My 6 month old son's father and I have been together for over 2 years; he walked out on us about a month ago and now I am starting to question what is wrong with me. I know that I need to move on but it is emotionally challenging at times because I find myself thinking about the fun times we used to have in the past and how I wished things could have worked out between us so we could stay a family. He doesn't want to be committed, he prefers his freedom.
2006-08-10 20:06:47 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am sorry to hear about your situation. I hope even if the father is not going to be in your son's life he will at least stand up for his financial responsibilities.
If the father wants his freedom there is nothing you can do or say to change him. You know the old saying - you can't make a leopard change his spots.
The best thing I think you can do is take care of you and your son, he is the most important thing in your life right now. Get on with your life. You don't have to put the memories behind you but don't dwell on them. You will find love again. You never know what tomorrow will bring. It is sad that things didn't work out for the two of you but that is the way life is sometimes. We have all been through it. Keep the good memories and move on.
I wish all the best to you & your son.
2006-08-10 20:14:18 · answer #1 · answered by Mav 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't give a concise answer because I don't know you that well. Often the man is considered to be the bad guy, but there are plenty of times that the woman is the reason for the break-up. You're the only one that knows. If your question is "Is there a lack of commitment?" the answer is definitely "yes". He should be commited to being a husband and a father. But you said you were only "together". Are you married to him? If not, then that's probably the root of the problem. There was no commitment to start with. But, still, he should be committed to his son.
2006-08-10 20:17:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 words for you: YOU DID NOTHING WRONG! How easy it is for men to walk away from responsibility and leave women with the burden. Focus on taking care of your son as best you can, then find someone else later on. Any man who would choose his personal freedom over family responsibility is not worth keeping around in the first place. Good luck to you! I know this is must be a very hard time.
2006-08-10 20:12:10 · answer #3 · answered by elical 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man sounds like he doesn't care about you two. Make sure he pays child support! There are plenty of other men out there, but before you date anyone else, be comfortable and happy with yourself. If you think it would help, go to a support group where other people are in similar situations. When men leave or cheat it has nothing to do with the woman (usually). Some men are like dogs or animalistic so don't blame yourself! Keep in mind, even supermodels have men leave them or cheat on them . It's just the way some men are.
2006-08-10 20:16:15 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you, there is perhaps something wrong with the relationship.....it could be one of many reasons, but usually communication problems......is he young, are you young??? Did you plan to have children when you fell pregnant.....there are so many issues we have to deal with. If you really want him back, stay focused on yourself and your child, enjoy yourself and get to know yourself again without him. You will be surprised how many men realise what they are missing only after it goes and doesn't seem to need them....Whatever you do, don't blame yourself...perhaps you were not right for each other in the first place..God bless
2006-08-10 20:12:01 · answer #5 · answered by like to help 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lots i imagine! in case you imagine that you'll benifit more effective from no longer being commited than 100%!!in case you care about someone there is no longer reason you won't be able to confirm to that man or woman and in straightforward words that man or woman... in case you could't commit then you definately shouldnt be allowed to be with human beings!dishonest is hurtful and selfish... lack of dedication!
2016-11-24 19:44:12 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do women persist on thinking a BABY will hold a man!
There are no men around who will commit,just because they have a BABY!They have to love you or at least have morals to do that!
Since the dawn of time,women have been dumb like this!We have too many unwanted & abused children out there from such stupidity! I am one of them!
My mom loved me & kept me & took care of me,but I was abused socially.I was lucky though.At least i wasn't beat & cussed out because I wasn't wanted & cramped her style!
My dad had kids all over the place & it hurts to not know my own brothers & sisters.Thank God I didn't marry one of my brothers!
2006-08-10 20:14:11 · answer #7 · answered by Frogmama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you. He is an immature jerk. Don't focus on him, focus on your son, he's the most important man in your life now and deserves all your attention. Make sure he comes out a better man than his dad.
2006-08-10 20:11:28 · answer #8 · answered by lilgiggle33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no questions about you! whats wrong with daddy?
you are there for your baby. you said it "he does'nt want to be commited. his problem. now your baby needs all the love you can give, not your worries. better to be with mom than foster care. live for you and your son. someone else is watching, wether you believe or not. remember you son is thinking "All you need is love"
2006-08-10 20:16:31 · answer #9 · answered by sllyjo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tenderheart,
Be Strong and make a life with your child and move on. DOn't let him come running back. You are the parent and doing the parenting. He left. Move on and best wishes!!!
2006-08-10 20:10:35 · answer #10 · answered by -------- 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋