I am a 17 year old girl. My boyfriend of 1 year has a soccer tournement this weekend about 3 hours from home. He really wants me to go knowing its his 2nd time in the championship round. I want to be there to support him. Only thing is, its a 2 day all day activity. He said i can stay in his hotel room with him and his buddy or just him. I want to ask my parents but have no idea how to approach them on this topic. Mind you they know him very well i have gone on camping trips with him and friends where no parents were there. But still worried how the whole "hotel room with your 17 year old daughter" convo will go. I really want to go and well sleep in seperate beds, its really not that kinda thing anyway. I really want to support him in what he loves, soccer. Please help what would u want ur kid to say?
2006-08-10 20:52:20 · 13 answers · asked by bim1960 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have 3 boys. But if I did have a girl, I would probably let you go with him. Yall have been going out for a year and nothing is going to happen in that room that hasnt happened before. But then, im a little easier on my kids than most parents are. my advice....be mature about this. Just approach your parents honestly about it. the very worst they can do is say no. Let them know how important it is to you to be there for him.
2006-08-10 21:04:50 · answer #1 · answered by rwdycwgrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not want my 17 year old daughter in a hotel room with a guy, even though I know him well! Things can get out of hand, and a hotel room will be unsupervised not like a camping trip. Sorry! But I feel you are too young to sleep with your boyfriend. Separate beds or no!
I truly understand your dilemma because you would love to support him but he has to understand your situation and if you feel uncomfy about asking your parents, then he should not press you in joining him if he loves you.
2006-08-11 03:57:45 · answer #2 · answered by trushka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what to tell you about your parents but if it were me, I wouldn't be letting you go on camping trips with him without adult supervision much less spending the night in a motel room with him...alone no less.
If one of the parents of you two (I assume there are four) won't go along as chaperon, as far as I'm concerned, you wouldn't be going.
Then again, you never know. They might think it's a great idea. I, however, do not because the situation is rife with temptation. You may think that your relationship with him is "not that kinda thing" but have you checked out what he thinks it is? And this will be two hormone driven teens alone in a room with no one to tell them what to do. Do you really want to tell me that there is no danger here? Please try to really be honest with yourself and see if this is the kind a situation that you'd want your teen daughter to go into.
It isn't about "trust" either. It's about facing the hard realities of human behavior. You need to do some real soul searching before you even approach your parents with this request.
2006-08-11 04:40:23 · answer #3 · answered by Ellen J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know what we would say. NO! And please, that lame statement about you sleeping in seperate beds is so funny, it's pathetic! You can support him by cheering his soccer efforts when he returns home. At 17, you could get into all sorts of trouble with him or his buddy even though YOU think you know it all and could handle anything that arises (no pun intended). You claim to have gone on camping trips that were innocent. If I believe that one do you have any cheap land to sell me? Go and take a cold shower!
2006-08-11 04:03:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mom how would you like to go to the soccer tournament. I will pay for the hotel room and gas? It would really mean alot to (insert boyfriends name here).
If I had a girl this is what I would like her to say. Since I am on the other side and have boys.....I still do not no if I would like the boys being in a room with a girl. Well my oldest one I do not have to worry about girls with him he is gay lol!
2006-08-11 04:01:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my daughter come home and said she wanted to spend the night in a motel room with her boyfriend for the night I would be cool with it as I will know where she is and who she is with and why she is there in the first place (soccer) Explain to your parents why you want to go and they may find a way for you to go and be with your boyfriend with a level of supervision, or your own room. Be open with your parents and lay everything out on the table with them.
2006-08-11 04:09:33 · answer #6 · answered by ozi_nut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on how liberal or concervative your parents are.
If you were my daughter.... you would never ask me if you could spend nights at a holtel with a boyfriend. I would have to have toght you some morals and values before you were 4 years old.
You can support him with your heart and mind from home.
2006-08-11 04:12:27 · answer #7 · answered by Mother of three 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your a mature girl and if your were my daugther I would be confident that your knew how to make the right choices. I would also have to know the person or people that you were with. Trust is important for everyone. If you break it then it's gone.....
2006-08-11 04:02:53 · answer #8 · answered by robjoss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're kidding right? If my 17 year old daughter asked me to do what you want to do, the answer would be no. Why? Because - wait, seriously, you're kidding right? Your boyfriend will want to have sex with you, that's why.
2006-08-11 04:26:57 · answer #9 · answered by BOOM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am for Adelle and Stony..... Sorry Girl, but Moms will always want the best for you, and the best thing here would be NOT for you to go.
2006-08-11 04:41:23 · answer #10 · answered by sexy_mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋