My son is been very badly behaved this week?

Question

we are all going to the fairground on sunday i have told him that if he carries on behaving badly he will have to come to the fair but will not be allowed his pocket money therefore not go on anything is this too evil or should i go through with it also can anybody think of any suitable punishments for a 9 year old my friend suggested wiping his memory card from his PS2 !!!1

Answer 1

I think that taking him to the fair but not letting him spend his money is very fair. He needs to learn and understand that he needs to listen to his mom and behave and if it takes a few tears and mom stayin firm then so be it. He can only hate you for a few days then he will get over it but taking things away such as his ps2 memory card is a good idea, it makes him think why did i do that and why didn't i listen everytime he goes to save his game,,,, you can't get very far without your memory card ... hell honestly my mom used to take our whole system away and make us earn it back, and then we had to explain to her why we got it taken away and why we shouldn't do whatever it was we did ... and it seemed to work honestly... soo if all you are doing is not letting him spend his money and taking a memory card i say hes pretty lucky and BUT you should hold your ground cuz if you give in he knows he will be able to get you to break any other time.
good luck ... and hey we are living in 2006 you gotta be a little tougher cuz kids just have it too easy now a days ...

Answer 2

If you have threatened that then you definitely have to follow it through if he has continued to behave badly. If you don't follow it through then your son will know that any punishment you threaten in the future will not be carried out and so his behaviour will not improve. Maybe give him a chance to earn some of his pocket money back if he shows good behaviour. As for the memory card thing don't delete it just take it off him and when he shows good behaviour reward him by giving it him back. It might seem cruel but children need boundaries and if they cross them then they need to know it was wrong or else they will do worse and worse things!

Answer 3

Why should your son obey you and behave. You threaten punishment and then don't carry it out. He has nothing to worry about.

The punishment at the fair is not harsh. He will learn you mean what you say.

Take his ps2 away and tell him he will not get it back until he behaves to you satisfaction. Keep it long enough for it to hurt. When you let him have it again, tell him the next time he misbehaves he will loose it for much longer. Stick to it and do it the next time. Once he is convinced you keep you word, he will choose to behave.

Answer 4

you are absolutely doing the right thing, don't feel guilty about it hun. You're being a good parent because you are teaching your son that there concequences to bad behaviour. At 9 he is old enough to understand how to behave.
As for the playstation, i wouldn't wipe the memory card but you can alway ban him from playing on it for a week.

Julie

Mum to hannah 7 and oliver 5

Answer 5

Yeah - the pc Police are going to hate for this, but a sharp clip round the ear when your son misbehaves will remind him far better than trying to punish him several days later - he won't remember what he has done wrong then.

I still think it was wrong to abolish corporal punishment and with the extent of youth crime feel justified in that statement.

Answer 6

Well, if that's what you told him his punishment would be, then you've got to see it through. It might seem 'evil' but he knows the score, so it's down to him! You've got to be cruel to be kind.
My little brother (13) has been playing up for months now, so my mum cancelled his trip to Turkey, where he was going to stay with a friend for 6 weeks. He's been warned, but didn't listen- or more likely didn't think she'd go through with it! He was absolutely gutted, but that's how they learn, right?!? He's now on his best behaviour so that he can go in the autum.

Answer 7

I used to get plenty of threats as a child.
As an adult if I feel threatened now I come out swinging!
I can also be suspicious and untrusting. Good thing were dangled in front of my face to then used as manipulative tools.
That business about your Ok I'm Ok is not easy for me now to achieve.

I would spend time asking what is the problem. There is probably something underlying his behaviour. Children aren't articulate and do not know how to express themselves appropriately. They are children!!

Set an example and talk to him like a caring parent and not like another child.

Answer 8

Absolutely not too evil. he has to see a connection between his actions and the consequences that follow from them. But you'd better not bottle out or weaken in the slightest or he will get the opposite idea; that if he kicks off enough, you will bend to his will. Therefore, the stroppier the better as far as he is concerned.

Answer 9

I think your being a bit harsh on the kid. All kids are 'carrying on' at the moment due to the holidays etc.
I know mine are now bored shitless and are actually looking forward to getting back to school.
It doesnt matter how many activities you are doing with the kids they are used to their own routine of school etc so once the novelty of being off school wears off they start playing up.

I THINK THE SIX WEEK HOLIDAYS SHOULD BE SHORTENED AND SPREAD OUT THRU THE YEAR.......

Answer 10

ahah it must be the summer hoildays! my son has been like this, their routeins have gone, they have got bored with their toys, bikes, mates, they want entertaining but not boundaries, we want boundaries but not have to entertain them 24/7, our nergy is now low as well.. they play up... follow through with a punishment, take the ps2 away for a day and remove it each time he is rude or naughty.. just always follow through... beacuse when they hit their teens, they will push you even further and with out boundaries and consequences they not only push you into dispair, but end up in trouble else where..