Okay my close girl cousin are both 14 like me and one of them has already lost there virginity and one has got fingered and jacked someone off. And well I dont kno what to do... i feel left out.
2006-08-10 16:59:53 · 28 answers · asked by i_love_dudes13 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why? Because you are not letting some guy use you?
2006-08-10 17:04:07 · answer #1 · answered by Leididanger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be proud of yourself. No matter what they tell you, their experiences would have been scary and confusing for them and that will impact all of their relationships from now on. Don't ever do anything you don't want to, no matter what others are doing. In the end, you are the one who will have a good, healthy relationship without carrying the scars of connecting intimately with too may people. You are 14!! Enjoy it while you can - sex and relationships will come soon enough.
2006-08-10 17:05:35 · answer #2 · answered by Rae 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be in any hurry to entering into that world. You will know when the time is right!! There is a lot to say about waiting until you are a bit older to enter into sexual relations ... you have plenty of time so don't feel pressured into anything!!
Wait until you find a wonderful guy that you are crazy about ... wait a few more years and it will be all the better!!
Never do things just because those around you are doing them ... it much more important to wait until you find the right person and then move slowly.
Be patient ... good things happen to those who wait!!
2006-08-10 17:06:44 · answer #3 · answered by J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't get diseases or become a teenage mother being a member of the "out" crowd. Being a non-virgin at 14 isn't exactly a badge of honor- it just screams, "use me! I'm easy!" You will go places in life. Sadly, your cousin, most likely, will not. Be a kid and leave sex and boys alone. It's not worth all that comes with it!
2006-08-10 17:05:59 · answer #4 · answered by ?princesshousewife? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel peer pressure to start doing things that you think are cool or grown up. Being a tramp isn't grown up. Your cousins are playing with fire. There are STD out there and they're running the risk of pregnancy.
Show them that you are smarter than they are. Focus on sports and your studies. There's plenty of time to discover sex. Do it when you are older and more mature, physically and emotionally.
Having sexual experiences at 14 is nothing to brag about. --Also,
a word to the wise.- Young kids lie about stuff when they are
younger just to brag and make themselves seem more worldly.
Respect yourself and your body. Don't be sexual until you are
much older and are absolutely in love. I promise you, you won't
regret it.
2006-08-10 17:07:41 · answer #5 · answered by Linda S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not missing ANYTHING.
They're probably going to feel pretty cheap about themselves before too long. Keep youself for your first love. It's worth it.
(Little secret: a guy wants his first love to not have done anything with any other guy. This is very, very important to a guy. Just as important as the wedding day is to a girl.)
You're not being left out. They're going too far ahead. You're doing the right thing.
2006-08-10 17:06:16 · answer #6 · answered by John C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont feel left out...please...its good to keep ur goods to urself...not saying that u have to wait until marriage, but it is good to...if u dont wait until marriage share it with someone that u LOVE...dont just give up what u have or feel left out. Boys/Men like girls that are virgins sometimes...you have ur whole life ahead of u dont move too fast.
2006-08-10 17:04:53 · answer #7 · answered by chocolate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GURL Do not feel ashamed because you are not a little slut. What is a 14 year old doing having sex in any kind of way. and with who? do they even care about their bodies? it doesn't sound like it. don't give up a precious thing like your virginity because you want to fit in. I know what it's like to feel a little left out. it doesn't mean that i have to cave in.
2006-08-10 17:06:46 · answer #8 · answered by Jessica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT worry about that...14 year olds are still children and you need to enjoy having fun...basically, your cousins are whores...do NOT be like them...either they're lying or they'll be pregnant by time high school graduation rolls around. You don't want that...
2006-08-10 17:03:31 · answer #9 · answered by stowchick01 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats's what you call peer pressure. You should not do anything that you might regret just because they have something to "brag" about and you dont. Take your time..the right guy for you is out there somewhere. wouldnt it be nice if you wait a little??
2006-08-10 17:06:04 · answer #10 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel left out. Be proud, because you won't be preggie at 15 and you can still live life to its full extent, without being an idiot.
2006-08-10 17:04:30 · answer #11 · answered by Cassie♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋