you see 2 of my bestfriend havehad sex one told me but the other didn`t.she told one of the people that has just moved in with her and she told me.but told me not to tell anyone and you see i`m kinda worried about her.u see she has not had the best life her mom was on drugs bad but not that bad anymore.but still and her sister just had a baby and she is only 19 but the dad of the baby is a dead beat and her sister does not really it don`t take care of the babt much anyways.cause she says she loves him.but you my bestfriend is haveing sex with a 23 yr old that is nasty and i heard she has had sex 6 times already and she just started haveing it last week i mean i though i new her but she has changed alot.back to point with all my friends haveing sex and stuff it puts prussure on me to have sex and its makes me think do it and get it over with cause i fekk like if i don`t do it i will be left i`m like the goody2shoes of the bunch anyways and with friends that have sex i feel kinda leftout
2006-08-10 16:54:43 · 40 answers · asked by ~Unsure Girl~ 2 in Health ➔ Other - Health
I want to congratulate you for NOT doing the sex thing so far. You sound as if you really don't want to but feel you have to just because your friends (are they really friends) do. I think from your question above that you are the true friend. You are concerned about them but know that it could really play havoc with their lives. Please don't do it just because they have. You have so much to look forward to when you really love the person that you will spend the rest of your life with. Life is hard enough without adding this type of pressure to it. Stick to your guns and be proud of your decision not to have premartial sex.
2006-08-10 17:09:32 · answer #1 · answered by HolidayGurl 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
be the goodie 2 shoes. it is better to be the good girl than the bad girl.
when i was growing up...i'm still growing im only 23.
I was the good girl. And it stinks @ times but everything they did then haunts them. Because ppl dont forget the things that they have done. Now the friends that had sex young have slept with many ppl and have slutty reps. you dont want that.
Be unique. Be yourself.
Most of the girls that i know that had sex young, I feel sorry for them now. Most of the have 2 or 3. Got married because they got knocked up and are stuck in there miserable live because once they got a kid they did not have the money/resources to go to college. Now the are fat uneducated with a gang of children. Where as I have an education. A job a love and a wonderful wonderful husband. Who does not have to worry that I have slept with 101 guys. Because i was a good girl.
2006-08-10 17:04:30 · answer #2 · answered by Liz 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to have sex just because you are pressured by your friends. The problem with having sex at 14 is that you put yourself in danger of getting pregnant. Even if you use a condom, that's only 90% effective, which leaves you a 10% chance of getting pregnant. And you're too young to have a baby. Secondly, the incidence of sexually transmitted disease is very high nowadays. AIDS, gonorrhea...etc. You'd be doing yourself more harm than good if you indulge in sex unnecessarily. 3rdly, being a virgin at your age is not bad. Technically, women are biologically fit to have a baby only at 18 and above, so spare yourself the possibility of getting pregnant, both biologically and emotionally. Fourthly, I think you shouldnt rush yourself into sex. You should do it if you really like or love the guy. And you are more mature emotionally. Take your time and choose well.
2006-08-10 17:42:16 · answer #3 · answered by gingin 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having sex for the sake of not being left out may make you feel worse. If it disappoints you, (and it probably will) it's a lousy first memory, one you have to live with. It's not that big of a deal, that you have to rush out and do it now.
Sex (or making love) is a special time between two people who love each other share. Keep it special. Someday, you will fall inlove and then it will be right.
You are young and you have plenty of time. Don't rush into it. It's not what it seems. You can always tell a white lie to your friends if it makes you feel better, but don't do something you may regret later. Even if you had sex tonight, who is really gonna know unless you tell them? Wait for when you are inlove, that's what it's meant for and you will be happy you did.
2006-08-10 17:17:43 · answer #4 · answered by Ven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it might be tough, but get new friends. Take pride in that you have not had sex. I can tell you any guy who ever meets a girl who loosed her virginity so young would never have any respect for you.
STDs, baby's and all that isn't worth it. Take a stand. Be proud that you know you will not loose your virginity until you are ready and only until you are ready. That is truly an honorable thing.
Just think if you had a daughter. What would you want for her.
Get some new friends. Even if there good to you. They will do nothing but bring you down the same ugly path.
2006-08-10 17:08:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's think about this for a minute. Even though your 2 best friends are sexually active, they should not respect you any less than they do now. It is they who are to be less respectable. I can not recall where I learned about unsafe sex practices so I am not sure if you have been educated on this subject as of late. There are horrible and painful diseases called STDs (Sexually Transmitted Diseases), and this also includes HIV, that could be transferred through unsafe sex practices. This could be the source of huge regret in the rest of your life. Worse yet, you get pregnant. Then what? Your best bet is abstinence. If your friends pressure you to have sex or consider you a loser, then you dont need friends like that. Friends should be supportive of you. I know it probably seems easy for me to say it, but ultimately, the choice is yours. But think...are you having sex because you think the time is right? Or are you just trying to fit in? Your call...be smart and good luck to you.
2006-08-10 17:09:09 · answer #6 · answered by beery 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friends start smoking crack would you? Sex can be just as addiciting and deadly. There are so many diseases out there, and nasty a** people that will lie to your face about whether or not they have any, and if it ain't that its getting pregnant you gotta worry about. You've already seen what it can do first hand with your friends sister. If fact I was a teenage mom to, only I had my first child at 15. Don't get me wrong, I love my daughter, but if I had it to do over again, I would. Don't rush growing up cuz you'll regret it and if your friends or ANYONE can't respect your decision, then they weren't your friends to begin with. Doing the right thing isn't always easy.
2006-08-10 17:07:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now you might feel like to goody two-shoes, but when you start looking for a husband, you will be much more desirable to men than a has-been tramp with an STD. If you wait until you are older, it will be much better. Don't have sex with someone just to "get it over with." Losing your virginity changes girls, and if it isn't the right scenario, or even if she thinks it is, but a breakup comes along, it causes a lot of wounding to a girl's soul. Your virginity is precious and not a cheap commodity to be traded just to fit in. Sex affects WHO YOU ARE as a person in the future, if you are having sex that hurts you emotionally, or if you are doing it for the wrong reasons. Besides, if your friends already think you're the good one, just give them more of what they already expect. If they bring it up to you, just casually respond, "Yeah, well, You know Me!"
2006-08-10 17:05:41 · answer #8 · answered by lizardmama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not follow. I'm 16 and I have friends like that, it's a bad influence, it'll have a huge impact on you. Be who you are, don't be a follower. Who cares if they have sex? Does it mean anything to you? They're just hurting themselves and their life. You don't have sex for fun, I think having sex with a girl is dead serious in a relationship and it's not right to screw other people too. If you're the goody two shoes of the bunch, then stay that way, you're more secure. Don't put yourself at risk.
2006-08-10 17:04:21 · answer #9 · answered by krazych1nky 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a 14 year old guy and I'm virgin too I'm going to tell you to not do it. What if you get pregnenant you want that responsiblilty and **** you don't need that. Don't force your self to have sex have sex with someone you really care about and love. Sex isn't for enjoyment well it is in some cases but what ever. I think you should have sex with someone you really care about when your like 17 or 18 thats my plan. If your want to be relegious and stuff wait till your married. Trust me what your friends are doing they will regret.
2006-08-10 17:04:36 · answer #10 · answered by monte_x2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋