Ok so my little brother who is 13 flew out to visit my husband and I. (we paid for his ticket) He slept on our couch the whole two weeks and when he left we realised he still has a problem wetting the bed. (it's a very bad family situation, as you can tell with a 13 year old still wetting the bed.) My husband and I have spent the last two days cleaning and then replacing the majority of the couch cushions (fiber fill and batting) I am not mad at my brother. He does not really know me or my husband as I moved out when he was 8. I believe it was my mom's responsibility to let me know. I want to send her a bill but she says if I do she will make my brother work until he pays for it. Which I do not believe is right. He is a good kid in a bad situation. hence why I left so early. Am I wrong? Should I insist my mom pay me back the 3 hundred dollars? What should I do?
2006-08-10 16:44:30 · 17 answers · asked by seths_flame03 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Oh and this will not make my relationship worse with my mom. and I did not know he had this issue.
2006-08-10 17:03:12 · update #1
Sounds like you should just pay for it. I agree that your brother shouldn't have to pay for it, bed wetting is something that alot of people can't control and to punish him for what your mother didn't tell you. If you mother was an understanding person then she wouldn't even mention it to your brother. Making "bed wetters" feel guilty or shamed will only make the problem worse.
2006-08-10 16:57:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your brother knowing that he has a bed wetting problem, even though it would have been embarrassing for him, should have told you or said I would rather sleep on the floor. I believe he should pay for it because he is the one that did it, therefor should pay for it. So unless you want your brother to pay for it I would drop it. Something like this situation, where you and your husband paid for his ticket, let him sleep on your couch, is just an unfortunate mistake. Next time you might want to get one of those inflatable mattress, they can be just hosed off. Good luck.
2006-08-10 23:54:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you know your brother is in a bad situation (family wise) don't make it worse for him. He is obviously going thru something dramatic to still be wetting the bed and is probably very embarsed by it. Let it go, but the next he comes to visit ask him gently if this problem still exsist so that you can properly prepare him sleeping arrangements to avoid any futher expense.
2006-08-11 01:18:14 · answer #3 · answered by daybreakxoxo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont know your mother and I dont want to say anything bad but I think it's kinda sad that she is going to make him work to pay the bill. What I would do is just let it go and next time he comes over put a plastic cover over on what ever he will be sleeping on then some old sheets to cover it and if he was to pee you would not have to spend money on cleaning all you would have to do is throw it in the wash and it's good as new "also you wont feel bad of your brother working to pay the bill again" I hope my info helps you!!!!
2006-08-11 00:11:04 · answer #4 · answered by Amy L 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can certainly ask her to pay for the damage. If the child is 13, he knows he has a problem. I think HE is responsible for letting you know.
I am not sure what you mean by your mother will make him work. Do you mean household chores or something more? It is certainly within the scope of his ability to do chores and earn money - to pay for his "mistake" and not letting you know. But I am also aware how bad situations can get. I am also thinking, bed wetting is not the only problem he has.
Personally, I would recommend you drop it. I don't see you getting your money, and it will only make the situation worse, not better.
2006-08-10 23:54:29 · answer #5 · answered by tkquestion 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had this same problem when I was growing up too. She might should have told you but she didn't. He would not tell you cause it is very embarrassing to him. Since you knew that he had a problem with this in the past, I think I would have taken precautions, for just in case he had an accident. As for your lose, I think I would just take the lose and let it go. If you say something to her, she could get very abusive toward him and make matters worse for him.If he is already being abused this might worsen it for him. The next time he comes to stay with you, take precautions and don't say anything to him, cause he can't help it. I know!
2006-08-11 00:07:59 · answer #6 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes you should talk with your mom about it but if you knew he wet the bed you should have done everything to prevent damage to your couch before you let him sleep there. maybe you could ask your mom to pitch in for some of the cost of replacement but this in turn is also your fault and you should pony up the dough for the repairs also
2006-08-10 23:57:32 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you could presue the matter with your mother but at the risk of your brother being humiliated by being punished for something that is out of his control, You could just bear the cost of the replacement and just tell your mother that in future you would like to know if there are any problems you need to know about. For your brothers sake please just grin and bear it.
2006-08-11 00:08:49 · answer #8 · answered by ozi_nut 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tuff call a rock and a hard place, i think u should let it go as it will only make your brother feel guilty and it seems he is in a bad situation now
2006-08-10 23:54:54 · answer #9 · answered by ozcall2006 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
let it go u just going 2 embarrassing him by making a big deal out of it whats more important the money or your brother
2006-08-10 23:59:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋