should i hang on?

Question

i am thinking of starting casual relationships by answering to ads in papers and on the internet. i am a nice,decent girl but it doesnt seem like i am ever going to meet someone and i am really getting lonely. please advise me.

Answer 1

Proceed With Caution - - - yes you can meet nice people & neat new situations but you can also get hurt. Bad. Real bad. Always arrange a meeting at a NEUTRAL spot - - - this will sound cruel but TRUST me - - - the best spot is a Cafe or Fast Food in a Food Court where you can quietly scan the turf. Tell so & so to wear such & such and to be at a particular spot at a certain time. Be aware they may doing the same thing in meeting you. However it helps to be cautious. Be super careful sharing info - - - be blunt, "until I get to know you, you don't need to know that." Go with caution but go have fun.

Answer 2

Erm... well im currently in a internet relationship - see my question - i think you will find alot of people are gunna disagree with you on this one
I'm a nice decent girl too but unfortunately they are the ones that are probably gunna get into the most trouble
Sure if your gunna do this then BE VERY CAREFUL honest
they say that theres about 50,000 pedos on the net in one time <<< thats how dangerous it is, do you know someone who knows a site you can trust? i mean every site has its dangerous points so we all have to be very careful.
With the paper thing, ive never tried it before, im not sure if that would be a good idea.....
And also with the internet thing, make sure they have evidence that they are who they say they are, and if they do and they end up being a perv anyway youve got the evidence you need to show to the police if anything becomes out of hand

I hope this has helped.... and... GOOD LUCK :o)

Answer 3

It would be twee of me to say 'hang on in there, the right person will come along one day' because when you're alone and lonely, that is the last thing you usually want to hear. It seems like you never meet the right people and as a woman, it can be harder because of the whole biological clock thing.

But the chances are, statistically, that you WILL meet the right person for you, and it could be tomorrow or it could be in 5 years, 10 years, whatever. So I'd say, if you can handle it for a bit longer, hang on. And get out there and meet people by joining clubs, sports etc.

I suppose you could meet some nice people thru personal ads, but stay safe if you decide to go that way.

You will not be alone forever, keep telling yourself that. There is someone out there looking for you right now.

Answer 4

I don't believe that it's a bad idea if you really want to meet people, but you really have to be extra careful. You never know who you're dealing with. Is there a reason you don't get out to meet people. It would be a little safer than going through ads and the internet, considering most of the nut cases out there will hide behind their computers. You just never know. Try going to the gym, clubs, join a theater group or some sport team. Just get out there, you will meet someone.

Answer 5

Girl don't do it. Your never lonely if you remember that God is always with you or whomever your God is. Why can't you wait till that special someone shows up in your life. Don't rush life. I've got a man a really great one with a lot of bad flaws so I'm leaving him and prepared to be alone for life per say. In one hand he's all I dream of and on the other he's a bad dream. He's verbally abusive with his mouth when we argue, things are always his way, He decides how our money will be used, it's if you don't like it then get the f*** out. He picks up the kids from school takes me out on my B-day and goes all out on Mom day and when I'm on vacation without him cause of his job he goes to the amusement park and movies with his ex and thinks it's no biggie all cause he loves me and is good to me aren't I a lucky girl and not to mention his friendship with some 16 year old girl and I'm suppose to beleive we're just friends and he's 44. Anyway that is not my problem anymore i've since left and don't want ANY MEN to come complicate my life I ca do that alone. But anyway be careful what you wish for.

Answer 6

found this, i hope it cheers you up. just remember to be yourself - don't try and change for other people because if you are a nice person - thats all you need. x
"Girls are like apples on trees. The best ones are at the top of the tree. Most guys don’t want to reach for the good ones because they are afraid of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they sometimes go for the apples near the ground because they are easy. The apples at the top think something is wrong with them; in reality, they are amazing. They just have to wait for the right guy to come along, the one who is brave enough to climb all the way to the top of the tree."

hope it helps

Answer 7

I am probably going to get some nasty comments on this one, but I don't think you should, honey. My friends that have tried it have made good friends, but not one relationship has ever been found. I waited a long time to meet the man I am with now, and it just happened. If you go through with it, PLEASE BE CAREFUL. I hear so many horror stories about that kind of thing.

Answer 8

if you do reply to ads on Internet or paper just be careful because not all are genuine you may fall for someone who says they are single but could have wife and kids at home so just go in with your eyes open and if it just casual great but be careful

Answer 9

I think that if it is casual relationships that you want then go for it but I suppose you have to ask yourself if that is what will really make you happy? I think you need to make yourself feel great before you try and find anyone and when you are entirely happy in yourself then they'll come running to you! Good luck! :)

Answer 10

Most of the time you will end up finding a pervert on the net. If you think your gonna find some one on this contraption your gonna be let down and disappointed. My opinion is "This is the last place you should be looking for your soul mate" The next worse place would be a bar.