that she "doesnt want to ruin our friendship" but its killing me inside that i cant have her and i love her to death and i would do anything but she doesnt love me the same way i love her she loves me as a friend and im afraid to go find someone else because she is the 1st person i relly had feelings for and i dont want to move on and seem like i dont care but i dont want to stick around and possibly miss someone who might actually mean something...HELP ME PLEASE....
2006-08-10 19:17:17 · 13 answers · asked by noodle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
can you help me decide if i should move on or stick around?
2006-08-10 19:21:43 · update #1
Isn't it such a great feeling knowing that you have a special someone that can make you happy?
On the downside, there is always that possibility that the other person doesn't reciprocate the feelings you have for them. It's important to make sure that you are considerate to the other person's feelings, especially when you care a lot about them. I myself, as well as many others, can vouch that jumping into a relationship will ruin your friendship. In my case, I pretty much lost a friend doing so, and I sort of regret it. Your friend is only adversed because she wants to save the friendship which is the very thing you came to value anyway. Additionally, you can't have a girlfriend if your friend doesn't want to be involved with you in that way. Overall, it can be very difficult, but respecting the other person's feelings and standpoint is a crucial thing as well. Try to hold off on your strong emotions until you find a sure signal. Your friend may need more time to think about it herself, or she may be confused about her own feelings, or she may have personal problems that she feels she should prioritize before anything else. Rushing her with your own feelings may complicate her perception of you and her emotiohns, so please try to control your feelings as they can hurt her and even you. In the meantime, consider telling her that you will try to understand her perspective and say that you value your friendship with her too.
2006-08-10 19:34:10 · answer #1 · answered by olea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's really hard to say . But I think you should still be friends with her . Maybe she does doesn't want to ruin the friendship you two have now . You can move on and try to find someone else and still be friends with her. Maybe the friendship you have right now with her might turn into something different someday ? But I hpoe everything will work out for you .
2006-08-11 02:31:29 · answer #2 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing is, you got your answer.
Now you just need to learn to let go and move on. She gave you the main information you need. Now it is time for you to take it, understand it and accept it. It is hard to love your best friend and want more when they don't.
The way I see it. She is a best friend and that is an honor to have. I rather a guy be my best friend and Cherish me, than date and risk not being together.
If she gives you that status of friendship, I say defiantly love every second of it. At the same time, ease yourself into the dating. Take your time and don't rush it.
2006-08-11 02:27:38 · answer #3 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't pull back to the "friend" situation, then pull out.
Put some space between you and her for a while.
Otherwise you'll become more depressed and hurt yourself.
You're only young and I assume, so is she. Give her some space and time and in the meantime you just may 'connect' with someone else.
2006-08-11 02:27:51 · answer #4 · answered by lissenin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is not better then friendship but its definately more deeper than friendship.
Though it is said that once you are in the "friends zone" you cant do anything......it is BULL S H I T.......
You can still find love in her..... jus take it easy.... let her realise it...
For that....keep on showing her that how much you care for her...by doing different things...which you yourself have to figure out.
2006-08-11 02:27:03 · answer #5 · answered by Moy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a really interesting topic...well...i'm around your age...and I kinda understand your situation..but all you do for now is just be patient...becasue I know that sooner or later she will notice what a sweet guy you are....and she will also acknowledge how much you appreciate her....and just keep your friendship strong...your friendship will not get ruin..unless you do so...so again just be patient...o.k....good luck!
2006-08-11 02:23:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i know this probably wont help or anything but still i'll try and help anyway. Tell her that if she gives you a shot at being together that you and her could be happy. And if not you can always still be friends. no harm in that. Sorry i couldnt help ypu any more than this.
2006-08-11 02:23:19 · answer #7 · answered by Kara M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know exactly where your comming from....see if just dating is an option and go from there, and promise each other that if it doesnt work you will never stop being friends. remember if you truely are in love with her, her happiness is what really matters wether it is with you or someone else.
2006-08-11 02:28:17 · answer #8 · answered by XxX_Prefected_Imperfection_XxX 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
loving someone don't mean you must have her as your girlfriend, she's now your best friend too. look on the bright side, best friend are forever, but girlfriend and boyfriend won't last a long time, it could end in few minites,best friend won't end so easy. you must go on, because you have to become brave to face it!
2006-08-11 02:30:52 · answer #9 · answered by EYML 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love her and she doen't want to lose the friendship. Well, ask your self this; would you like to have her as a friend and not have her at all.
2006-08-11 02:21:33 · answer #10 · answered by tonya86_chipmunk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋