Sorry Mom, you had it all wrong. I am the one everyone turns to when they need something. A shoulder to cry on, advice on their problems. Meanwhile, I am the one who gets dragged through the mud, discounted, passed over and abused. "Oh, he’s too good to be true", or "Oh, I don't deserve him, he is too much of a ‘catch’ for someone like me". But, I am left behind, scratching my head, cleaning up the aftermath, doing the 'right thing'. The one who ends up catching those in need. "You'll take care of me?" Chivalry IS dead folks. Open a door for someone and you must have secret agenda. It's just something for the movies. And something women wish their problem boyfriends would learn. "Hey, nice guy, can you help me with my miserable boyfriend?"
Well, Mom, you might be right after all, "Nice guys do finish last".
Because everyone else has gotten what he or she wanted or believed they should... I, once again, I am the only one left...By my damn self...
Your right Mom… I sure am last.
2006-08-10 18:49:33 · 15 answers · asked by dluthchara 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
whether people respect your politeness/nice guy attitude that is their issue. personally i think being nice to someone is appreciated by the right person and will make you feel good for doing a good thing
2006-08-10 18:53:27 · answer #1 · answered by Mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The phrase "Nice guys finish last" is pretty much right on. Why on earth would you need anyone else once you found a nice guy. I used to be one of those girls who would look for the "bad" guys. I ended up with nothing but heartbreak. My nice guy finished last but would I appreciate him as much as I do if I didn't have to experience all the bad guys first? Probably not. You could use a little confidence however. Confidence is really sexy. You probably just haven't found the right woman however making yourself over available leaves the door open to women using you when they have problems and leaving you feeling alone when they don't. Don't be so available.. let them chase you.. When they call be busy every other time... even if you aren't.. Nothing like a challenge to excite a woman. Good Luck.. Don't fret your "bad" girl is out there somewhere.
2006-08-10 19:43:58 · answer #2 · answered by lilmisscantbewrong 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've got the cure for you, man. I'm a recovering nice guy and I know exactly what you're going through. Go to www.doclove.com and listen to one or two of the archived radion shows. Then order the "system" and Internalize that book. You willl get a profound understanding of why nice guys finish last and why the girls always end up with the jerk. Then you'll know how to attract the right women without having to become a jerk, and yet you'll stop being every womans volunteer psychologist. Good Luck!
2006-08-10 18:57:19 · answer #3 · answered by Don Ricardo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's terrible You are so discouraged. Being a nice guy is about what kind of women you are trying to attract. Being a nice guy unfortunately attracts users and nice women. You just have to learn to tell the difference. As you get older this gets easier. The best advice I can give you is this; when someone mistreats you dump them and move on. Don't give them the opportunity to walk on you again. You have that power. Meanwhile don't give up, you will eventually attract the right woman who appreciates a nice guy. I promise. Peace to you from frogspeaceflower. P. S. this applies to nice women as well......
2006-08-10 19:01:20 · answer #4 · answered by frogspeaceflower 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ill join ya in the aspect that there is no point in being nice anymore. Ive gone through the same ordeal. These days most girls expect you to be a little bit mean/rude to them otherwise they bring up that **** that you are to nice and whatnot. or they think you are gay.............dont ask. Just try and break yourself of certain little habits and you should do fine, cause you still gotta be nice but if your just a prick a small amount of the time itll keep her with you unless you do something like cheat on her etc. Just dont go to far otherwise youll be known as a complete asshole and then your really screwed.
2006-08-10 18:59:44 · answer #5 · answered by Tyler_Durden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a nice girl and I understand. I've learned that it's o.k. to be nice, but that we just have to have more confidence and spend more time on ourselves. Sometimes we give too much to others and it makes them feel that they don't have to work for it and as a result they don't have that deep attraction. Keep a girl guessing, but don't be sneaky and be a little unpredictable. Don't let her feel like she knows your next move, switch up the game a little. There is someone out there for you, I promise, don't stop being a nice guy, just add a little spice that's all. I wish you the best. Be Blessed!
2006-08-10 18:57:18 · answer #6 · answered by caramel_angelkiss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree dude. I am exactly the same bro. Nice guys finish last and I am last in that line.....LOL. Women say they do not want drama...but they do. I sometimes believe women like to say "I want a good guy" and then do the opposite b/c thats truly what they want. Saying they want a nice guy is the right thing to do, however it's never acted upon. Then they complain again. Its a vicious circle. Meanwhile we are right under their noses. They have no right to complain.
2006-08-10 19:02:15 · answer #7 · answered by Chef 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-04 08:25:53 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u just need 2 lessen being nice. Because, you know, "too much of a good thing turns to bad" so be nice but not too nice, OK.
2006-08-10 18:58:21 · answer #9 · answered by Rhine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't give up being a nice guy... guys like you really aren't so easy to find.
I went thru some bad-guy relationships, but finally got a nice guy... and... he's a KEEPER.
(It takes awhile for some of us to wake up & realize we've wasted precious time on those bad relationships).
Nice guys may have the label of finishing last... but being first doesn't mean>>> being the best.
2006-08-10 19:08:50 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know exactly what u mean, i am the same way, i feel guilty being the a**hole that almost all the women seems to fall in love with. It seems they just cant help themselves. Then were left with nothing but being a relationship therapist to the girls id rather be dating instead.
2006-08-10 18:57:14 · answer #11 · answered by Kurtis 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋