I love my b/f and we have a very goo good relationship, the problem is that we were friends before we started to date so i know a few things that he told me before. For example I love foreplay before sex, and i know because he told me that he hate it, he also hates just cuddlin. he tries to satisfy me hugging me and doin foreplay before sex but i know he is not comfortable with it. What should i do, cause i love the way our relationship is going and i dont want that change, but also i would like for him to feel good about it, am i being selfish?
2006-08-10 18:02:48 · 14 answers · asked by Lauranna L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should both meet in the middle and be willing to please each other to have a good relationship in and out of the bed.
2006-08-10 18:06:06 · answer #1 · answered by aoinerekai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You worry too much. He might really like those things with you, even though with past girls, he didn't want to put in that kind of effort. Guys are strange that way. Anyway, enjoy your relationship and let him know how you feel and what you like and encourage him to do that too. I would assume he does feel good about things and NO, you are not selfish.
2006-08-11 01:07:06 · answer #2 · answered by joandi_99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is just like every other guy. most guys dont like foreplay (unless its a focus on us!) cos we would rather just get into it. guys dont understand that women unlike men need to get ready (wet) for sex. and whens its over, guys just want to lay back and relax and not have to hold and cuddle after we have exhausted ourselves. be selfish though. get him in the habit. cos if he doesnt do it now, he never will
2006-08-11 01:09:52 · answer #3 · answered by marcvialli 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not at all, both have to give and take in every relationship... My hubby and I were friends for 15 years before we got together so we knew alot about each other and usually that's good but sometimes it's not... we tend to use it on each other when we get mad.... You both have to bend sometimes and it sounds like the both of you are.... When it comes to sex, pleasing each other is part of the pleasure of sex....Just keep on trying to please him and I'm sure he will try and do the same.... Have fun.........
2006-08-11 01:30:02 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, your not being selfish. Tell him to read a book before it ever happens, and that book is Blaise Harris, Retrieveing a lover. At least he'll get some insight, from it, if nothing else. If he doesn't want to read it, read it yourself.
2006-08-11 01:08:01 · answer #5 · answered by The Lonely Skywolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let him do the foreplay and cuddling every once in a while and every once in a while just give him the straight to it no foreplay that way u both r satisfied,,,,
2006-08-11 01:08:32 · answer #6 · answered by *tattooe chick*** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not being selfish but maybe talk to him about it and see if you can both come to some sort of agreement or something you both like b4 or during sex..........
2006-08-11 01:08:37 · answer #7 · answered by Tigerlilly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by shutting the hell up. I would leave yor histerical *** too, just got over and give him a BJ, everything will be ok then.
PS" When your done, leave.
2006-08-11 01:05:57 · answer #8 · answered by johnneedaname 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go half and half compromise with him, tell him you know he doesnt like it , but you do , and some of the time you want it and some of the time you will do without, make it fair, good luck with the new and exciting relationship!!
2006-08-11 01:07:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no thats totally normal but if it comforts u to do this before sex maybe u should talk to him about it
2006-08-11 01:16:03 · answer #10 · answered by cytrus087 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋