Why do girls prefer bad boys to nice guys?

Question

More for the ladies. Why do women prefer the bad boys over nice guys? I mean I'm smart, considerate, easy going, I try to be a gentleman. Yet I also lose out to guys who treat girls like crap. I'm not the only one who thinks this, there are other guys like me asking this question (or similiar to it). I'm just wondering what appeal do these guys have that we don't? Should we be more like them?

Answer 1

Because they think your nice,, because your insecure and you want something back...They dont want nice guys,,,cause they feel bored by them..They want excitement..And fun..

Never become what they want you to be...Be yourself...Be stronged willed in passionate. If your truly a geninue nice guy,, then you shouldn't change.. As long as your confidnent, and have a sense of humour they will like you..

Answer 2

There are many reasons why a girl might seem to choose to date a bad boy over a nice or good boy.

1) it is possible that although the bad boy might seem like bad boy to you isn't really to the girl;

2) girls sometimes are simple fooled by a bad boy at first that he is something that he is not and they are not always very quick to realize that the best thing they should do for themselves is get out

3) some girls just suffer from low self-esteem and think its just important to be with someone even if the guy treats them in a terrible manner

4) some girls are interesting in being with a bad boy over a good/nice boy because they think being with the bad boy is simply going to be more exciting - whether that is right or wrong;

5) some girls think being with the bad boy is good for their images

6) some girls are simply bad girls and want to be with bad boys

7) some guys who think they are nice really aren't nice to girls

What you have to realize is what girls really want is a guy who is part bad (but not a jerk) and part a nice guy - but not one or the other- that is the definition of a good guy. Try being a good guy and see how it goes.

btw - I was going to list more things - but the key is to understand that every girl is different too and there is no one formula that works on all - no matter what books on the subject matter might tell you - just be confident in yourself and that is the biggest key to success.

Answer 3

I think it is about time the 'Player' steps in.I want to say that a bad boy doesnt necessary have to smoke weed,be a trouble rouser or the likes.From what I can infer from the topic,a 'bad boy' in most girls perspective is a guy that can be termed a hard man,a guy who treats a girl good but at the same time set limits,makes the rules and be in control of a relationship.He says it in no uncertain terms that he is in charge of the relationship,though not necessary a bully but a little bullying every now and then to set things right.
The truth is girls loves guys who takes control of a relationship,who is in charge,who says something and they listen(not commandeering anyway),a guy that will sometimes disagree with their opinion on certain issues and give sound reasons(sometimes unreasonablere) for disagreeing,a guy that can stand up for them,a guy that is dependable in all situations,a guy they believe can get another girl with the click of a finger,a guy they believe is two timing or even 'three timing' but never get caught(a smart guy).Most girls loves guys that drinks alcohol(not a drunkard though) and not some perenial coke drinking or icecream licking lad.
The last but not the least,if the guy is good looking with some cash to throw around,the circle is complete.This and many other attributes are what girls thinks makes up a bad guy.

So all u girls out there,if u are looking for a bad ******,I m at your service.

Answer 4

Rightly or wrongly, it's the thrill of the bad boy. For the most part this is a phase that some women go thru. I've had my share of bad boys, and they were fun but never once did I consider that they would be the kind of guy that I would settle down with. If you're a nice guy, stay that way. There will be a woman out there who will appreciate it. In the meantime, do watch out and don't let any woman walk over because of who you are. I never did that and don't think people should treat others that way.

Good luck and stay positive!

Answer 5

Pretty much. A few college girls will still go for the bad boy, but to be honest, they're not the kind of girl a nice guy should be with. Hey, funny how it's nice 'guy' and bad 'boy'? The bad ones are still basically children. Only stupid girls want stupid boys.

Answer 6

not all women prefer bad boys, i like nice guys,some women like bad boys for protection reason, for example if a girl is walking with a bad boy and something pop up like some disrespect them a bad boy will fight,a nice guy will just walk away.dating a bad boy is always some thing exciting or bad things going on,a nice guy is always boring.

Answer 7

the whole world is going down, only the junk is worth now days....
Yeah usualy is like that, girls wana bad guys,
I don't know that's maybe cause the girls are very stupid or very limited in their mind, or maybe they want someone who is different and in a way "famous" guy who will be treating her as a dog but will be yobbo and hard looking men around..
In other way many people are saying that no one can't comand it's heart so maybe that fact about the girs and bad boys is only a coincidency
But yet there is another phrase and true that , good girls want bad boys and bad girls want good boys.....
However it doesen't mater, there is someone for somebody in this world and there will be some girl some day for you and for everyone just keep trying to find out her
Good luck!!!!

Answer 8

Please keep being a gentleman! It is one of the best attributes in a man and most women are very flattered by a chivalrous gentleman. I know I am.

I think the bad boy attraction is just about sex. I tend to fancy more men who have that slight bad boy thing going on but I have only ever had proper relationships with decent blokes. I have only ever LOVED good men. And that's all that matters at the end of the day.

Please don't change!

Answer 9

It's all about confidence. Girls lack it. If you like them, it means there's something wrong with them because you're not cool! Cool guys don't need girls. They use them, spit them out and throw them away. But a girl will hope that she will be recognised as THE one, The guy that all the other guys respect - yes, that's the one. The one that is powerful. None of it makes sense.
We all need to grow up. Believe me, hang around and sooner or later, all those girls who've been let down will appreciate a good guy like you.

Answer 10

Girls love the fact that every1 else reckons there man is a bad boy!They think its cool if he is popular when really they are degrading themselves and asking for trouble!They are gonna get hurt but dont seem to care aslong as this bad boy shows a little attention whenever he wants something!

Answer 11

he phenomenon of "women going for jerks" is a real one, but there is a very, very important thing missing from the usual understanding of it. It is, I believe, a product of women's enculturated fantasies that jerks really AREN'T jerks down deep in their most hidden souls. The usual La-La Land construct is that jerks are really powerful, confident, and misunderstood men that the Very Special Women Who Truly Love Them can bring into the Light, so that someday the erstwhile jerk will finally appreciate the Unconditional Love that has been lavished upon him so stupidly unstintingly. At which point, of course, he will fall into stunned, eternal adoration of the Very Special Woman who Stood By Him while he was going around being a powerful, confident, misunderstood jerk, world without end, Amen.
Yeah, it's nuts. But you do have to understand some of the vital elements of this scene to understand female sexuality. What turns women on? Novelty and beauty, of course: the new and different, the gorgeous hunk, the intelligent or humorous personality, an air of mystery. Touch, warmth, attention, sensual surroundings, laughter. But above all, most women will say that a man's inherent personal confidence, in and of itself, is a big turn on.
The sexual appeal of masculine confidence is why a bald assertion of power, pure ashcan walkover stuff, can work, especially in the beginning of a relationship (it's the secret to how a lot of men get a lot of one night stands). And it is also a fact that many women can't tell the difference between put-on machismo, the violent, belligerent swagger that is often a mask for a LACK of confidence, and real manhood.
Many women believe the classic romantic construct too faithfully, and it is such an insidious mythology that it can incorporate any manner of disgusting behavior depending on a woman's need to believe it. A woman will go for years believing that her lover's Redemption is just around the corner, letting him wipe his boots on her. She feels alternately thrilled by his Power and tortured by the length of time it's taking for him to start giving her the Love she's "owed" for all the dirt on her back. If she leaves him now, she's admitting he wasn't worth it. She can't do that, can she? Surely he's going to come around any day now.
So...do some women "want" to be degraded? Yes. Do some women "want" to be ordered around? Yes. Do some women "want" to be Daddied like infants? Yes.
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