Ladies your views please?

Question

My wife has changed . She dresses for work alot more fashionable and is going on more courses and dinner meetings. This week told me she has two courses away residentially in the next two months. I have also noticed she is wearing new lingerie I havent even been shown. I suspect she is having an affair...what do you think

Answer 1

Its a possibility.

if i buy new lingerie its for my fella to enjoy as well as me...not for work and such?
need more information really...but yeah, personally i find things like that a warning sign

it wouldnt hurt to do a few checks, if just for your peace of mind.

hope you're wrong

is she secretive with her mobile and dates etc?
where shes been?

Answer 2

Yes she may be having an affair but she might just be trying to boost her self confidence a bit or maybe trying to fit in with how others r dressing at work. Dont jump to conclusions, Has ure sex life changed as well that can sometimes be a sign of infidelity, When was the last time u complemented her or did something nice for her. Try making more effort if she is thinking of straying and hasnt yet show how good the guy at home is for her and why she should stay faithful, Good Luck.

Answer 3

Maybe she was fed up with herself! Maybe she wants to bring a spark to her own life and the way she sees herself. As for courses, there's nothing wrong at all with wanting to learn at any age, and if the relevant courses are residential, that's the way it is, surely if she's going away, you would be seeing the brochures or syllabus for the course?
There is obviously a communication issue between you both otherwise you would be asking her first before coming on here and brooding about the endless possibilities. Don't jump to conclusions as that can do a whole lot of damage

Answer 4

Ummm... It may look that way, but it could also be that she's just spoiling herself.

Like when I got my new job and a bigger wage I went wild buying myself luxury items (clothes, underwear, etc) I didn't tell my partner about them as he knew I should've been using the money for bills, saving for a rainy day etc.. So he often asked when did I get that or where's that from.

As for the training courses that's also possible if her job requires it, all you need to do is phone the hotel or where ever she's staying and find out if there's a course running there, make out your a member of staff that works at your wife's company and just enquiring about attendees or every-things going ok.

Any how good luck...x

Answer 5

Has her attitude changed towards you as well.Does she make excuses not to have sex ie; tired,headache etc.Do you go out in the evenings and do you spend quality time together.She may be just dressing to impress as they say,but I would sit down with her and seriously tell her how you feel and the misgivings you have about her going on business trips.Ask her if it`s possible for you to join her there at some point.You may be blowing everything out of proportion,tell her you don`t mind the trips,but you miss her when she`s away.Does she get unexplained phone calls and take them in another room.There are all sorts of little things to look out for,but do take it gently with her and try not to lose your temper.I hope you get a positive answer.If all else fails,try showing her this web site and the question you`ve asked,that might be enough to shake her up.Good luck.

Answer 6

it certainly sounds suspicous. but, before causing a huge scene, do a bit more digging. Think about your own relationship, how has it been recently, still having sex, do you compliment her, tell her you love her, take her out, little gifts?? Does she still pay attention to you, is she concerned that you are being left at home a lot by yourself? Could you join her on any outings?
What age is she? Do you have children? maybe she is starting to feel her age. Did you marry young? Is she rebeling? None of this excuses an affair, if it is happening, but may give you an insight.
If you can , sit down & calmly tell her how you feel about her being out & away so often. Don't accuse her of anything. See wht her reaction is. Then if you still feel worried, ask her outright. Good luck, i wish you well x

Answer 7

wow thats a tuffy.... i think you may be right... but get more clues, i think the new lingerie is quite a big hint on the idea that shes cheating on you, but you can never tell...
thing is if you do tell her about this (which eventually you will probably most have to to) you may have to risk your marriage - im not saying its gunna go down hill, but something i have been told many a time and have followed is that "once a cheater always a cheater" i feel sorry for you and unfortunately your options are limited but my best idea is just wait for a lil longer till you find out more and then maybe bring it up when she least expects.... so she has no way of getting out of the hole shes dug herself into <<< that is if she has cheated.

Answer 8

Check up on her. Next time she says she is leaving for a course ask her if you can go with her, she how she reacts to that. Sounds like an affair might be the case.

Answer 9

you could be right

but at the same time it could just be self improvement. Women get to an age when they start feeling really unattractive and useless, maybe she hit that stage and instead of moping she went out and did something about it.

the way to find out is to show her some affection, if it is the crisis stage she will welcome it, if it is an affair you will notice strange reactions from her.

good luck

Answer 10

Something is making her feel good about herself.
Dinner meetings? Since when is business conducted over dinner?