ok I had a baby and my mom adotived it so now its my sister. but my baby help..... I am only 14 so thats y i dont no. I am going nuts
2006-08-10 20:22:38 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This is a very tough situation for you to be in first of all be glad that your mum has taken on the raising of you baby I was 17 when I had mine and I found it so hard.
I suggest that you ask your mum to get you to get some sort of counselling weather that is through your school, church or some sort of social worker. Talk to you school counsellor, you do need some guidence in this situation.
2006-08-10 20:27:27 · answer #1 · answered by ozi_nut 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think your crazy, but do seek some professional help. Being as strong as u have been thru all this and probably a lot more and at this prime age can cause u to "go nuts" as u say lol. Your mom did what she thought was best for u. Your teenage years are a great time to learn and with a baby that may have been very hard. I can also see that flipped around (having a baby can be a great time to learn but being a teenager at the same time can be very hard). This is why seeking professional guidence can help. It's theyre job to help u. Hope all goes well.
2006-08-10 20:32:45 · answer #2 · answered by bim1960 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you! That is a very tough spot to be in. I think you should ask yourself if you would be happier being able to see your baby every day or would you be happier never seeing it again? I am sure some day you and mom will explain to your baby what happened and why. But for now, it really is best for you and the baby that you concentrate on getting through school and preparing for the time you can take care of a baby. Honey, please....no more unprotected sex. You have already got a lot of emotional baggage now you will have to deal with. Don't add any more to yourself. Concentrate on you and save the sex for later with someone who REALLY means a lot to you! Good Luck!
2006-08-10 20:29:54 · answer #3 · answered by r0cky74 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your mom adopted your baby that is good because that means your mom is helping you with the baby you are still aloud to be in the childs life. You can still hold the baby and work on your relationship..your mom must love you but i would talk to her about how you feel and finish your schooling.
I was young when i had my first baby but i was 17 i still had alot to learn i was still the mom, but i had my mom and grandma who was around and helped out when i didnt know what to do..so maybe its like that..i hope so for you and ur baby. My boy is now 11 and he is a pretty good boy for the most part...:)
2006-08-10 20:32:02 · answer #4 · answered by away right now 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very young to have the responsibility of a baby. If you want custody of this child you must do well in school, stay out of trouble, and get a job at the earliest possible age. You must be able to show a judge that you are responsible and serious about caring for your child. This could take a few years. Stay the course. Be grateful that your child is near you and was not given up for adoption. I know it is hard. Do well and be proud of yourself.
2006-08-10 20:34:24 · answer #5 · answered by frogspeaceflower 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I checked your profile and noticed that your are into Goth. That's part of your problem. You need to drop that goth crap and go to a real church. Concentrate of being strong for your baby and your mother. Develop a positive attitude. If you occupy your mind with the fact that you got yourself into this mess and that it's now your responsibility to deal with this mess, you'll be surprised how much better you'll feel about it. Getting involved with God will be one of the best things you can do.
2006-08-10 20:32:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I looked at your profile and you're just making up stuff. First you say you're 15 and your Mom doesn't know you're pregnant. Then you say you're 14 and your Mom adopted the baby....all in the same day. That's crazy!
2006-08-10 20:32:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are underage and in no way capable of looking after a child...why do girls your age always think they can't get pregnant? You're lucky you have your mom or your baby might have ended up with child welfare.
2006-08-10 20:28:27 · answer #8 · answered by EVE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is still your child! I raise my 2 grandkids since birth & they are 13 & 14 now,but they know I am Meemaw,not mommy!
Don't ever lie to that child.
Show this to your mom if you want to.
2006-08-10 20:28:17 · answer #9 · answered by Frogmama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your baby is in your place and is being taken care by you and your mom you need not worry much.but being 14 you have to wait for some more years to legally take care of yourself and your kid
2006-08-11 18:26:14 · answer #10 · answered by trishul60 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋