I'm 30 and I have never been on a date, the worst part, I am clueless about how to flirt. Is it too late?

Question

I have never been on a date, does that sound stupid? Yes, it does. I have no flirting sense, I don't even pick up on it. A girl could be "hitting" on me with a baseball bat and I would be completely obivolous. I've been told that I have to be more social to learn these things, however I'm allergic to cig smoke, so bars, parties and clubs are out of the question. I have tried online dating and spent too much money for nothing found out the hard way most of the profiles aren't real or active. I feel left out, I'm still learing things I should know by now, heck by high school. So I'm giving this one last try before I give up. How does one in my position get back into the loop?

Answer 1

Hi..
That is not "stupid", at all!!
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You have to learn to be more, "social" ...
Believe in "yourself", and your "values".. etc...
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Don't do things, in a rush, now!
Really, for everyone, there is : "the right" boy/girl"..
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You just haven't got the luck, to meet one, who is on the same level, ..with you...
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I suggest, you go out, more..
Or, do some sports, their you can meet girls, too..
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Just believe, in "yourself", and you will be, fine..
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I put some links, below!....
...read them, and ask for more help!!

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My regards!.. and the best of luck!!
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Quote :"Don't walk in front of me, I may not follow... Don't walk behind me, I may not lead... Just walk beside me and be my friend" ......
"Today, is the first day of the rest of your life"......

Answer 2

You know what... you're in what seems like a pickle. I've never had a hard time dating- been doing it since I was like in 3rd grade (one of two boys in a class of 30 girls made me hot property- LOL!)...
HOWEVER what I know is this.

There are no tricks- anything that is "technique" is either Bs or just based on body language and mating rituals- yes we humans have those. Problem with mating signals is it's often just casual interest, or passing fancy and whim (which in your case might be ok). You could pick up some books on sociology and body language to start to hone your understanding of human body language so you don't shoot your ego to pieces trying with women who have NO interest in you (after all we all have our own tastes in everything)... as well as how to demonstrate you are available. There is nothing wrong with understanding that stuff on the surface- it's something that women are taught that men are NOT, if that helps (really, this is a researched fact- men are CLUELESS about signals usually)...

And then do something you are totally TERRIFIED of doing in the real world. Sky dive. climb a mountain. Learn a new skill.

THAT will help.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Its never to late to join the race. I am 23 and i still havent found anyone, but then again im not in the same position as you are. Your just looking in the wrong places for a girl. I do the the whole online thing and it doesnt work for me either. I have a problem when i can talk to someone intellectually without a picture then they want one and they see it and they arent interested anymore. I have given up on finding someone because i cant find someone that likes me for me. I know this dont answer you question but i voiced my opinion. You with you not having been out on a date i would love to go out with someone who hasnt because then you would have no one to compare me to and i could set the bar.

Answer 4

She's right....It is never too late...But two things are obvious....
1 - You are obviously waiting for something. Look, live in the now. Nothing could happen if it doesn't happen in the now. Stop thinking so much.
2 - Something is holding you back. Fear, whether its from rejection or from sharing something about yourself is something that could stop you in your tracks BEFORE YOU EVEN GET STARTED. Everybody has this fear. I know I do. But when I know what I want, I am even more afraid of losing it.

Don't force yourself. don't judge yourself.

A good place to start is through your friends. See if they know anybody. That way you two already have somthing in common - a mutual friend.

Answer 5

You do need to be more social but in a relaxed context. I suggest you join a club. Not a dating club but one that deals with something you're interested in. This is great way to meet people. Dating will follow naturally from this.

Answer 6

you are not alone. Try going to places that where you can meet woman at. For example, organic/health food stores, yoga studios, dance classes, parks, etc. You must be confident and be yourself. It's never too late to find a suitable partner. good luck!

Answer 7

no you r never too old to find true love.. heck mi grandma who is leik 60-70 sumthin just got a b/f and is about to get married.. lol
so no you are never too old to find true love.. and the flirting.. all you have to do is just leik.. go up to her and b leik.. heyy whats up.. then just start a friendship with her and then leik just bring your friendship up a notch to being b/f g/f and just buy her stuff and hold her hand and hug her and kiss her and you should be fine.. good luck.. Crystal

Answer 8

It's never to late. When your at the gas station or grocery store or where ever, make conversation with ladies. You never know where you'll meet someone.

Answer 9

Man! i feel really bad for you! no offence but i do. um, get involved in things you like, clubs? politics? animals? religion? anything that gets you around people. Ask your friends for help! dont be a perv or jerk! dont be to desprete either! i cant help you alot, but ask your friends for sure, for advice and any girls they know who are single. when you meet one you like, ask her out! dont expect her to ask you out! not gonna happen fella.

destiny and fate will kick in for you if you give yourself a shove!
good luck

Answer 10

suggestion: get the book "The Game" by Neil Struass

also go to the link below