I keep compareing other women to her and calling them her name by accident i could not let go of her past like how many people she has been with and dat kinda of thing and it hurts to feel like this i wish i didnt know what love was. i dont know if i can love again or want to
2006-08-10 19:17:06 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You know "Zion" I really felt you on this one. You made me sad by saying you wish you didn't know what love was...I never thought of it like that. Anyway this is my last question then I'm going to bed...lol Okay you asked: How do you get over your first love?? My ans is You Don't, but you learn how to deal with it. What I mean by this is you have to start rebuilding your life back the way things were before you found this person. Try to totally focus on yourself; you need physical and mental attention!! Tell yourself you’re Not desperate, instead smarter and wiser. I'm advising you not to get back out there, this may work for some people, but not you and from your question you’re not ready (for another relationship). You need time alone to gather your thoughts and decide not to continue letting this person (ex-girl friend) control you life. Each day apart hurts a little less than before. Get up and join a gym, walk a mile every night, rent a Taebo tape and kick around in the front room...lol, just do something constructive. Maybe get back involved in the church and its functions (that’s if you’re not already). Go to your local college and take up a swimming or automotive class. Something not too strenuous, yet enjoyable. Make new friends that share your same interest and stop looking for another woman to fix this problem Yes!! it will take some time, but it's not impossible. One day you will want to love again, just not right now. And I hope God sends you the perfect someone to makeup for lost times!!
Be Blessed!!
2006-08-10 20:40:19 · answer #1 · answered by AAP0305 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its a cliche but most people never get over their first love- i am the same @ the mo i split up with my first proper boyfriend like a year and it still hurts but time will heal it i know your probably like SHUT UP @ the mo , ha but i was the same and its slowly getting better. Try to think of her as a positive, also getting a new partner does help as it take syour mind off it. I have found if you try not to stay in contact with your ex if it stilll hurts not to be wiht them an advantage,,, seriously it helps you forget about them but if your still constantly speaking and txting and seeing her in the street/pub whatever she is always fresh in your memory so good luck anyway and get out on the bevvy tonight and have a big night out to forget about it, :)
2006-08-11 04:52:49 · answer #2 · answered by mellow yellow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never get over your first love or any love for that matter. It will get easier but, once you love someone they will always be with you. It's wonderful and a curse all at the same time. You will be able to move on when you are ready. But, that may take some time. Personally I didn't date for 2 1/2 years and didn't want to at all. I thought my world was over. I was not interested in men at all!!! I truly felt that I would spend the rest of my life alone. But, as crazy as this sounds... I met a man and within hours after meeting him I realized I wasn't finished just yet. I wanted to be with him and I was terrified because of the feelings I was feeling. It turned out to be the best chance meeting I could have asked for. He is a wonderful addition to my life and I love him with my heart and soul. I thought I knew what love was before... I didn't realize God intended for me to be with someone else to experience a love that I thought only existed in the movies. You will be ok and you will be able to move on. Just make sure you are ready. You'll know with out a doubt. Until then, enjoy being single. It can be wonderful itself. Good luck to you and God bless. Everything will work out for you in time.
2006-08-11 02:29:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It took me 4 years to get past the hurt- but even now after being married 11 years and having 5 kids I still wonder about him from time to time.
You will love again. You must first heal yourself, don't try to rush or it will not work out( as you are finding). Find yourself, and when the time is right-love will find you.
2006-08-11 02:25:41 · answer #4 · answered by mominshoe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry dude...I'm know exactly how you feel...because I'm feeling like that right now....and yes it's very painful....because I know that you remember all the memories you spend with her...and that's what hurts...that you can't be with her...and you can't hold her in your arms...and that's really painful....and I can tell this was your first love...and like i said before...i know how you feel because it was my first love as well....what i'm doing right now to get over my first love is trying to keep my mind really busy....and sometimes I have felt like that...like I ask myself can I love again or wish I didn't know what was love...but I'm just happy that I spend time w/someone I loved and I think you should too....so keep your head up buddy....Good luck!
2006-08-11 02:33:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't think you can ever really get over a special person. I cope with it by remembering all the good stuff and thinking at least I've had all those lovely feelings and great times. (cliche time, sorry!) its better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all.
2006-08-11 03:51:27 · answer #6 · answered by mz.hunnie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you still want to be with her. so why arent you? well in my perpsective you never get over your first love. maybe you should try and start something with her again. if thats not possible then time will help you out but your just going to have to wait until the love kind of fades away. i hope i helped you out some.
2006-08-11 02:22:13 · answer #7 · answered by lizzie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time heals all believe it...if you keep calling other women by her name then you haven't given it enough time or you just have a problem...their is more fish in the sea and their is always 1 more out their that is better and greater...try it and you may like it or seek professional help
2006-08-11 02:23:22 · answer #8 · answered by linda_wthrfrd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really just takes time. lots of time usually but the good news is one day you will wake up and realize life goes on and shes not the only woman in the world.
2006-08-11 02:21:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first love is someone you never forget because what you had and felt was so special,but time can be a healer,also meeting someone new is a bonus.
2006-08-11 03:53:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋