Hi I am dating the most wonderful Guy,is his child going to be a problem, because every time when we talk he brings her name and it hurts me I do love him,and when its month end he take the mother and go and shop for the child the problem is the mother still think she has a hold of him he did tell her that she doesn't love her anymore but she insist.I love this guy very much and it will tear me apart if i loose him please help.
2006-08-10 22:50:16 · 9 answers · asked by Faith Nelisiwe N 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if u love him n u know he loves you, then it wont b a problem. dont think too much
2006-08-18 17:05:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation as you, It is hard. I love my boyfriend very much too. I try to put myself in the childs place since I did grow up without my father. You have to respect the fact that he has a child and be grateful he is a good father. But on the other hand your always wondering what is the ex really trying to do chicks are evil. They can't let go, any some will try anything. If you trust your man then don't worry. I know your question says will the child be a problem but I think what you mean is will the mother be a problem since she will always be there. If you love your boyfriend and he loves you then trust that and don't worry about her. As for the child try to think how you would feel, try to be understanding and I am sure he will see that you care and everything will be fine.
2006-08-10 23:14:38 · answer #2 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is a loving caring father you should be grateful. You need to talk to him so he can reassure you that he is not going back to the other woman, If i were you I would be finding out if you all 3 (child) can spend some time together and be genuine. You need to accept the child with him. Don't let jealousy ruin what sounds like a good relationship.Love him and his child and be glad he is not a dead beat dad.
2006-08-10 22:59:55 · answer #3 · answered by wolfy1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll have to get used to the child caring about his mother, and talking about her. She'll always be his mother, you'll be his friend and mother like. The guy you are seeing loves you that's all that matters. Don't get yourself to involved in their stuff, you just be happy with him and make him happy, and It'll work. Somethings you can't change but that shouldn't effect how you and him feel for each other. Have fun and be happy :)
2006-08-10 23:02:16 · answer #4 · answered by Sean 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me that you are the one with the problem here hon. You sound insecure about his relationship with both his child and his ex. If you really love him than you have to have respect for all the relationships in his life. That child needs both parents involved and that really isnt your business as it pertains to the child. Now if anything romantic is going on between them, than that is absolutely your business! But if he told you that he loves you, believe him until proven otherwise. Relationships are only healthy with communication, mutual respect and trust. Otherwise, hang it up and go home. Good luck
2006-08-10 22:56:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i guess tis only natural that he'll mention about his child to you, tis a father's love. Guess he adores his daughter that much.But if it irks you everytime he mention the child's name then why not tell him unless of course your afraid of his wrath eh. Ah if you ask me tis not a big issue when his talking about his daughter to you, Infact he wants to share everything to you, his love to his child more or less your his confidante eh, Regarding the mother of the child, well if you feel bit insecure bout her, then why not try suggesting to your guy that at the end of the month you, your guy and the child will go for a shopping for BONDING. Try to suggest to him that you want to know his child better. Sometimes we need to compromise, eventhough tis difficult at times but then if you like that guy then try not to get hurt everytime he talk bout his daughter.
2006-08-10 23:06:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're the one with the problem.
This man and his ex will be connected until that child is of legal age; no matter WHO is around.
Be GLAD that he is willing to be a responsible father to his child.
Grow up.
2006-08-10 23:01:09 · answer #7 · answered by madamspinner2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The child will only be a problem if you make it one.
2006-08-10 22:55:06 · answer #8 · answered by John Doe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no the child wont be a prob as long as u two love each other
2006-08-10 23:27:33 · answer #9 · answered by topgun 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋