A year ago me and my boyfriend of 2 years were at a party he ended up having sex with one of my best friends there. I didn't care and just blew it off because there was alcohol involved. Now a year afterward I got a phone call from one of my exes I hung out with him and we ened up having sex. My boyfriend keeps calling me a cheater and how bad of a girlfriend I am becasue I cheated on him. I tell him he did once before mistakes happen but he tells me that because we have a 5 month old daughter now that it's a different situation. I don't think the situations are much different. I mean it doesn't effect the way i raise or take care of my daughter so...Is it ok for him to cheat but not for me?
2006-08-11 00:48:39 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is a jerk if you forgave him he should be able to forgive you. Having a child does not mean your cheating is worse than his. It sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it too. Your first mistake was that you forgave him with no consequences. I bet he is still cheating on you and thats why he won't forgive you. Dump him and find someone who is not such a jerk, and dump your friend. I have gotten drunk before and it did not make me mistake someone elses man for my own that was just an excuse you fell for.
2006-08-11 00:54:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it was more wrong for you to cheat because it was a year ago that he did, you're stronger now after a year and you have a daughter now. It isn't fair to your daughter. Of course it's not ok for either of you. When you love someone you should have enough strength to not sleep with other people. You're no worse of a girlfriend or mother than he is... but you could both use some work! Good luck.
2006-08-11 07:53:32 · answer #2 · answered by * 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's playing mind games with you and trying to make you feel like an *** for cheating and he did the exact same thing, and apparently you're letting him win.
If you two plan to still stay a couple, regardless of the cheating, he needs to look in the mirror and be quiet about what you did as well.
2006-08-11 08:13:53 · answer #3 · answered by reghoney_apple_bottom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are both wrong. Just becuz he was drunk DOES NOT MEAN he has a right to abandon all self control. People get diseases like that. Ewww. Why would you just blow it off? You seriously must not care about him too much. Just my opinion.
And you....two wrongs in this situation doesn't make you right. You have a child. Grow up & be a parent. You were ok with him cheating & maybe he was sorry. But that don't mean that he has to be ok with you doing it. That is retarded.
2006-08-11 07:54:37 · answer #4 · answered by IMHO 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like something that should have been talked about before anything happened. The most important questions now are what's going to happen now that this has happened. Have you apologized to him for causing him pain? Just because you blew it off, you can't expect him to be exactly like you and it's obvious that he's hurt and upset about it. Ask him what he thinks will help make things better and about whether either one of you cheating ever again is okay. Good Luck.
2006-08-11 07:53:31 · answer #5 · answered by wellbeing 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
a) you SHOULD have cared that he had sex with one of ur best friends.
b) 2 wrongs don't make a right.
c) after being with someone that long, if you feel the need to cheat on him (and there is no good reason for it) especially with a child involved, you should really step back and evaluate you relationship with him. so i guess the answer is NO, it's NOT ok for him to cheat or you.
2006-08-11 07:55:02 · answer #6 · answered by ma_to_b_x3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe the reason why you forgave him when he cheated on you was so that when you cheat on him something he wouldn't have the right to complain. Think about it.
I think both of you, if you still like each other should consolidate your relationship through marriage and if possible, stay close to each other so that you can always meet each others sexual need. That will better for you and also for your child.
2006-08-11 08:50:44 · answer #7 · answered by Davidkay! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you both are wrong...I don't see this love if you guys cheat on each other.. If it was me, I would have left you right away.. Although he is just as guilty. But if you think its okay,,, then he might as well bring over some prostitutes to make up for it.
If neither of you are willing to change...Then I don't see how it can work out.. You should respect each other enough, not to do those things..
2006-08-11 07:55:56 · answer #8 · answered by ۞ JønaŦhan ۞ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's NOT any different. Has nothing to do with the child because you are not involving the child. He's just not thrilled that YOU did it. He did it himself. I get the feeling you didn't do this just out of spite either - by the way your question is worded. I do, however, think that if you two don't commit to each other completely, this may happen again.
2006-08-11 07:54:36 · answer #9 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess I'd wonder why you are together at all, except for the kid. Sounds like you don't value monogamy, or your relationship. Were you seeking revenge? Why wouldn't you get more angry than just saying "they were drunk"? That's no excuse. Alcohol brings out more truth than f-ups. Either break up, or get over it and stop skanking around on each other. You have a kid you are setting a horrible example for.
2006-08-11 07:53:03 · answer #10 · answered by anonymous 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋