is 165lbs for a girl alot to weigh???

Question

well I guess thats a stupid question because I KNOW its big... but I'm such an emotional eater.... how can I make myself not eat when I am upset or stressed?? and walking or taking a bath wont help me... I just always go back to eating!!! a few years ago I drank to deal with my problems then I turned to drugs... now I have quit all that stuf but now I have turned to food for help!!!!!! so do you have any ways to help me deal with my emotions and stop eating so damn much???

Answer 1

You're going to have to see a psychiatrist about your emmotional problems. In regards to the eating, go on the Atkins Diet. If you stay on this diet, and lay off carbs, you can lose the weight and keep eating.

Answer 2

Here's a couple of tips (by the way 165 is big depending on your height, if you're 6 ft, then no probably not, but if your 4'9" then YEAH, but you already said you knew you didn't like your size, so the numbers don't matter, you're unhappy, that DOES matter). To fix your problem of emotional eating you need to fix your problems... I know that's over simplifying the situation, BUT to be honest it's the best way to stop. You have what they call an addictive personality, meaning it's gotta be something with you, so the eating, or the alcohol or the drugs are just your answers to your everyday problems in life, you're not a bad person for this, but there IS a way to deal with life's stresses and NOT go into addictions. You need to get professional help for this, and don't be ashamed that you need help, we all have some sort of weakness! In the mean time, IF you feel you HAVE to eat, don't go for that ice cream that you know you'll eat WAY to much of, try negative re-inforcement, try eating something you DON'T like (like I can't STAND pork-rinds the smell of them makes me sick... along with orange jello, but that's a LONG story). Also IF you don't like that idea (and who does) make sure what you are snacking on is healthy, like once a week go through and cut up a BUNCH of carrot sticks (or buy the baby ones) or celery and cucumbers to make sure that when you have a spontaneous emotional need those snacks are there and ready to eat. I've heard you can also try chewing gum, because you won't feel like eating when you're chewing and it's not as "fattening". Another solution, don't even GO down the chip, soda and cookie/snack isle at the grocery store, you can't eat them if you don't have access to them, I did that because I was looking at ways to cut our budget, and the expensive snacking had to go, I could barely afford the basics so snacks were out of the question, I found I really didn't miss them all that much. Also, don't COMPLETELY deny yourself the foods that you love, because that will only make you binge on them, and then you will feel guilty, and feel bad about yourself, and then make you eat more! Make them rewards or treats only, or maybe even a regular weekly thing, but once you've had your treat for the week, no more. Also like I said, don't have these things in your home readily available anytime, you crave ice cream? Well then once a week make a trip to Dairy Queen (or wherever you like) and only order of the children's menu (some places even have a "child's size" banana split, and while it's not SMALL it's not as big as their regular one). Also use this theory for eating at fast food joints PERIOD, unless you have enough restraint to actually buy and eat only those salads many are starting to offer. Me I have kids, so people don't look at me strange when I order 3 Happy meals (usually from the to-go window) because they can see I have kids, just not how many, so they don't know that third happy meal is for ME! And I let the kids keep the toys!

Answer 3

depends on how tall you are. Instead of turning to food, try finding something else to do w/your energy besides eat. Take up something at the gym: work out, start boxing(if you think you might be into it), run, walk(take a friend w/u and just have a major b*itch session, eventually it will turn into other convo's), heck- I started doing Tae Boe at home(massive energy boost, after the first 1 1/2 to 2 weeks) Eating will not solve what ever you think(trust me, I know) it might and in the long run will hurt your body--alot, especially if you are not eating the right foods.

I wish you tons of luck and hope things turn out well.

Answer 4

i kinda know how u feel but I'm 14 and my house burn`t when i was 11 and Then i moved over 12 different times in 2 years and Then when i was in 4th grade a guy that used to babysit me and everything was drunk and tried to rape me at 3:00 in the morning but what I'm getting to is that i`m a emotional eater to and that i was bigger then what you are now but i held my weight so i did`t look that big but try to eat a big meal so u don`t snack so much and then try to eat like pepproni and bologna and like a chesse burger with out the bun it and walk a mile a day and drink water and gatorade and stuff and hope this helps you.

Answer 5

A person's ideal weight is determined by their height and build. There is no ideal weight for all women. Tall, muscular, or stocky women will weigh more than short, emaciated girls. 165 lbs is within the range of normal for most women. As far as eating to deal with your emotional problems, switch to exercise. Now exercising isn't like emotional eating...you have to do it regularly, not just when you feel bad.

Answer 6

Firstly, 165lbs is not necessarily too heavy. If you're tall, it might be just about right (I'm 5'8" and about 160, and while losing a few pounds wouldn't hurt, I don't look real big). Secondly, it sounds like you might have some serious emotional problems. While a hobby might help distract you, it sounds like you might have to bite the bullet and see a therapist. (Btw, kudos for kicking the drugs and booze!)

Answer 7

Not if you are 6'1- then you're the right weight for your height!
First you need to accept yourself exactly as you are-- good and bad, talents and faults. You might want to look into support groups, or even see a therapist to find out the underlying cause of your addictive behaviors and learn skills to help correct them.
Find new hobbies and activities to help you cope with stress. Or maybe just allow yourself to feel those emotions once ina while.

Answer 8

i would say that u might want to get some counseling there are a lot of free services out there to help. the other suggestion would be to get rid of the junk food in ur house. snack on healthy foods. u know a whole cucumber has 20 calories. if u need to eat eat something thats low in calories and fat, and is good 4 u.

Answer 9

honey, im 19, i weigh 200lbs, no, 165 isn't too much for a girl to weigh, but since all you care about is your looks then you should just stop on eating put down the fork and work out and you'll lose some weight if you feel you are SO BIG but if you just think you are big because the girls around you are toothpicks...just remember, lots of boys like big girls...lol

Answer 10

Maybe you should talk to someone you trust about this. He/she can help you find a way to solve this problem, such as getting counseling, for instance. Then eventually, maybe you'll find out how to get rid of your habit.

By the way, it depends on how tall you are. 165 lbs isn't
necessarily too much.

Answer 11

Try to eat healthier then. Carrot and celery sticks are a start. Instead of fast food, go for a salad. Things like that. And I'd like to congratulate you on quitting drinking and drugs; I'm a smoker and weak-willed, and I know how hard that can be.