why is it that when I am not around my child behaves like an angel and when i am there he is hell? 3year?

Answer 1

Oh I don't know my four year old daughter is the same way. If I am not home she will be all good and play in her room but if I am home she acts like a brat but even though she is still my little angel and I LOVE HER SO MUCH! ♥ ♥ ♥

Answer 2

I have had parents look at me like I lost my mind when I tell them how great their kids are(I teach 1-2 yr olds) and even though yours is a little older, it's the same thing..like some of the other people have said.. with you, he knows what buttons to push,with others he doesn't feel it's ok..when he starts to act up,just say" I love you, but I don't like the way you're acting"..short, simple and to the point...consider that a warning ,if he continues what he's doing..have a quiet spot that he has to sit in until he can get himself together..I have 4 boys and even though they haven't been angels all the time, telling them this has helped and made a big difference when I start to get stressed..

Answer 3

Everyone else seems to have hit it on the head. It is perfectly normal. As a mother of 2 and a home day care provider I see it from all kids that come into my life. Kids that come to my home for day care tend to be better behaved for me then their parents to a certain point. Once they've been here for awhile they also start to act up. I think it all depends on where their comfort levels lie. Also I believe my children are much better behaved for other people because they know they want to be invited back to their homes and the fear they may not be keeps them in line.

Answer 4

Hate to burst your bubble, but my son is 7 and still does the same. Everyone tells me it's cause I have spoiled him. I prefer to think that we are very close and that he just knows how to push my buttons. I have tried to change this by changing the way I react to his behaviors and it really doesn't work. Threatening to not give in seems to work the best when he wants something, but even that is short lived. So, if you get any real good answers that are different from what I said hopefully I can utilize them too.

Answer 5

Could be that he acts nicely around others because he's unsure of how they'll react if he really acts out.... and he feels safe enough and comfortable enough to let his emotions show when he's with you. I think that's why a lot of kids get such good reports from daycares, etc. but then seem to be different people once at home.

Answer 6

ahhh! This is so simple that it doesn't make sense.
Your little boy doesn't act like an angel around you because he has all ready learned how to adapt and what is acceptable. You have a smart kid!!! He relaxes when he is with you, that is why he acts "like hell". We naturally like discipline and we naturally LOVE our parents. The two are interchangable.

Answer 7

My boys did the same thing. He is trying to get extra attention from you. Be patient and be consistant with him. Hey... the way I looked at it when my boys were little was at least they were good when they were with a sitter. My nephew just turned 5 and he is hell everywhere he goes! Good luck with your son.

Answer 8

Kids always give mom the business. I get the same behavior from my son who will be 3 in a few weeks.

Answer 9

My daughter is two and does the exact same thing. If you've been gone for a while, he's probably just wanting your attention. He's excited to see you and that's pretty much the only way he knows to have you all to himself.

Answer 10

My child used to be like this and it turns out that I was letting him be that way. You have to be firm and not let him act that way. Start setting him in his room when he acts like that,. don't let him have any toys or tv until he straightens up. Eventually it will work and it will be tough, but you have to take care of it now.