what will i do? i know he loves me too but...im not getting any younger. i tried so many times to break up w/ him but he didn't like my idea.
2006-08-10 20:39:33 · 13 answers · asked by rea del rosario 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I understand what you are going through. Is not that your boyfriend doesn't want to get married, is that he doesn't want to get married with YOU! You have to come to terms with this and either move on of linger around for another four years begging.
Do yourself a favor and let him go. You deserve to be a bride and time is running out. Men that are marriage minded will not hesitate to tie the knot. You have waited enough with no results.
I suggest for you to tell him that you love him but you are at a point of your life where you would like to settle down and that you have realized that he is not ready for that and that that is not fair with you.
It's time to move on, so you can be available for someone that is not afraid of commitment,
Good luck to you
2006-08-11 01:58:15 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he didn't like your idea of breaking up.. if you did then he would have to go through all that trouble of finding another girl who will put out without a commitment. Tell him how you feel (nix the "I'm not getting any younger") if he says he is not interested "anytime soon" move on and knowing you have made three people happy (you , your bf and your future husband)
2006-08-11 06:55:12 · answer #2 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok hi allow me to introduce myself (no Im not trying to replace your boyfriend ha!) however, I know the boat you are swimming in. I too was in a 4 year long term committment. I learned many hard lessons in that time. One of them is if you cant see each other going forward in each other's lives in SOME SORT of meaningful direction, its better to break up then to linger on to a on-going relationship that is not leading anywhere. Breaking up IS hard to do. My advice is if you need to do it, do it and keep your word. Keeping your word is very hard to do and saying no to the person you love isn't easy by any stretch
However would it be better to live another 4 years with a person who doesnt want your future in mind? I doubt so. I can gather that you are an adult by "I'm not getting younger" and that would let me say to you that you are likely in your prime to carving out a future for yourself (education, family etc) If a man is not making a womans dreams come true in his efforts to love her then the only wishes he may have in mind are his own selfish desires. Every man should long to make his lovers dreams and future come true and every woman should long for him to do so in every part of her life
Hope it helps
2006-08-11 03:46:38 · answer #3 · answered by Brian 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should move on. If you are over the age of 27 you don't have much time to waste. It seems to me like he is a waste of time for 4 years. If he hasn't brought up the idea of marriage maybe he feels like you are not the woman for him. You two should sit down and discuss this issue and then move on and see if the two of you are compatible for one another. If you two are not compatible, go by your separate ways.
2006-08-11 08:56:10 · answer #4 · answered by bre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like you want to marry him if you threaten to break up with him "so many times". What message do you think that sends? Giving ultimatums and guilt trips is probably making the guy want to marry you less.
If you didn't give him sex every-time he wanted it, do you think he should be allowed to threaten you with a breakup?
2006-08-11 03:47:53 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love him so much den wait for him! if you can't wait, tell him your reasons about wanting to get married and ask him why he doesn't. from there. since the both of you love each other so much, im sure you guys would compromise with each other, and in the end i hope you guys can come up with a win-win situation... good luck! (:
2006-08-11 03:42:56 · answer #6 · answered by TrUffLe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait for him to pop the quetion soon he will realise how you make him happy,If you love him you will be patient ,until then keep on dating him Girl.I know you are not getting any younger,raise the subject one more time maybe by then he will ask you and it will be the happiest moment in your entire life.
2006-08-11 04:25:50 · answer #7 · answered by Faith Nelisiwe N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes 2 to make a marriage work. If you push him, it'll backlash at you, and if you're that unhappy, find another boyfriend. Does age really matter all that much?
2006-08-11 05:54:13 · answer #8 · answered by jimbell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you won't marry, but your both co-dependent so you won't break up until each passively sabotages the relationship to the point of it being unbearable enough for on or the other to run
2006-08-11 03:44:03 · answer #9 · answered by daniel a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have two choices:
Wait until he is ready to marry you.
Issue an ultimatum with a definite time period.
2006-08-11 03:44:39 · answer #10 · answered by sunshine25 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋