Whats wrong with me?

Question

Well I kinda of a crybaby(and I aint afraid to share that with the world) and well I am 13 and me and my mom have the greatest relationship together and I lived with my mom for the summer and today I went back home with my dad and now that I am away from her I feel like I am falling apart and I feel like theres no heart in me its all fallen apart.I have to stay with my dad all School year and I just cant take it becuz for one I live with 5 bros 4 little 1 big and I am the only girl and it drives me insane! And for two my dad is going to get mad at me if I leave him he says its going to hurt his feelings and my bros wont have a sister. So I want to know whats wrong with me? And like when I am talking to my mom she will say alright well I g2g or I will let you go bye, I just dont wanna hang up and she lives 4 hrs away from me. I am really Scared not sleeping in the same house as my mom and I just feel like their is no soul or happy in me. Please help me!!!! :( :( :( :(

Answer 1

If you are this sad you need to speak to your Dad. He loves you and will want the best for you. You are at an age of puberty and being with your mum would be a good idea.

Answer 2

Look baby girl don't feel like that you will always have love for both of them just because that don't stay in the same house that don't mean you are alone .OK so you talk to your mom every day what you need is a big sister i can be your big sister if you want i know what you are going through my mom and dad are not together any more i have 8 brothers and 3 sisters and i have to go and stay with my dad and my brothers but now i am 25 and it is cool now because i have an older sister that is 34......

Answer 3

Honey, there is nothing wrong about being sensitive. I still cry like a baby and I am 34. Its the way we're made. It was just my mom and me growing up and we where/are very close. There is no one like your mother. Even the best dad's can't be mom's.

First, you need to talk with your mom and tell her how you are feeling and ask her if it is possible for you to come live with her. Hopefully, she will hear your heart and see the need for her to be more involved in your life. If she says you can go live with her, she needs to speak with your Dad. You should never be put in the middle.

I know that you don't want to hurt either of your parents...you love them. I remember how hard it was for my parents to not be together. My father left me when I was 6yrs. He had a new family and I wasn't part of it. Be grateful that you have a father who loves you and doesn't want to be without you. With saying that, a parent should NEVER guilt a child when it comes to another parent. Tell your dad that you love him and appreciate him and all that he has done for you. Explain that a teenage girl needs her mother to help her find out who she is. Explain that it isn't because you don't love him or your brothers, it is that to become a good, strong women, you want to learn from your mother.

I know your on a rough road. Hang in there and have faith that God will take care of you no matter what happens. And be thankful for the big family that drives you crazy. They may not seem like it, but they are a blessing to you. There is alot of love underneath all of the brother madness. Your the only sister that they will ever have. You are the princess.

Their is nothing wrong with you, it is perfectly normal, natural and understandable the way you are feeling. Take care honey and be blessed!

PS. Maybe you should email this (your yahoo question) to your mom! Just a thought! Maybe it will help her see how much you want to be with her.

Answer 4

I'm a dad of two, a boy and a girl. I don't think you are a crybaby. I think you're having natural emotions, and it's great that you feel love for your mom, and that you and she seem to have a great relationship. If I were your father, I'd respect your feelings, and as long as your mom is living healthy and moral life, and you promised to do your best to help her in her household, I'd give you my blessing.

I specially liked the answers of Soldier's Girl, OneFestiveBunny, and Bug's Mom. Many of these were good. So yes, talk to your Dad, your Mom, your brothers, and see if you can get a compromise which will allow you all to be happy.

I hope your brothers and father are treating you well. I wonder why you are scared not to sleep in the same house as your mother. Are you telling us everything we need toknow? See your counselor.

Answer 5

Wow! Then have a talk with your father and solve the problem, tell him you need to go live with your mother, you need her, he can't get mad, boys live with boys and girls with girls, there has to be a reason why all the children live with the father, I don't know what it is, but you do. Is there something wrong with your mom? And, last but not least, how about consulting with a counselor, you and your dad, or a psychologist, you can all discuss the issue and do what's best for everyone, if not talk to a close relative or a good family friend, you'll have to change schools though, has that been taken into the equation? You have to study the situation, the pros and cons and if you really want to be with your mom, something's going to have to give. God bless.

Answer 6

THe best thing to do is tell your father exactly how you feel without beating around the bush. I went threw the same thing when i was younger-im 23 now. I do believe that a little girl is always going to need her mom. A mother shows the love and trust that not even a father can give. But remember the grass isnt ALWAYS greener on the other side-- it is so true! Learn from your mistakes, time is precious. You will look back years from know and think- "wow, i am so happy things were how they were" however things end up, it the best way...Smile and enjoy your youth! ;)

Answer 7

It is OK to be emotional and cry!

You know the situation in your family. Think about questions like:

Why are you staying with your father and not you mom in the first place? What is your mother's situation? Are they married again?
How is your mother and father getting along with each other?
How long have they been divorced?

I think you need to talk with your mother first if she can support you financialy, if her husband agrees(if she is married, you dont give any other info) etc etc.

Staying with your mother sounds like the best thing for a young girl, but keep in mind that living fulltime with your mom wont be the same as spending the summer with her. You will have responsibities in her house too.

Then I would talk to your father alone, seriously so that he doesnt think you are a baby .
Make sure to tell him that you love him very much but you are growing up and find it hard to discuss girl things with him and that at this age you need to spent a few years with your mom.

Answer 8

I was teh same way. Heck even today I hate to be far from my mother! I guess its all in how ur raised. I say talk to mom about moving in with her perm. sinc your getting older and mom can help you with the girl things better than dad can! Theres nothing wrong with wanting your mom, be glad shes there for you. As for your mom saying G2G I think shes encouraging you to spend time with ur dad and family! Or maybe to help you grow up a bit more. I never had to deal with seperated parents but I know I woudl live with my mom if I had the choice when I was younger. Now that Im older I choose to live next door, shes always there with advice and help! mothers are great!

Answer 9

i imagine its very hard for u. as a 13 year old, u should live with 2 parents, and not have the responsibility u have right now. u should still enjoy ur life as a young girl with no worries....
but things like that happen a lot these days. i had similar problems.
i have a big family and my dad left us all when i was 12! and i was the oldest! with a lot of siblings younger than me. i had to 'grow up' fast, and be like a second mom. it was hard but its all over now... I'm married and possibly pregnant... its much easier this way.
i hope u have an easier time.
it will get better eventually... maybe when ur married ;).....

Answer 10

I don't know what the circumstances are but I think that it's very wrong of your dad to tell you that you'll hurt his feelings if you go to your mom's house. He might be upset but only because he loves you and that he would really miss you. But, it's not like you could never visit him. If you want to move to your mom's then you go right ahead. If that's where you feel really comfortable and happy then don't waste time and move in with your mom.

My parents divorced too and it's really hard to deal with sometimes. It would have been even harder if they would have said things like that to me. I hope everything works out for you!