my girlfriend has moved to another country, we only get to chat thru messenger and ever since she left three years ago i have only seen her once and she says she is not sure if she is coming back....... IS THIS RELATIONSHIP WORTH HOLDING ON TO... PS.. I really Love her...
2006-08-10 22:46:17 · 9 answers · asked by Heart_Praiz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
firstly is she coming back? or are you going to move out to be with her?
If the relationship is worth it and you love each other enough it may be worthwhile moving to be with her.
If you have both lasted 3 years with no other people just your chats on messanger etc then it shows you both love each other.
Only you can decied whether or not you want to move to be with her if she won't can't come back.
Good luck x x
2006-08-10 22:51:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say this, but NO! It's not worth holding on to a "virtual" relationship.
Having a relationship means having smb there to help you when you are in trouble, to support you when you feel down, to hug you when you need smb near you, and to look you in the eye and make you feel in heaven.
I had a relationship like this which went on for 4 years and which was the most stressful and terrible time of my life.
He cheated on me, I revenged...so distance is a bad thing.
I think you should let it go. Begin a new relationship with smb you can see, touch, play, laugh, hug, somebody you can have there for you anytime you may need her.
So, I know how much it hurts breaking up with smb you love, but I think that you've already been apart for 3 years now and you won't miss her that much.
Life goes on anyway.
Good luck and be happy.
2006-08-10 23:09:01 · answer #2 · answered by atrabel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any fulfilling relationship is WORTH holding on to. A relationship with a nice girl is WORTH holding on to -- BUT you question is really - is it POSSIBLE to hold on to this relationship.
You cannot hold on to this relationship. The relationship cannot develop, or even be maintained -- if you do not see each other regularly -- once in three years is not enough to hold on to a relationship.
Sooner - or later - or maybe already - one of you will move on to a new relationship proximate to you.
2006-08-10 23:06:56 · answer #3 · answered by me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the relationship has to evolve on to a different level.
It depends if you love her or are just 'in love' with her as to how it will work out. ( after 3 years I think it could be the former and therefore 'strong' )
Keep the communications open. Keep them chatty and anecdotal and not too 'heavy' . But don't shut yourself off to other relationships. The Love and the friendship will always be there and who knows what the future will bring.
2006-08-10 22:58:53 · answer #4 · answered by ragdoll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on whether there is still the effort in the reltionship,or whether it is more you who makes all the effort. does shes love you like you love her? or is it just love thats keepin you together- to be honest a relationship cant survive on love alone, it needs a hell of a lot of work. what will be will be, personally i dont think i could cope
2006-08-14 13:43:39 · answer #5 · answered by roundtree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. Long distance relationships are a dead loss. I would not recommend that this relationship continues unless you are wealthy or a fool. Your love is wasted.
2006-08-10 23:02:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let it go, move on. you are both different people to what you were three years ago. you love the memory of her, not her.
2006-08-10 22:50:21 · answer #7 · answered by jo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to you. If you truly love her you would walk to hell and back for her.
2006-08-10 22:56:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer that.
Good luck
2006-08-14 21:39:16 · answer #9 · answered by A Good Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋