babysitting - trying to put child to bed?

Question

last time i babysat, the mum said the child should be in bed at around 2 oclock in the afternoon. it was 3.30 when she got home and he wasn't in bed. how do i put him to bed without him screaming and crying?
thanks

he is 19 months old

he is in a crib

Answer 1

* An hour before bed, tell him that bedtime is in one hour.

* Half an hour before bed, start a quieting-down routine. Cuddle on the bed, read a book together, watch a video, sing quiet songs.

* If he asks for water, or food, or a walk, or whatever, remind him -- okay, but bedtime is in ten minutes. After bedtime, say no.

* Stay in the room with him when it's time for him to fall asleep. You can read a book or listen to quiet music if he finds it soothing.

* Tell his mother that you are struggling with this. She may have some ideas for you to try, or she may tell you that she has the same problem and it's not a big deal!

Answer 2

This child is totally testing you. If Mom is putting the child down for a nap at 2 o'clock, then you just have to do the same. You have to ignore the screaming and crying, although this will be very difficult at first; as long as he is fine leave him alone. Eventually he will learn that you are not going to give in, and he will quiet himself down and fall asleep. Try this a few times, and then mention what is going on to the mom, to see if she wants anything done differently. Children will learn how to "play" the adults around them very quickly; it is their only control over their world. Even tiny babies will fuss to get their own way with certain people in their lives, and at 19 months he is quickly approaching the age of two when they become extremely self-centered and demanding. It is a natural part of growing, so the adults have to present a united front, in order to keep him on a schedule, which is extremely important at this age. You have to just wait it out, as long as he is safe, a bit of screaming and crying will not hurt him and he will quickly learn that you cannot be manipulated. Good luck and thank you for being a consciousness and caring babysitter!!

Answer 3

He's trying to buffalo you, see what he can get away with since you are new he will test you, don't lose! Ok 19 months, its a nap I assume you simply tell him sorry mom said 2 o'clock and thats that, then you let him scream and cry, he'll stop once he figures out it isn't working and you aren't going to come running. If he's old enough to understand tell him you are going to call his mum, if not just go with it, its a test its normal. Some of your answers here are for night time bedtime not naps. He'll only do it to you once if he doesn't get away with it the first time. Depends a lot on how it goes with mum too, if she puts up with it then he'll be more persistent, if she doesn't he probably doesn't bother to challenge her. Best bet is to ask mum how she would like you to handle it, she knows him best as well as the games he will try to play and what she does about it.

Answer 4

if you babysit for this child all the time, its best to have a specific routine. do the same thing everyday. read the child a story, and then him its time for a nap. he'll cry or scream the first couple times but don't give in. be consistent. a story, nap time. ignore him. just keep repeating yourself. if he knows you're going to give in, he'll cry until you do. be strong, you're the older person here. story, nap time, PERIOD!! IN LESS THEN A WEEK. I ALMOST GUARANTEE this will work. consistanty, any parent will tell you this works

Answer 5

He's testing you....you should probably talk to his mom about what she normally does to get him down for his nap since he didn't want to just go to bed for you. Children are usually on a schedule and if it changes they tend to get crazy, especially boys, they tend to have more energy than girls.

For my son, I tell him it's time to get ready for nite-nite and have him sit with me for about 20 minutes watching something on TV that is not action packed and a little boring; and he usually falls asleep before I can even put him into bed.

Good luck and talk to her about his normal routine, it will really make a difference. When you are in charge you can tell him, mommy told me that this is what you and mommy do when it's time for "whatever its time for" and we can do it the same way.

Answer 6

properly by using fact her mom thinks she is hungry feed her...enable her consume as much as she needs.. whilst the mummy receives residing house then she can sparkling the puke from the toddler eating extra desirable than she mandatory. i'm guessing the mummy is coming residing house this night? enable the little woman greet mommy on the door. Sorry no different ideas different than in simple terms ignoring her yet then she might awaken the two 12 months previous

Answer 7

How old is the child?
Why does he have to be in bed BY 2pm?

YOU might consider laying down with him. That way he knows YOU mean BUSINESS!

All kids will scream & cry when they have to go to bed. Just in their nature.

Answer 8

Did you try reading or putting something on TV that interest him. Most of the time for me, they would be tired from playing; but you could try a warm cup of milk. Maybe a bribe would work, If you lay down, you would let him have something that interest him or if he doesn't lay down he will not get what he wants the most.

Answer 9

For me it use to work, I would lie down and read to my kids and believe me it use to work. I would tell them lets be real quiet so when they use to try to talk I would put my finger in front of my lips and say shhh, and kept on reading.

Answer 10

make him a bottle and put him to bed. and let him cry himself to sleep