I am currently in a relationship that I am very happy with, the only problem is that we aren't the same religion. I was raised with Christian morals, but never accepted Christ. I do believe in God, however. It bothers my partner that I'm not of the same faith. any suggestions?
2006-08-10 22:31:07 · 18 answers · asked by Eli 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Well..hehe Im a Catholic that was married to a Jewish girl for over 10 years. Best advice I can offer is first to understand that you do have differences...everyone does! Be flexible...and don't get offended too easy. I had no problem going to synagauge and she had no trouble going to church. We just never really did it that much! Focus on what you do have in common..not on the diferences.
2006-08-10 22:39:00 · answer #1 · answered by TRKiev 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no one way to answer your question, because it depends on so many factors. Essentially it comes down to your partner's beliefs more than your own. You need to be sure whether or not your partner believes that non-Christians automatically go to hell.
If your partner does believe that, then there's likely to be friction sooner or later - either your partner will put distance between the two or you or will start desperate attempts to 'save' you. Both are a problem, and you need the air cleared first.
My wife is at least nominally Muslim and I am an agnostic atheist. However, we had many upfront conversations before getting married and neither of us see anything in our beliefs that hinder our relationship. So long as you clear the air, with any luck there should be no problem.
If you have any further questions, contact me personally and I'll tell you anything I know.
2006-08-11 05:40:20 · answer #2 · answered by XYZ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how deep is her faith? If she is a born again and you are a non-believer, or merely believe in God without religion, it may be very tough to live with each other. If she is fundamentalist, you are in trouble Because fundamentalists are passionate believers and either you go along or you are in trouble. I went with a fundamentalist but the souring situation was stopped cold in its tracks when her church stepped in and asked for 10% tithe on gross earnings and others in the church gave her a very hard time for drinking wine. She quit and never regreted it.
She is still sort of a Christian and believes in Jesus but none of that other nonsense which had her so upset play a part.
2006-08-11 05:48:30 · answer #3 · answered by wunderkind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should both respect each other's beliefs. But I am not sure if you know your beliefs. If you believe in god you are not agnostic. An agnostic is someone who claims we can't know if there is a god or not (a+gnosis=knowledge, in Greek). So if you believe in God, you might as well be Christian, because the things Jesus said were really revolutionary and spiritually you can't disagree with Him. You don't need to be practising and follow what the church says.
By the way, I recently met a very nice lady who is Greek-orthodox, married a Jew and lived in a catholic country. they were celebrating Easter three times in their family, and they were very happy with it. They were both really nice persons, their values are the same, it doesn't matter what label you put on yourself.
2006-08-11 05:39:36 · answer #4 · answered by cpinatsi 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, if you want God's opinion:
2Co 6:14 Do not be mismatched with unbelievers. For what partnership is there between righteousness and lawlessness? Or what fellowship does light have with darkness?
God has ordained to us that we not become matched up with unbelievers. He knows that the stress of two opposing faiths will not create a solid bond. One of you will have to compromise your beliefs. Will it be you?
Will you put your partner before God?
2006-08-11 05:53:23 · answer #5 · answered by steve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think religion is a personal matter. My significant other and I are of wildly different religions; however, we share common ethical beliefs, and therefore our spiritual beliefs don't cause a problem. We happily attend the other's religious services and enjoy it. If you have a common moral background, personal religion should not be a big deal.
2006-08-11 06:07:07 · answer #6 · answered by angk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a tricky one. If you are both serious about the relationship, you need to reach some common ground.
Does it really matter that much that you are not the *same* faith? Is it enough just to have faith, without having to define or pigeon-hole it? You have to reach a position of mutual respect.
2006-08-11 05:39:03 · answer #7 · answered by Macaroni 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IF you are really love does this really matter???
LOVE is unconditional & doesn't have boundaries....
Ask yourselves... Look in each others eyes?
Are you in love & if you are happy does this really matter?
Or is just some religious bar you are holding in your head that will make you happy IF you can jump over it because when you to come to the agreement of the current situation then your lives can go "normally" or whatever you'd like to call it. Religiously responsible.
While you hold true to your faith.... Why can't you hold your love?
Are you love?
2006-08-11 05:47:42 · answer #8 · answered by SuperPrincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should know that the bible says your not to yoke yourself with in an unbeliever. but if you choose to continue to date their will always be that conflict and disagreement between religions. if you respect God and truly love him you will obey his word you need to turn to the bible to this and really be in prayer so that God can speak to your heart. because although things seem good the issue is going to be a BIG conflict sooner or later in your relationship.
2006-08-11 05:46:26 · answer #9 · answered by Jc Warrior 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the truth. Religion is personal and just respect the others believes.
2006-08-11 05:37:26 · answer #10 · answered by Thomas S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋