What would you do if a woman tells you that you're the father to their baby?

Question

and this woman is not the person you would wanna be for the rest of your life, you have no intention of marying this woman...but, you kinda care about this woman in a way that you want to help them, and maybee somewhere inside; you think its your baby but you cnnot afford to get a paternity test.

and you feel quite close to the baby, even when youre unsure of whom it belongs to..what would you do, what would you do?

AND, how would you deal if later down the track you found out its not your baby after all, how would you react.

ALSO, what would you do if you were in my shoes, as a human being with mixed emotions...and running away is not an option? whats the best thing one could do to minimise all the negative karma?

Answer 1

take care of them, but save money for a DNA test if that's so important for you, which I am sure is... good luck!

Answer 2

Need a bit more info. Were you in a relationship with her before the baby was born. Was the baby a surprise or did you know she was pregnant? Does the baby look like you? What does your family think of the baby? Are you on the birth registration / certificate?

Paternity testing can cost you as little as $100 in the U.S. If there are any doubts in your mind as to whether it's yours or not, $100 for a paternity test up front is cheap compared to years of buying clothes, diapers and other of life's necessities. You certainly don't want to get stuck with a child support order. If coming up with money to DNA test is tough for you, imagine coming up with twice or thrice that every month for supporting a kid that may not be yours. Then imagine falling behind on payments for that kid and winding up in Dead-Beat Parent Hell. Enforcement is getting tougher and tougher on non paying parents.

Even if the baby turns out to not be yours biologically, you could still continue a relationship with him/her.

All else fails, call the Maury Povich show. A link for an inexpensive Paternity testing site is below.

Answer 3

if i were the girl i would want you to be honest with me....tell me up front that you care but marriage doesnt feel right. This may take care of the your not really the father part. She may tell you, but if you later find out then you have to think about it. You may not have been the kids biological father but if any good amount of time has past you and the child will have formed the bonds of a kid and there dad. As for running dont do it...be there for her threw the pregnauncy.....hold her hand when she delivers the baby....be there....dont run away from this woman...

Answer 4

Believe me the cost of a paternity test is a lot less than taking care of a child that may well not be yours. Don't let this woman put one over you and let you shoulder the blame. Make sure first even if you have to get a loan for the test.

Answer 5

Immediately go down to domestic relations and request a DNA test, if you can't afford it the courts will pay. also, when you go to domestic relations tell them you can't afford an attorney and the court will provide you with one for free.You may have to pay child support until the results come in. If the child is in fact your child be happy and be a good father to this child. If the child is not yours, the court will order her to repay the money. Good Luck

Answer 6

Be a Man, stop asking "what if"
u slept with her, now bear the responsibility
u will hate your dad if he ran away after made your mom pregnant.

No such thing as karma.

Answer 7

help her out to the best of your ability, whether financial or emotionally, explain to her that you can't marry her, but that you will help her out as much as you can, and always be there for her and her child, so that way if you're the father, you've been a good one, if not, you've been a good man! good karma!

Answer 8

Take care of the baby.

Answer 9

I think you should take responsibility for your actions and take care of your baby.

Answer 10

Call Maury.