I was involved with this guy who lives 2 hrs away from me. He is currently going through a divorce, but in the house with her yet. I'm desperately missing him and want to see him again. I know he promised I would hear from him again, but I've been wondering if calling or writing him a letter would be too risky with the wife still being there. Any ideas or suggestions would be of great help. I really like this guy and I believe he likes me too. Is moving to his town too much also?
2006-08-10 16:49:10 · 15 answers · asked by witchywoman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He has already made attempts to move with a friend. He's stated to me and my friend both that he sleeps on the couch and they are not having sex.
2006-08-11 05:19:54 · update #1
Stay put my friend, Let him do what he needs to do.
That part of his life you shouldnt interfer with.
Let him do what needs to be done and then if its true love he will come looking for you.
Let him come to you.
see ya
2006-08-10 16:54:39 · answer #1 · answered by Quelynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all the man is still married. You are taking another woman's man because they are not divorced yet (nor do you know if what he says about the divorce is true) and, sometimes people get back together, or maybe the wife won't sign the papers, or maybe there are children involved and he will have to pay for his children (and not pay for you). And, this man may be leading you on. Do you really want someone on the rebound? Heck their bed isn't even cool and you're jumping on him...gee. What you do to another woman will come back to you in your life...it's like a boomerang...so cool your heels. Don't move into his town. He says he's not ready and that "he will call you" so wait for the call. Find something else to do while you wait, maybe education, maybe a hobby.
2006-08-10 23:58:38 · answer #2 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moving or contacting him with a letter or phone call to his house is way too much right now! You must realize you could jeopardize his child custody, cause ill feelings between his children and their father, and give the soon to be ex ammunition to use in court. Don't be selfish, you'll have the rest of your life to be with him. Patience is a virtue, and in this case, a necessity!
2006-08-10 23:56:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is basically her man-not yours. You are the other woman and if you wanna play that role for any amount in time you have to A) not blow it by pushing things, and B) know he is doing her too--and NOT have a problem with that. The 2hr away thing is what makes me think it won't work. But in the mean time get yourself a boytoy to sleep with while he is away. (he has his gurl) This way your needs are met too, AND he gets to see what it's like for you knowing he is in the arms of someone else. Besides, competition brings out best in men!
2006-08-10 23:57:28 · answer #4 · answered by not4u_2bad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don' write, don't call, and don't under any circumstances move to his town. If you do any of those things you will come off as desperate and needy: the last thing he wants if he is just getting out of a marriage. Restrain yourself and let him get in touch with you.
2006-08-10 23:55:22 · answer #5 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would definetly be doing to much if you moved to the same town as him. You're expecting to much to soon. he still lives with his exwife for goodness sake. how do you even know he's divorced to her? you need to be very carefull. You never know what kind of a person he really is. Good Luck!
2006-08-10 23:56:59 · answer #6 · answered by Jessica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calling him or writing him might just tell you if he is telling the truth. His wife might not know that about you and the so called divorce. Moveing is way too much. Be carefull. I hope he is telling you the truth for your sake.
2006-08-10 23:57:58 · answer #7 · answered by who is that girl? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use to work for dcfs (Dept of Children & Family Serv) and yes. have read many cases where soemone (husband/wife) finds the other in bed with another and goes to prison and makes the children w/o parents to raise them! Yes, time will come when moment is right, death is worse than horniness!
2006-08-10 23:56:30 · answer #8 · answered by sixfoot8bkr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe moving there before you hear from him is to risky but you should be able to call him even if his wife is still there. after all they are over so it shouldn't matter
2006-08-10 23:53:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't call him or write wait until he contacts you and tell him how you feel about the situation with his wife and go on his reaction.
2006-08-10 23:54:40 · answer #10 · answered by single mami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋