I was trying to end it because I'm 16 (he's 17) and my mother is very overprotective and doesn't want me seeing him anymore because she says it's getting too serious. She also thinks he's too much of a sissy guy for me to date. Last night I was telling him I don't think the relationship will work out and then he said he loved me and he won't let anything stand in the way.
I don't feel 'love'. I feel bad that I'm not saying it back. What do I do? And why won't he just let me end it?
Guys are so... meh.
2006-08-11 01:25:33 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You end it.
This guy is too young to know that he loves you.
He sounds like a looser and I would listen to your parents.
2006-08-11 01:28:08 · answer #1 · answered by Texas Cowboy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You must have made this boy grow some serious feelings for you. But im kinda stumped on how you were ending it and all of a sudden he says "I Love You" I would find that very weird. I understand what you mean about not saying "I Love You" back to him (I had a guy who did that to me me too and I had to end it cause he was a big sissy) but if you really do want to end this, you gotta do it now because if you wait your going to grow impatient and throw a fit when you break up with him (and we dont want this to get ugly) so tell him straight out...but do it when you two are somewhere quite and alone... dont be mean, just tell him you have no more feelings for him and that things should end for the better...if he really does love you he will understand.
Good Luck!
2006-08-11 01:31:59 · answer #2 · answered by HideAnotherMistake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet he sensed where you were going with your conversation and was desperate to keep you so said "I Love You" and may have not meant it either. Go ahead and end the relationship with him, you only have control of how YOU feel not anyone else, so if YOU are not feeling that this is the right relationship for you (even what your mom says or wants should not be your deciding factor), then end it and move on. Tell him, that though he is nice and you have had fun, you want to move on. I know that he may feel you are being cruel but it is more cruel to string a guy along with the hope that you will change how you feel.
2006-08-11 01:36:59 · answer #3 · answered by Dino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm wondering what you want. Do you really wanna end it or do you because your mother tells you so? At least he's gained some points with your mother for not letting you end it: he's not such a sissy after all :)
But if you don't love him, live's quite simple: tell him so, if needs be in a letter or e-mail. Don't return his calls, don't go out with him anymore, and find yourself a new bf.
2006-08-11 01:30:20 · answer #4 · answered by pete_can_do 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your mother said he's too serious and is a sissy guy. What do you say? If you do not feel anything for him, get out of the relationship now. It will be harder later. Like your moms says, he is to serious, you are to young. Get out now!
2006-08-11 01:35:22 · answer #5 · answered by wilfredo a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you feel bad that you can't say it back. You either love him or you don't. There is one thing that can stand in the way and that is you. It takes two to tango babe. Don't forget he can't stop you from doing anything including ending it. It would not be a good idea to prolong this situation. That would end in a not very good way.
2006-08-11 02:38:40 · answer #6 · answered by omvg1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, he cannot force you to love him. Saying he won't let anything stand in the way isn't right, what's he going to do, force you to be in a relationship with him?
If your Mom doesn't want you seeing him, and you live in her house, you don't really have a lot of a choice.
You're not a bad person for not saying it back, if you did say it back, it'd be a lie. You're right not to say it back.
Good luck sweetie.
2006-08-11 01:42:35 · answer #7 · answered by Pixie-elf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't love him then break up. He will get over it, sooner or later. he used the "L" word to try to hold to you and you can not let him do that to you. Be careful though, hope you don't have a very obsessive one your hands, that could spell big trouble. If he is Phyco, tell a police officer so that someone knows he bothering you, that way something is on record. Put your fears on record, write a letter and mail it back to yourself and don't open it, It is now an official record. Good luck to you, and God Bless
2006-08-11 01:38:22 · answer #8 · answered by sillyredhead 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey run from him, . Tell your mom what he said and ask her to help you get away from him. Trust me a 17 year old does not understand the meaning of love if he says that. He would respect your parents desire to protect you from what you are not ready for . and You are not ready at 16. Love is dedicating your life at it full potential to serve and protect your better half. Your comments tell me you are not ready for that. Enjoy your teen years and learn as much as you can to better prepare yourself for real life and the man of your future which may or may not be this young man. If it is him, it will not hurt either of you to cool it until you are ready , and prepared for life. That equals education, commitment to any children you may have , knowledge of how to raise those children to be good citizens. A job that will give you an adaquate living. Options incase your job falls through. Trust me you have your whole life to persue a love match. but only a few more years to prepare to be ready for that commitment. Use them wisely . Enjoy
2006-08-11 01:37:04 · answer #9 · answered by diane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was a last ditch desperate attempt to keep you from breaking up with him. Are you breaking up because you want to or because your mom wants you to? What are you going to do when you get to college, or out on your own? You should be making your own decisions on relationships. Advice is good, but the decision is yours.
Be firm, look him in the eye, tell him you don't love him, it's over.
He will get the idea.
2006-08-11 01:32:46 · answer #10 · answered by 006 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because he said that he loves you doesnt mean that you are obliged to say the same thing--especially if its not true. i think your mom is right that you shouldn't date this guy anymore. mothers know best and you should follow her advice. she's gone through that already. if she's being overprotective of you, that's not because she doesnt want you to enjoy yourself. it's just that she doesnt want you to get hurt and that's for your own good. so i suggest you just follow her advice and dont worry about that guy...he's not worth your time or your love. always remember that true love waits.
2006-08-11 01:38:27 · answer #11 · answered by Jacqueline 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋