...that when men are looking for girlfriend/wife material they look for someone who appears vulnerable and behaves demurely? This is what one guy told me and I just wondered how many others think that too?
2006-08-11 00:10:51 · 18 answers · asked by long_luscious_lashes 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So far these are great answers! It's really interesting to know what guys think cos a girl can begin to get paranoid! I'm the sort of girl that stands up for herself, and I'm not afraid to say how I feel, so probably I just wasn't the girl for him (good job cos he was a complete aerosole anyway!).
2006-08-11 00:28:08 · update #1
It really depends on the guy. Some like that, some like strong, bold women. There is no one answer for every man.
2006-08-11 00:15:00 · answer #1 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That might be what he thinks that's his opinion but he might need to look up Galahad Complex I think it might be appropriate here. No, what I want (and have, I'm now married) is someone who can be self sufficient, have an opinion, brains. Vulnerable has never been one of my criteria. Demure well its nice when a woman can be feminine but only occasionally, when we go out or being smoochy. But mostly I want a girl who can change a car tire if needed but not be so obstinate that wont ask for help when it would be better. And be able to be eloquent enough to put arrogant ignorant people (men often) in there place using intelligent reasoned argument. I do not want a "dolly bird" who sits on my arm. I want to be able to have a conversation.
2006-08-11 07:23:25 · answer #2 · answered by pete m 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the guy. If you're not submissive and demure, you're not going to want a man who likes that kind of girl anyway. Personally, I like a strong woman who can throw me around a bit and doesn't look like she'll break if the play gets a bit rough. I have enough embarassing injuries of my own; the last thing I want to have to do is spend a night in A&E explaining that I broke my girlfriend!
Personally, I think it's weak men who want vulnerable women. Someone they can lord it over who isn't going to answer back, or tell anyone if he beats her up.
Just be yourself and when the right guy comes along he'll love you for who you are, not what some magazine tells him he should like.
2006-08-11 07:20:02 · answer #3 · answered by lickintonight 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not me. I made it clear to my fiancee in Thailand, right from the start, that I was looking for a wife and lover who would be my best friend and eqaul partner in life. What I don't and would never want is a slave who stays at home cooking, washing and cleaning all day. I want someone who will have a life of her own outside of the married home so that over dinner, which I'm happy to cook, I can listen to how her day was at work, not just hear that my shirts had been ironed or whatever. Beside, I've already got a doormat.
2006-08-11 10:01:14 · answer #4 · answered by geminipetelondon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... Maybe that is what the one guy who told you that looks for.... Or maybe I am just different. I personally rather have a woman with her own mind, who is never afraid to use it, or speak what is on it. A vulnerable person is more likely to take on the thoughts of the other person, and well..... who wants to date a puppet????
2006-08-11 07:17:06 · answer #5 · answered by President25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There should be a good balance between both people.Some guys like the quiet shy type while others like the bold in your face kind.I think it depends on there personality and they want someone thats going to compliment and be able to work with them as a whole.Its the same for girls,they want someone thats going to treat them right and love them for who they are.
2006-08-11 07:34:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppoe it really depends on the guy....men usually like the protection feeling they can give to women.hence the smaller model and demure looking
2006-08-11 07:17:26 · answer #7 · answered by mousecurtain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've read that guys go for women that remind them of their mothers. In my experience this is true, one mate (who's mum is a *****) likes controlling women, another likes the quieter type (like his mum). The same also seems to be true about body shape, the mates whose mums have larger backsides prefer their girls more curvy, and vice versa. Hate to admit it, but most of my exes have been fairly similar to my lovely mum as well.
2006-08-11 07:26:37 · answer #8 · answered by jackie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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No not for me ...
I want a woman who knows who she is, I dont mean the
arrogant self important b it ch type, they tend to be very
insecure behind the mask offered to the world.
A woman knows who she is but sometimes is uncertain,
I can offer validation.
A woman knows who she is and still wants to discover more,
[...] and is willing to show her vulnerability not to be cured of it
but to be held within it whilst it lasts,
[...] confident of self and so not lose herselve within me that I would have to carry both of us or the other way round.
[...] and still gives me sense of looking after her, a stroke to my male ego, nice but not essential.
Yes demure and sometimes coy, coquett'ish for the thrill which
we can both enjoy ...
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2006-08-11 10:08:56 · answer #9 · answered by Gone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was only telling you what he looks for in a woman. all guys are different, many will fall into that catagory but many others won't.
All a guy can ask of a woman is that she be herself, sincere and honest, if she's not she may fool him for a while but it will all end in disaster
2006-08-11 07:20:32 · answer #10 · answered by Mars 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋