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I have a problem here. I am with my current bf for a year plus. Things are not working out smoothly due to his busy work schedule. He is owning his own biz. On all occassions, he permit his staff to go on leave leaving him alone to fin up the work.He is pratically working 24/7. He seldom has time for me. After being with him for more then a year, it grows tired for me to be waiting and waiting for him for a proper date. And he never keep his promise on whatever he has promise me. My ques is, Should I continue with him or should I let go. I know I am pressurizing him with me initiating meet ups. But I really miss and need to see him most of the time cos I love him too much. What should I do? I have tried talking to him and discussing on what could be done. He always promise but the next min he will be back to square one. I really need advise to clear me of all this trouble. It is affecting my life and work. I feel so confuse.

Answer 1

Well maybe you should look at it another way. First of all why are you waiting? Do your own thing. If he wants to be with you, he'll come around sooner or later. And if it's too late. His loss! Right? Also, think about when you DO get a chance to see him... Are you complaining about not being able to see him or why he works so much?? If he owns his own business than he probably hears enough complaining already for the both of you. He doesn't want to hear it in his personal time as well. Enjoy when you get him alone. If you focus on YOUR work and YOUR life while he focuses on his he will wake up out of this spell some day and realize what he has. . . And that is an indepent woman who supports what he does and in turn supports your relationship with him. Sometimes workaholics fall too in love with work where they are blinded. I say give him a chance to do his thing and if you don't like what the outcome is then move on girl. Don't Wait, Live! Whether he's in the picture or not, YOU ARE A SURVIVOR!
Peace!

Answer 2

First of all if you love him like you say you do you should be there for him while hes running his bussiness help him out once in awhile and if your just tired of all the bullcrap then I would say its time to move on with your life. It sounds as if you love him but you dont want him to succeed in his bussiness after all running a place on your own is 24-7 so if you cant handle that get out so the poor guy can find someone else that cares about him enough to be there for him and help him out instead of griping about what hes doing and not being able to spend all his time with you Wake up girl before you lose him for good!

Answer 3

its really hard to be always waiting for him whenever he can be available but then nothing happens. i think that you should just let that go because he is not doing his responsibility as a boyfriend to you. he should be the one to initiate meeting with you even for a short while. if he's really interested in you, then at least you can feel that even in his busy-ness he still wants to spend every spare minute he has with you. at least you should feel that he really wants to spend time with you and his situation is also hard for him--only that he cant be with you genuinely. i mean, at least you should be able to feel his willingness even if he's busy and he cant be there for you. because if he REALLY wants to spend time with you, he will REALLY find a way amidst his busy schedule just to be with you. problem is he's not taking the initiative...and sometimes women like you get tired of waiting too. i think that you should just let him go. give him all the time he wants and make him miss you. maybe at the end he will realize that he cant live without you. but if not, dont worry. you deserve the best--and he's not the one for you.

Answer 4

If i will say "leave him" wud u dare? You said you love him very much..right? I cant think of any possible solution coz u already tried talking to him right? Why dont u let him hire u..in that way u will be together all the time.. : )

Answer 5

what i feel is give him some time i.e dont call or meet fro somedays and see whether he calls u or not(i.e miss you)if he does then i think u should understand him that he is busy with his work and will give time when he will be free and if u rtotally bored then leaving him will be better if u dont love him anymore and dont show him that u need him bcoz he will take u as granted

Answer 6

Yeah, I guess it's so awful that he has dreams and wants his business to succeed. If he's not there enough for you then break up with him, but don't go and kill his dreams. You're not more important than his work, and you need to stop being selfish.

Answer 7

ahhww dear..sounds like u really love him..juss wait for some time..let him get organised with his work and stuff..and then some time he will rememeber that he misses u2..
juss try 2be patient and dont bother him for a few days//..he'll come back 2u..
patience helps some times.

Answer 8

Because you love him so much...it's yours to reach out for him...tell him of what you feel and why not join him in his office?..Help him to unburden some of his workloads...you can see him more often and managing time for dates is more feasible.

Answer 9

Girl, what u need to do is just ask him whether he still loves u or not, what comes first you or his job, u don't need to be getting stressed by this.

Answer 10

WELL MY ADVISE IS NOT TO BREAK UP WITH HIM OVER LOSS OF ATTENTION....EVERYTHING WILL GET BETTER IF YOU LOVE HIM STAY AND SUPPORT HIM ON HIS BUSNIESS, KEEP TALKING WITH HIM AND HOPEFULLY HE WILL FIND TIME TO BE WITH YOU AND WORK JUST HANG WITH IT FOR A LITTLE BIT AND GOOD LUCK