phoned the samaritans, they just listen
Ive tried mind, they just listen
I do read, im only less pi**ed off for that small time
I have no job, i am trying to find one.
I have no family.
I have few friends
The police are allways on my back
I fear people, they have been randomly and personally attacked me b4.
I live in fear, and i have numerous good reasons to live in fear.
My home has been set on fire, my car vandalised.
My parents left me
My mther mentally abusive
I HATE LIFE

so stop saying doctors and medication and it could be worse(of course it could) now is quite bad enough thank you

how do i live from day to day
when absolutely nothing is certain
in a week i might be divorced, in prison, homeless, dead

Wont someone, anyone say something they didnt hear on sally jessie, or dr phill?

Answer 1

Some ideas and opinions based on my own experiences, advice I was given, and facts I read in various books e.g. nutrition books.

1) The Samaritans can still be useful.I was a volunteer for a while. Someone I know benefited from their help.

2) Communicating with a range of people on a range of subjects is very important for all of us to help normalise us. I was told that by medical people trying to help me. I did it. You are doing it using a keyboard like me. Friends have to be tended to like plants. Some die, or lose interest or become fanatical about something that I feel is weird.
I try to be ready to make new friends, because of "natural wastage".

3) Eating good food instead of junk food gives energy needed to tackle living. Coax yourself to eat. For me, certain foods are both healthy and tempting if I really have lost my appetite e.g. tinned salmon, yoghurt, orange juice. Only your own list would be of any use, though. I use vitamin B complex and C to tackle activities demanding a lot of mental concentration or stress.
Fibre helps to keep blood sugar level normal. Blood pressure and blood sugar seem to strongly affect energy levels.

4) For some people, listening to music and watching films occasionally is good.

5) Exercise is very useful to enable anyone to sleep. Sleep seems to heal. On one of the occasions when I was depressed, I walked until my feet were sore. Miles. Then my body was tired enough to allow my mind to rest, a bit.

6) For some people (me for example) books have been a help e.g. ones by Anthony Robbins. I judge from some of his writing that he is not just some klutz.

7) Doing normal things like washing, shaving etc. are essential in the search for interesting work.

8) I have a specialized hobby - Maths. I also give private tuition in Maths. I now have 25,000 pages of notes. In years past I found that it helped my depression lift.

9) Almost never use sleeping pills. 99.99% of the time, there must be a better way to tackle need to sleep. Many people probably worry much too much about insomnia.

10) If you are religious, prayer may help. If not, dont.

Answer 2

I'm so sorry about all of that, you sound like your in the same situation my father was in a few years back.

First is first, getting a job is important. Keep looking, and I'm sure that you'll find something. Even if it is in fast food, just try to get all of the money that you can. Save every bit of it! For food, you need to eat, hun. If you don't, you'll feel more depressed (that's a fact). Buy the cheapest stuff you can get at a discount store (we have a store called Aldi around my house that almost everyone goes to because you save so much freaking money there).

If you have an impending prison sentance, try to start cleaning up your act. I don't know what you did, but I'm sure that you can start cleaning up whatever you DID do. If cops are on your back, they might see that you are trying to clean up things and be a better person. It'll help.

Next off, the whole divorced thing. If you and your spouse are getting a divorce, it's pretty much too late to do anything about it. Accept it for now, and mourn once you have time and the money to. Keep on working, it'll keep you from thinking about your home status.

After my parents split six years ago, I was depressed, too. Not as bad as you seem to be, but I was still very upset. I refused medicine, too, because I thought that it was unnecissary. I haven't been depressed since the day I stopped taking meds. In your case, though, I would still take medicine, just to even out your mood and make you think a little more clearly untill your feet are back on the ground.

Hun, everything will be okay. A lot of people go through tough times and pull through, and I'm sure that you will, too. Keep eating, get a job (any job for right now), and pray. I think that you'll be out of the woods fairly soon. Give it a month, you'll be okay. Keep a smile on and keep up!

-Lella^_^

Answer 3

I hate to have to tell you this but I don't watch sally or dr. phil and from experience and I'm 59 years old and going through much of what you are. I even attempted suicide 2 months ago! A therapist and psychiatrist to give you medication is the only answer. Other than that, as horrifying as your life is, and so is mine, please believe that. You have to get through each day one day at a time. It's hard, God it's hard, but do things that will take your mind of all the sh** in your life. Try to be with people who might not know about your life. Do some volunteer work and help people who are, believe it or not worse off than you are, like disabled people. I've been volunteering at a nearby Group Home for the mentally retarded two days a week doing an Arts and Crafts hour and they love it! It takes my mind off the horror of my life. Good Luck to you and I really mean that. God Bless...

Answer 4

You need to stop trying to get attention. You do need to see a doctor. This is nothing more than a forum of random, bored people reading, answering, and asking questions. Why don't you try to seek the help of a professional and if you actually are, as you say you are, already seeing one, get a different one.

But, hey think of it this way...if you get put in jail, you definitely won't be homeless and they'll have work for you to do on the inside, so you won't have to worry about that either.

Also, just because you have done stupid things to make all this crap build up on you, does not mean you are depressed. You are probably going through a bout of depressive symptoms, but depression itself is long term and does not just happen because your life is "going wrong" at some point. I would also say that you are a sociopath rather than depressed, in which case you belong in jail. (I have been a student of psychology for quite some time and am working in a professional setting in the field now is where my information comes from).

Answer 5

Hmmm nothing i or anyone else can say anything that is going to transform your life, all i can think of is to deal with one problem at a time. Often one problem is the cause of all the others or you may sort one thing out and realise your not actually that worried about the other stuff, hope that makes sense!! What is the most pressing issue? I think you need to sort out your living situation first, its very easy for me to say but put the other things on the back burner until that is sorted. Take one day and one problem at a time. I have suffered from depression and i found it useful to make a list (like you have above) and deal with each one as best i could. Trying to get my head around everything at once didnt work for me. Good luck with everything xx

Answer 6

all you can do is put your head down and fight through, take the time you have to decide where you want your life to be, what do you want to do with it, and then work out how you are going to make it happen. only you know what makes you happy, maybe moving to a new area to settle would ease a lot of pressure on you and you can lay to rest old memories and start over again. i was in a mess a couple of years ago, my marriage was going down the bog, i lost my job, my confidence and i felt like you do now. i attempted suicide and was fully ready for the escape route it offered, but someone got to me just in time, i was less than a minute from death and lucky that oxygen starvation didnt leave me brain damaged. i was sectioned and the help and reassurance i got was fantastic, it certainly taught me that there is always someone in a worse position and that tomorrow is another day. try writing about the things in your head and also see a psychiatrist so you can ' clean out your closet' . i hope your life turns mate, good luck and chin up.

Answer 7

The answer is evidently one only you can find. It's not people's fault their advice isnt helping. I sympathise, I really do, but what is it you want from us? What to do you want for yourself?

I would still imagine your best chance lies with doctors and medication, stick with whatever they are suggesting, it is long term rather than short term solutions they are offering.

You are describing the world we all live in. I could be dead before the end of the day, we all could.

Divorce happens if one person or the other lets it. If it is something you dont want, fight for it (not literally), but if it is a lost cause, cut your losses and move on to find what it is that was missing ehre elsewhere.

People who are abusive are people you dont need. Remove them from your life.

If you are to be put in prison, I can only assume you are guilty. I find it hard ot be sympathetic as almost all crime leaves a victim in some way. On the plus side, you might get the help you need in prison, it may give you working and acoomodation oppurtunities you did not have before. It is a way (not a good one, but a way none the less) to the support systems in place that can help.

Good luck, but its your fight - not anyone elses. Fight it hard.

Answer 8

It sounds like you have many problems, but I don't hear or read about your positives. We can all sit around and boo hoo about the things we don't have in life and wish that we did and feel even more miserable for what we don't etc.etc. But this kind of behavior is a never ending one that continues to feed on each other and make us feel more worthless and depressed.

Focus on your positives and not your negatives. Focus on the good points you possess and acknowledge all your accomplishments and feel good about them!

Make a list of all the people and situations that make you feel depressed and sad. Each time you write them down, ask yourself if you can change any of there outcomes? If the answer is no, then let it go. Harboring strong dislike and hatred is not going to help your situation at all.

Make another list of all the people and situations that make you feel happy and give you comfort. Concentrate on those and allow yourself to feel more confident in them.

Feel good and grateful for the abilities you have. Such as: the ability to see, hear, think and speak. So many people out there are born blind, deaf and mentally challenged and cannot do what you can do.

Feel grateful for the ability to use your arms, legs, feet. For so many people are born without limbs and don't ever know the joys of using their own limbs. Be grateful your not in a wheelchair or bedfast somewhere. Acknowledge your abilities to use your fingers and hands to type and other things. For there are so many people out there who can't use their hands whether by a birth defect or a accident or stroke.

Not everyone does well with therapists and psychiatrists. But there are other people out there you could talk too. You should have someone, for everyone needs someone in their lives. You could go to a pastor, priest, victim services, your family doctor, a trusted friend, a neighbor, a family member, there's got to be someone you can confide in to help you sort out your problems of the past and the present.

Do you believe in God? Do you believe in His son Jesus Christ? Do you accept the Lord Jesus Christ as your personal Lord and Savior and that He died on the cross for your sins? Jesus is a wonderful source for comfort and acceptance and love. He of all people know what it is like to be treated like an outcast. He cares and loves you very deeply. Believe in Him and cast all your problems on Him and He will be with you always.

Good luck to you and I hope you feel better soon!

Answer 9

Honey, your life is horrible and i would not like to be going through what you are going through right now and i am not going to pretend that i can even begin to imagine how you are feeling. There is nothing any of us can say to you that is going to make you feel better or take your problems away. I wish there was. You are angry now and that is OK!! Scream, shout you have every right to!! Listening to your problems is all any of us can do, we cant take them away but sometimes it does help to talk to get some of the frustration out. Who are these people who are putting you in danger. Have you phoned the police? Go to the social work department and tell them all about this and ask them for help to find some safe accommodation. I really wish i could wave a magic wand and make your problems go away honey but there is no magic solution. Your main priority right now is to find some place safe to go. Please, please go and seek help from the social work dept and tell them you fear for your life. Honey i hope ever thing works out for you and feel free to contact me if you need to sound off. Good luck xx

Answer 10

You are a mess, yours is a tuff case. No-one can give you a good answer for your issues without knowing the whole story. Life sucks sometimes, you have to look at any good in your life to make you want to be alive. Although you seem to have allot of bad in your life, there must be something in you to want to make your life better. That is a good sign that there is something there, you may need someone to help you to discover what it is and blossom it into a better life for you. A positive attitude from a person and a good listener may be all you need to correct your unhappy life to something you can develop into a happy life for you.