His mom is verbally abusive and they are completely incompatible. What could God be trying to show him or teach him through this time in his life?
2006-08-10 19:58:32 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Lots of things: patience, how to honor someone undeserving of honor, obedience to God's Word, compassion for other people, etc. May God richly bless your friend, if he chooses to honor his mother in spite of herself.
2006-08-10 20:06:20 · answer #1 · answered by MomWtrmn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My dad was the same way. God teaches us all kinds of things through the bad things we go through. I went through very many bad things in my lifetime! But it gives us character and we are baptised by fire--or perfected --like a clay pot in the kiln. God is the sculptor, we are the clay. He perfects us with trials...imagine if we lived life without any...what would we learn from it? It may make us better able to help and understand others in our future.
The verbal abuse I endured has today made me a good mother who never uses words to hurt my children or anyone for that matter. I am more empathetic of others. I learned what God teaches is true about words (the tongue) being a weapon when used wrongly. We should use uplifting words.
There is a reason for all of these things. Tell your friend to keep the faith. hang in there....it will get better....for him....I don't know about with his mother.
I am in my thirties now and my dad is still verbally abusive, so...just keep praying.
2006-08-11 03:08:47 · answer #2 · answered by gracefully_saved 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Intro,
Patience and obedience. I know how it can be, being verbally abused. Nothing I did was ever right, or even alright.
Secretly plan the day of independence on any calendar. Save your money. Save your money. Plan it out, SECRETLY. The abuser will go mad upon the hearing of it. Your relatives are not safe to confide in. They may be a long past part of the problem.
Lean on God. he's the way out of this.
Tell your friend. It will end.
2006-08-11 03:06:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That he needs to learn how to be submissive to the will of his creator in order to maintain peace. (Think about this for a while, I wouldn't want the irony to escape you as it's vital to undertanding the lesson)
Teen agers often hear "verbal abuse" when they should be hearing "I've told you a thousand times to keep your feet off the coffee table are you stupid or deaf?"
I know this because I was a teen age girl once, fairly recently, and we have a tendency to imagine that all adults hate us, and that our mom's are all b's.
If there is REAL verbal abuse, as in "I wish I had had an abortion like your grandma told me too but NOOOO I just HAD to have you...." have your friend remember that there will be a day that his mom will need someone to mow the lawn when she's old, and that he won't need to lift a finger. Maybe the lesson isn't for him at all, but for his mom to learn.
Blessings!
2006-08-11 03:07:46 · answer #4 · answered by Angela M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God tests us so we can know ourselves, and discover the strength each one of us has within.
When we are being tested, we learn to develop patience, understanding, and perserverance to see us through the trials ahead.
Tell your friend that every time his mother is verbally abusive, he should silently ask for God to bless her. There may be issues going on with his mother, that he may know absolutely nothing about.
When she is being abusive, it might only mean that he is a convenient target and nothing more.
Tell him not to take it personally.
It's important for him to realize that when his mother is screaming and yelling at him, she has for the moment... abandoned her free will to the devil. if he can try and see the situation from a different perspective, it may help him to better deal with the situation, the next time she starts up on him.
God Bless~*
2006-08-11 03:16:45 · answer #5 · answered by DG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey my brother in Christ!!
I totally feel for your friend and can imagine what he's going through. Only God would know what He is trying to show or teach him through this hard time....I know sooo many times I was confused and went through hard trials, especially with family, and the Lord just said...I am here with you, I will not leave you, nor forsake you. Trust in me...this too will pass.
I am praying for your friend and you as well my brother!!!
Love forever and always in Christ, Sabrina
2006-08-11 03:30:37 · answer #6 · answered by SS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe God's trying to show him that if he turns out like a proper Christian, he won't end up like his mom. And God is also showing your friend that he should pray for people who are like that and tell them that Jesus loves them and that it hurts your friend a lot!!
Hope this did help!!
2006-08-11 03:09:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
And this to shall pass. 1Peter says that if need be our faith is put to the fire, to be tried just like gold is purified. If we never needed God, would any of us have returned to Him? Put on the armor of GOd, Ephesians 6:10-?. Also prayer is one of the most powerful weapons we have, prayer changes things.
2006-08-11 03:11:11 · answer #8 · answered by 4CHRIST 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a christian.....I'm really not sure what god is trying to teach him...but, you have to remember everything happens 4 a reason!!!
2006-08-11 03:06:08 · answer #9 · answered by brookie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not much, I'd say. What kind of loving god would do that shtt to people? Shop around, you can surely find a nicer god to put your faith in.
2006-08-11 03:06:37 · answer #10 · answered by MaqAtak 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋