I cannot forget bitter memories and I cannot get rid of them. I feel pain when I think about all injustice that has been done to me and for all bad things I cannot change.
I feel pain and because of that I cannot make fresh new start. Any advice?
2006-08-11 00:49:34 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok.. i need u to understand this phrase right now..
"whats done is done.. there's no turning back.. no point looking at the closed door...!"
yes... of couse u cant get the memories (bitter or sweet) out of u... ur not a computer.. like u can erase anything by just clicking on it... we r humans...
but....
u need to understand another thing...
we, humans have heart...
yes.. u can choose to store whatever bad memories u have in your heart.. a special place... deep inside ur heart core... so deep as tough u cant take it out anymore... not even mentioning or thinking of it..!
i know its kindda difficult for u to understand what i am trying to say here...
well.. maybe u will know more with my story...
my bf and i broke up 2 years ago.. for another girl...
well... for me it hurts alooot..!! he's like the onlee guy i'd fallen so deeply..
okays... time passed.. my wounds eventually healed.. of course.. like i said, we're not computers..!
there r still memories inside...
sometimes, i think bout him, i miss him so crazy i cried...
sometimes i can just go on with my work like he's totally outta my mind..!
my emotion got mixed up.. i dont know how to manage my feelings...
later on, time taught me something..!
i kept him in this special place in my heart..
its as though the "him" i loved is dead...
he's a completely new person..
onlee with "his" body...
well... i put him in my "impossible list"
the list where i dont even dare to dream to be with him again..
guess what..!?
i felt happier this way... it works.. it really do..
i dont know what exactly happened to u..
is it love? or is it family...?
well... whatever that takes place... please be tough
face the fact...
life's like choosing which path to walk..
now u hv no choice but to walk on this tough road...
its might be short.. and it might be long..
but i am pretty sure that if u dont walk on...
ur not going to reach the smooth ones..
ur not going to know what will happen...
here, i wish u all da best..
whatever ur decisions is...
live life to the fullest..!
patience is virtue... even the toughest rock looses its shape under the constant running water
2006-08-11 01:13:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am right there with you - believe me. The only thing I can advise is to keep on trying to purge yourself of the bitterness & hurt. Time helps - it's really the only thing that does - & that takes forever sometimes. When you begin to dwell on your hurt & the slights done you, try to concentrate on a positive thing in your life. For every negative thought, try to find a positive. If you live with that pain you'll either lose all of your joy & never find it again or you will go insane with it. You have to make the choice to find happiness within yourself again - & you'll have to make that decision over & over, not just once. Try. That's all you can do.
Hang in there, okay? Good luck!
2006-08-11 00:54:06 · answer #2 · answered by pumpkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Memories can fade to a point where they don't hurt as much to think about, but that takes time. In the meantime, remember that you can't change what has passed but you have some control over today. Learn from your disappointments and move on.
2006-08-11 00:57:45 · answer #3 · answered by Avid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be practical and true to yourself.
Accept all that had happened, don't expect that everything itself will get like before/normal.
Try to controll your emotions, they are taking you to hell.
Rule your heart over brain.
Plan your whole day schedule, make yourself busy, try to do some activities that you like. don't let yourself sit idle, or i should say that don't give yourself even a bit of minute to think about the past. Concentrate on your career, set tough goals and try to acheive them....
Every pain takes time to recover.
Best of Luck..
2006-08-11 00:58:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to deal with your pain. You can talk to someone or find different ways to deal with it. You will eventually get better and your pain will make you stronger. Then, you will be ready for a fresh start.
2006-08-11 01:12:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh wow- heres the thing
you have a choice to leave the pain behind- believe me...
my husband of 21 years walked out on me just because.....
he then went through an entire year of justification making me out to be all sorts of horrific things that i wasnt, he had me arrested three times on false charges, refused to see our daughter who is 12 but made up scenarios blaming me, turned off our untilities, towed away my sons car, basically he turned into a monster... and there was a point where i could become the pain or leave the pain behind me- and its truly as simply as that- YOU CAN CHOOSE- choose wisely my friend
2006-08-11 00:54:59 · answer #6 · answered by Luci 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-04 08:40:32 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That pain will control you if you let it. You cannot change what has happened. Forgive, get on with your life and leave what has happened in the past where it belongs
2006-08-11 00:55:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what has happened to you but you must stop making yourself a victim. I can't do this and I can't do that! STOP TALKING LIKE THIS!! You can do anything you want just tell yourself you can!
2006-08-11 00:54:28 · answer #9 · answered by DippyGirl78 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋