My bf and I have been together for 2 months now. We meet each other every day (even at work because we work in the same company).Is this too much maybe?
At the very beginning I didn't love him, and I told him that casue I felt bad when he kept saying "I LOVE YOU" & I didn't say it back.
Now that I'm deeply in love with him...he looks to be distant and doesn't say "I love u" anymore, even though now it's me the one who says that to him.
Last week I felt so bad, cause after we had sex he got up and didn't turn back to me for a while, so I decided (it was smth unexpected that rushed to my mind at that moment) to break up with him. I told him that this was not working and that I wanted to break up. He was shocked at first but did NOT try to make me change my mind. He said OK, and gave me a diary where he had writen all the sms I had sent to him in the last few months.
After 2 days we got back together, but I'm not sure about it anymore.
What should I do?Please help.Thnx
2006-08-10 22:09:17 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should stick with him cz that diary thing is a proof that he really loves you and cares about you, as for him not expressing much his feelings that's cz you started to express yours and he's happy with that and wants to enjoy it , cz usually guys like to get spoiled.. but you should remind him that you like to get spoiled too.
2006-08-10 22:18:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that:)
I had the same problem once. Everything was fine, but suddenly he was cold, distant. He didn't want to talk to me anymore...
I was confused, I didn't know what was happening with him and of course I was blaming myself for everything, One day I had enough of it and told him that it was over. He didn't say anything, he just looked at me with his sad eyes. I knew there's something else going on in his mind. I asked him for the firs time and he told me everything. Then we talked for hours and hours. He told me that he didn't want to bother me with his problems. So, we sorted thing out and we've been together ever since (it's been 2 years yesterday).
Hope this helps! You have to be very patient, don't get mad if he doesn't want to talk to you. Maybe he's not ready to talk yet. Try again and again and eventually he will open up to you.
2006-08-11 05:34:11 · answer #2 · answered by pikola 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself if you really want to break up with him. I mean, everyone has their doubts about a relationship. Is this something you'd like to continue? Do you like him enough that maybe the subtle things are the things bothering you.. where as the relationship may work out if both of you just do a few things differently. Is it worth that to you though? Don't be in a relationship that's just going to make you question it and stress yourself out. You're supposed to be ENJOYING a relationship, not constantly thinking about it/worrying about it/questioning it.
Good luck!
2006-08-11 05:16:11 · answer #3 · answered by controlless_poet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is very likely that you two are not in love with each other but just attracted to each other. Two months is such a short time to tell. I would suggest that you try being just friends for a while and see what that leads to. Do not rush in to the break-up thing. Take sometime to really know each other
2006-08-11 05:31:59 · answer #4 · answered by lolipop 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if my girlfriend (which I don't have :) would confront me with "breaking up", I would also not try to persuade her for one thing or another.
if she has made up her mind until then, there is nothing I could do to her to change her mind (at least nothing which excludes usage of a gun *kidding!KIDDING!*. Even if she would, at the first opportunity when somethings goes wrong she would be at that very same point.
so please don't interpret something in his "not reaction".
if you should quit, well, noone here can answer that for you.
my take is, you already know what you want to do. just listen to your body, it is mostly right.
I'd ask him about his take and how sees the future, than act accordingly. but that is only my opinion and in no way relevant to what you will do.
there's that saying that in the end, we don't regret what we have don't, but mostly we regret what we have not done.
2006-08-11 05:50:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u seems to be confused . i think u r a person whom evey guys must look at. why do hate guy sayin his feelings.may be u must stay alone 4 sometimes work out some plans and then choose ur guy
bobby
2006-08-11 05:23:17 · answer #6 · answered by Bobby Diz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything you just wrote.. tell him.. then see what he says.. If you love each-other be together..If you don't break up.. You need to communicate everything you did to us, to him.. That is how you make a relationship work.
2006-08-11 05:14:52 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he loves you its not you. all relationships start off like that with men i guess he was trying to win your love at first,and now that he know that he has, its no challenge for him so hes done got comfortable because he doesn't half to prove anything .just tell him make him understand.
2006-08-11 05:51:24 · answer #8 · answered by lovinonly#1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you want to work out both your issues. Break up with him. You two obviously don't talk about your problems.
2006-08-11 05:15:00 · answer #9 · answered by pacific_crush 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down and talka long talk about it,tell him that u feel he doesnt love u anymore and if its true,tel him how u feel about him
u go girl u can do this im sure u'll work things out
GOOD LUCK*
2006-08-11 05:18:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋