what do i do if my boyfreind does pretty much nothing but talk about his past relationships which seem to be alot. should i back off or should i not even be worried about it?
2006-08-10 22:02:15 · 12 answers · asked by babyvb 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If it's all he does, you need to dump him. But first you tell him that if he can't be bothered to pay attention to his current girlfriend, you'll be another story he can tell.
2006-08-10 22:06:35 · answer #1 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a few options:
1. Ignore it. Doesn't usually work, but there's always the first time.
2. Talk about your ex boyfriends, in detail. Heck, invent boyfriends, and invent details. When he complains, and he will, point out you thought HE wanted to share because it's all HE talks about is his ex-girlfriends. Usually works, but.......
3. Politely explain to him that it's very unromantic to hear about his ex-girlfriends, and that you really aren't interested in THEM, just in him.
4. Move on.
I highly recommend #4, and make sure you explain to him exactly WHY you don't want to see him anymore. I've tried 1-3, and they typically don't work. You see, it's not about him sharing with you..it's about him pointing out to you how studly he is, and how many women he's had. It's really similar to when they discuss the women they've "had" in the locker room with their buddies.
If you have to "do it back" to get him to stop, you can rest assured you will spend the REST of the relationship having to do the same thing...the only way ANYTHING makes an impression on this type of man is when YOU do it TO them.
Trust me on this....run, hide...run far, and run fast.
2006-08-11 05:57:17 · answer #2 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't want to hear that crap all the time, I'm sure you don't either. Tell him he needs to get over it because it bothers you, and if he cares he'll stop. I understand if it bother him it's good to talk things out, he can do that with his friends. They won't listen to it long either. If he doesn't stop though he has a problem and it'll also be your problem. Your call. Wish you luck, maybe he has some sense. Have Fun!!!
2006-08-11 05:14:10 · answer #3 · answered by Sean 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh shoot that deep
nyway simple answer just tell him u've had enough of listening 2 his fairytale stories about his exs and tell him that he isnt paying enough attention 2 u as much as he does about his exs,tell him u need more attention nd if he'd like this 2 work then he'd better stop,if he doesnt then dump him in2 last week and leave him ur not worth gettn hurt becuz of sum disney stories of his
GOOD LUCK*
2006-08-11 05:34:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. Well, you should definitely tell him that this makes you feel bad and that you don't wanna talk about these things. Make it clear to him that what you want is talking about you two, not about past things that bring no good to none of you!
Good luck and be happy!
2006-08-11 05:14:08 · answer #5 · answered by atrabel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It only shows that he never moved on from his past but it may also show he still love the other one. Talk to him, and tell him that it hurt you, if it does?
2006-08-11 05:18:47 · answer #6 · answered by a comedian yet very sensous man. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd consider leaving her, since this behavior implies that she still has strong feelings for him. might see myself even as a consolation...
but that is in no way correlated to what you will do.
2006-08-11 05:54:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it's so important to him, and if he thinks it should be interesting to others hearing about his ex-s, tell him to write it all in a book, which you will gladly read. also ask him if he can he shut up now??
2006-08-11 05:08:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him a whack and tell him that you are not them and that he should start consentrating on you.
2006-08-11 05:06:51 · answer #9 · answered by Ice Raven 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him to shut up or go back to her. more on dating on this site
2006-08-11 05:12:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋