that she still keeps her exboyfriend love letters in a little box with pictures and the whole deal, right inside her closet what does this mean, should i be worry about that???
2006-08-10 18:08:19 · 14 answers · asked by xcentric 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I doubt it. I'm a bit of a packrat, I've still got my old boy scout uniforms from when I was growing up, the first pocket kife, the hammock I used at summer camp, etc. And, in a different box, I've got a bunch of old love letters back and forth from past lovers. Likewise, my partner has a box of letters, cards, small jewelry/necklaces from people in her past that she keeps for sentimental reasons. It's a part of who they are. Getting rid of the physical objects isn't going to excise that part of their past--they won't suddenly forget everything that happened between them, and you wouldn't want them to. After all, it's part of what makes them who they are. If you got rid of that, they wouldn't be the same person you've grown to love anymore. We mature by making mistakes and learning from them; if you fault people for past attempts they've made and failed at, you might as well condemn them to never mature--it's downright silly.
So, stop worrying about them; it's her past, it's part of who she is, and is part of what's taught her about life, and made her into the person you enjoy being with. You can't undo the past, so don't fret over it, and enjoy the present and the future instead.
Now go over and give her a hug, and apologize for being so silly. :)
2006-08-10 18:25:54 · answer #1 · answered by mpetach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-07 20:03:22 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I still keep letters from boyfriends I had in highschool. (trying not to date myself but that was12 years ago) I have not seen any of them for a long time and there is no way I would ever want to give up what I have now for any of them. I keep them because it is almost like a diary of someone else's view of your life at that time. I read them to remember some of the mundane, dramatic, and exciting times I had that I may not remember otherwise. I haven't read them in about 8 years but I might want to again one day. Don't push her to do anything with them that will just push her away. Just be glad she doesn't have HIM in a little box in her closet... that would be when you should worry =)
2006-08-10 20:29:33 · answer #3 · answered by lilmisscantbewrong 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should be worried too much although its not something that anyone should do. Maybe she likes to keep some memories of her past relationships. The important thing is she dosn't keep in touch with him, if she does then that's a more serious problem. But you should tell her it bothers you just so she knows.
2006-08-10 18:13:04 · answer #4 · answered by LilSo1287 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt worry about it, he's an ex for a reason. there are just some guys that a girls heart cant get over compleatly and she will love a part of him no matter what he put her through. i still have all the stuff from on of my ex's part of me will always love him even though he hurt me more than anyone else ever has or ever could. perhaps part of the reason i still have feelings for him, is because of the way he hurt me he made me a much stronger person more secure in myself, he has part of my heart, but i will never again be his, even if he came begging
2006-08-10 18:22:56 · answer #5 · answered by Taldeara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that you should be worried about unless she sits there and continues to read them over and over again. She may be a pack rat and just keep certain things that had a part in her life and he was apart of her life. You guys have been together long enough that that exbf shouldnt be a poblem.
2006-08-10 18:13:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should. i always wanted to know what is the purpose if you have moved on. what is she going to do show them to her grandchildren about her good memories. ive never kept pictures or love letter of exes. if they were just friends then that is different. she needs to discard those in front of you. i asked my ex to get rid of his pics of other girls and he never did. we're not together anymore so i guess he's glad he didnt get rid of them so maybe she will or maybe she wont. but it will always bug you knowing that she is saving them. well me personally id get rid of her if she doesnt. cause two years is long time to be playing around with a person emotion. some people would say dont worry about it. but that is easier said then done. you need to comfront this. cause if you were married she would have to get rid of them. if she is not serious with you then she needs to tell you. good luck. oh yeah my ex and i was together two years and he never got rid of his and we are no longer together
2006-08-10 18:18:27 · answer #7 · answered by eaglestraces123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you still getting the goods from her? If the answere is yes, forgetaboutit. Instead of writing to us, start writing mush love **** on nice stationary to her. Your box will go on top of the other box your concerned about.
Supercede & Procede
2006-08-10 18:14:38 · answer #8 · answered by ricosuarve 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do the same thing. i just resintley went through that box. my bf knows i keep it. i guess i hang on to those things to keep as memories. u no just to show to my kids when i get old. i wouldnt worry about it. if she loves u she loves u and nothings gonna change that, right
2006-08-10 18:21:26 · answer #9 · answered by danielle m 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its just her pass and she isnt willing to throw that away yet... It doesnt mean she dont have feelings for u,, i still have pictures and things from my ex and its been three years. alot of the time i just forgot about them, most of them i have thrown away just recently,, my fiance knew about them and it didnt bother him..
DONT WORRY
2006-08-10 18:14:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋