We just had a baby girl that is now 6 weeks old, he just takes off and doesn't come home and yells and blames me for things. He won't talk to me about anything he is feeling, I don't push him to either, he just gets mad. He won't take medication for it even though he should.I can usually tell when he is about to have a episode, but they are getting worse and worse and I don't know what to do. I love him so much and just want to help him. Please help me to help him. I'm starting to be afraid of him.
2006-08-10 17:51:05 · 41 answers · asked by manders4779 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
run...run a way.... find a new boy friend.
2006-08-10 17:54:48 · answer #1 · answered by Guzzy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a very similar problem. My fiance would not see a doctor or take meds either. May be harder to do with a baby. He would just get in these rages out of the blue. I would not give him the satifaction of arguing with him and leave, give him a day or so without talking to him, he would realize that he had done something and we would talk about it . Now he sees a doc. and is on meds. that are working great. Good Luck
2006-08-10 18:06:15 · answer #2 · answered by alyssamarie17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would be very good for anyone in this matter is to have get some help. Or when he's starting to have an episode calm him down immediately, but don't try to as much other wise he will notice just stay relaxed. try to make him have some quality time with your baby so he gets his mind off of everything just mak sure is not upset you don't want the baby to get hurt.
2006-08-10 17:58:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband's uncle was married to a woman with bipolar. She really needed to be in a mental institution, but no place would keep her more than a couple of weeks at a time. It was a heartbreaking situation for him.
The problem is that even when people with bipolar are taking medication, they almost always quit taking it at some point because,"they feel so good". I hate to say leave him, but for your safety and your baby's you probably need to. Especially since his episodes involve so much anger. Yes, he needs to see a psychiatrist, but you have to get out now........while you still can.
2006-08-10 17:58:14 · answer #4 · answered by SuzieQ92 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you. I've actually been in your position. Sometimes nothing is more painful than just enduring the episodes but also having your spouse-to-be not trying to help the situation. You may wonder if they are content with how things are (which includes leaving you in a state of fear). My only guidance would be to try and get him to seek a counselor or psychiatrist. If he is opposed to medication he will probably resist. If you were married, and things got bad enough you may be in a position to place him in an in-patient program. But you're not, so he'd have to either go willingly or be forced to because of violence to self or others.
You want to help him? Love him. You've had a child with this man, you're stuck if for no other reason than for the child's sake. If he knows you're not going to leave, he may find some comfort in that, knowing you're safe. Bottom line is he has to take accountability to his actions, this is bigger than you. And in many ways its bigger than him, hence why seeking help is so critical.
Given you have a child to take care of, you should have a plan tucked away in case he loses control. A place to go, someone to call, leave the baby with, that kind of thing.
Sounds like you need a lot of things, I can only offer one, prayer. Lean on Him and give it up. TRUST ME. Your Father in Heaven knows your pain and is with you wherever you go. In addition, keep gently pushing him to seek serious professional help.
A word of warning. It may reach a point where he meltsdown (more than you've ever seen), that may be what it takes for him to understand what he has to lose if he continues on a downward trend.
2006-08-10 18:02:10 · answer #5 · answered by Bamos 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sis--unfortunately the law of entropy says that things usually go from order to disorder....so you are right to look for help now...however, you need to do something more than look on Yahoo answers. (youknowthat!) Remember, there are two sides to every story, what i am saying is that you have your faults too (im sure youknow that too!) I would say that rather than FOCUS on his weaknesses, you could come to him and talk about your own.....then if your lucky he may chat with you and even open up about his weaknesses; and since you will have already been vulnerable and allowed him to help you, maybe he will allow you to help him :)
by the way: im a believer that a child should have both parents :)
2006-08-10 18:00:26 · answer #6 · answered by Ken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your child and leave. If he doesn't take his medication he will continue to have good moods and bad moods and there is nothing you can do to help him, no matter how much you love him. You are putting yourself and your child in danger by being with this person. He's not moody, he's sick. You should be very afraid of him. Ask your family and friends for shelter and help.
2006-08-10 17:55:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't marry him until he gets his condition under control. No matter how much you love him you can not fix him. He has to want to fix himself. I personal feel that you should run and don't look back. From experience (my parents) it will only get worse. And it is also bad for the kids you might have. I know it will hurt at first when you break up but there is someone special out there for you.
2006-08-10 18:03:54 · answer #8 · answered by lovedietdp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slip lithium into his food. He needs some sort of mood stabalizer. No, seriously either get him on meds or leave. It's only going to get worse. Bipolar activity tends to get more and more extreme until there is some sort of resolution. Unfortunately, the resolution of people that do not go on medicine is often suicide. Seek help for all three of you.
2006-08-10 17:58:22 · answer #9 · answered by cricket 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
" Feed Him More Fruits And Vegetables.
Remove All Sources Of Saturated Animal Fats From His Diet.
Remove All Dairy Products.
Increase His Consumption Of Omega3 Fatty Acids.
Lower His Sodium intake.
Chamomile Tea Will Calm Him Down.
Soy Milk May Help Also.. "
2006-08-10 18:02:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Simply tell him that he needs to go one medication to control it...nothing else is gonna work. He's just gonna get worse and make you even more scared. You and your child are gonna end up hurt...he starts on medication or you leave him....simple as that.
My sister-in-law and my brother just had there baby taken away from them because my sister-in-law broke her leg....she's bipolar and wasnt taking meds at the time...thing is...she doesnt even remember doing it, its like she wasnt herself, or in control.There baby woke up around 4am and my sister-in-law got up with her to change her diaper...it is hard on her and she's very young....she totally lost it when my neice wouldnt stop crying and when she opened her legs to change her she yanked pretty hard,twisting her thigh and breaking her leg.
If he wont help himself then you and you're baby need to leave before he hurts you guys. No one here can help him or you...he needs to help himself and so do you.
2006-08-10 18:07:46 · answer #11 · answered by hotmama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋