does praying really work? PLEASE READ THE WHOLE QUES.?

Question

i'm wondering if praying really works...yesterday i went to church for the first time in a while, and we were talking about things not being fair, but you pray for it anyways. does praying really work...honestly? i started last night praying....im having some problems with the guy i like...he went to camp and had sex, and that really hurt me because he was a virgin, and i really didn't think he was "like that" but i guess boys are boys. anyways, i was thanking god that i wasn't the girl he did it with because i'm sure she's not feeling to good right now, and i also prayed that god would help me find someone caring, nice...and just right for me.

so my question is, if u pray enough does it happen? i'm so confused......[i'm 15, and please don't say "you shouldn't worry about boys at ur age....]

Answer 1

Praying works, yes, but it doesn't always happen when you want it to. The school year starts soon and you may meet the right guy the first semester. There may be other guys you will date but think of them more as friends and know they're not the right one. It may not be until college or even later.

I don't want to say I know how you feel, because it's been a long time since I've been in that situation. I do remember, however, that feeling at 15 of desperation because you think you're the only girl without a boyfriend. It's hard to see everyone else pairing off, but if you look hard enough, there are groups of kids who are all just friends and some kids who are alone because no one has had the time to get to know them.

You sound like a very wise, mature young woman. You're compassionate--witness you praying for the other girl. Think how she must feel now that camp is over and she's history as far as he's concerned. You were smart to see him for what he is.

You're not too young at 15 to want a boyfriend. You just need to be careful it doesn't get too serious too fast and out of control. Somehow I don't think you're that kind of girl.

Be patient, probably two of the hardest words to hear in the English language. Immerse yourself in school activities--inside and outside the classroom (theatre, sports, yearbook, whatever) and you may be surprised. Don't forget groups outside your school--you have another life besides that! Church groups, volunteer groups, sports, are all good avenues to meet people.

Good luck to you.

Answer 2

You don't pray to "make" God do anything. Don't think of God like some kind of wishing well. You need to pray for strength and that God fills you with the proper desires and convictions. Pray that God will help you stay chaste until you are married. Pray for your future husband. Pray that God keeps him safe and helps him stay a virgin. Pray that God will bring you the man he wants you to marry when the time is right. Now it is your turn to have faith, trust and obey. God has his own timing.

I think you are awesome that you are concerned about staying a virgin and that your boyfriend is also. I also think it is wonderful that you are keeping God in the picture. Sometimes it is hard when God says "no". Sometimes we feel ignored by God only because we are impatient or we want our own will and not His will. Focus your mind on His will in your life---not what you think is best.

Oh and yes praying really does work. I have seen many prayers answered. It is easy to see prayers answered when they are answsered how "we" want them answered. However, I have seen prayers answered when the outcome was not what was wanted. Ya know what though, it all turned out for the best. Why? Because as the Bible says, all things come together for good for those that love the Lord.

Be patient and God bless you.

Answer 3

Well first of all praying is very powerful and when you pray your actually communicating with god.And that is a personal relation between you two.Yes praying works if you have faith,hope ,and believe.God is very powerful and be careful what you pray for.If you pray for something and you don't give it time for god to do his work then people start to lose faith and that's why people stop believing because there prayers not answered at that time.We have to let time take it place.I pray all the time and my prayers may not be answered that day or that week but it does get answered.give it time your still young maybe that was one of gods message to you by letting you know how that boy really is.did you think of that.God is with you and your prayers will be answered . you have a lot to learn about boys and alot of life to live enjoy life while you can .I hope that I was some type of help to you. Good luck

Answer 4

The Bible says, "Pray without ceasing". That means to talk to God about everything... all the time. I wake up in the morning and before I get out of bed I thank God that I am alive one more day. I talk to him through getting ready, eating breakfast, driving to work, while on hold on the phone, during lunch. I pray all the time, about all kinds of things.

Now listen... prayer is NOT about putting God into a position to have to do something for you. Its not about the words you say, or the thoughts behind the words, or your motives. Its not that at all. Prayer is about spending time talking directly to God the CREATOR! Its about changing YOUR heart. It is how God changes you into the person He would like you to be.

So if you are saying, "Will God do what I ask Him to do?", then my answer would be that perhaps He will. But if your question is, "Will I be fulfilled and given peace about this issue and shown that I am not alone and develop a closer walk with God?", then my answer is YES! He wants you to pray so He can change you.

I am so proud of you for your thoughts and the kind of person you seem to be. Find an adult mentor in your Church that will sit and listen to you and hear your heart. Keep up the good work.

Answer 5

Praying does help. I know.

Now, mind you God answers our prayers in His way.

Sometimes we are too impatient and don't like to wait for Him to answer His way.

I have seen people who were very evil suddenly change because there was a group of Christians praying for them to change before they died and there it was. An alcoholic who was lying and stealing from family to get booze money just decided to go to Alcoholics Anonymous. Change their life, asked everyone to forgive and started working two jobs to pay back the money.


It has helped me to understand things better. Sometimes I tell God I am frustrated and don't understand what is going on here and always when I am done I feel a peacefulness settle over me.

I may not get my prayer answered right away but I got some peace of mind because I took the time to pray. By the way, I prayed that God would stop all the shooting and bombing which was a HUGE, MAJOR issue that would take a humongous miracle!!

Your friends like it when you call them up to talk right?
Well God likes to hear from us too!!

AS FOR BOYS, there are going to be some who don't have a father to teach them to respect girls. There will be some who do, but you have to be really careful and make it clear what kind of girl you are. Some boys only want to use you and then they will toss you away like an old dishrag. There are some who truly like you and want to be your friend. Go slow, take time to know a boy before you trust him. Also, trust your parents, they have been around a lot longer than you and no matter how "neat" you think a boy is if your parents don't like him it is because they can see something in him that you are mature enough to detect. Who is smarter, a sixth grader or a tenth grader? Who's smarter, a tenth grader or someone who has been around for thirty or forty years learning about all kinds of people? Think about that if ever your parents tell you a boy or girl is trouble. They know!!!

I'm glad to read that you asked God to help you find a decent boy. That tells me you have good common sense. The boy you thought you liked didn't have his priorities straight. I'm glad you found out about him early on. Before he used you.

And if a boy tries to get rough with you don't be afraid to scratch, bite or kick if necessary, it is your right.

Answer 6

"does praying really work?" -- YES, prayer works. At the time that GOD decides, not mans.
"if u pray enough does it happen?" -- After reading your whole question, the answer is yes.
But this comment about being confused - makes me ask you to talk to your Mom, or group of women family (grandma, Aunts,etc.) They were young, and have knowledge - they learned things. Don't distrust this source of knowledge, but if you do, ask someone YOU trust, to help clear up your confusion.
Thinking of boys is perfectly natural. Taking care of yourself, and learning is more important; and seriously being 15 - you have time on your side. Ask away!
Have a wonderful adventure! (but always look before you leap! There really is no such thing as a silly question.

Answer 7

Yes, praying really does work. But God only provides for our needs, not our wants. Your desire to remain morally clean is commendable and for that you will be blessed. However, part of the purpose for our being here on earth is to learn how to deal with adversity. Even the most obedient people will still be expected to face trials in their lives. It is how we grow, by overcoming opposition. Each of us has the opportunity to make our own choices in this life, your boyfriend included. There is a lot of pressure on teenagers today to conform with the ways of the world. For him it may have been just one mistake, or it may reflect deeper character traits. Ask him why he did it, and tell him how it made you feel that he had betrayed your turst. His responses will tell you a lot about his character.

You can definitely receive answers to prayer, but you must be sincere in your prayers. Also, don't expect God to bless you unless you are keeping his commandments. Going back to church is a good start. You are also more likely to meet boys there with similar standards to your own. Don't forget that prayer is not just asking God for stuff, remember to thank him for all that he has given you too. He will answer you in his own time and in his own way. It may not necessarilly be the answer you expect either, but it will be the right answer.

Answer 8

When we pray, we have to keep the faith. Without faith it will be useless. When you have faith miracle takes place and prayers are answered. Prayers don't get answered overnight, some don't get answered at all. God knows what is good and right for us. He will give it to us when the time is right. So, just keep praying and keep the faith. Lastly, age does not define the maturity of a person. We have to be a responsible person no matter how old we are.

Answer 9

yes, prayer works! It has worked for me my whole life....Now let me add that we do not always get everything we pray for. Sometimes it is not meant. Sometimes we must be very patient for the answered prayers. I have had more answered prayers in the past 3 years or so than I ever had at once, but some of them took years to happen. (like reuniting with some family members and stuff.) God works, but in His perfect time. KEEP THE FAITH!!

Answer 10

I think you will find, as you grow in spritual maturity, that your style of praying will change. I would have to sgree with what you have prayed for and can tell you for a fact that praying works. I would have to say confusion can be the best place sometimes because you are open to any answer to your prayer. Just keep it up.