(FOR THE LADIES ONLY) What do females look for in a guy?

Question

What I look for in a female are characteristics and qualities that make them up. Too many guys today look at females as sex toys and easy to get with. Although I have an old fashioned approach to a girl, many dudes just have any way with them. Guys i'm telling you now, the sex will be good for only a second but after that, it's all downhill from there. Your "quick relationship" will soon turn to nothing in days and then you would have wished that you hadn't have done that. I'm trying not to preach about relationships like that, but that's life. We should treat females with more respect than we do. I'd like to hear your imput on this subject.

Answer 1

Most girls look for the perfect guy-- cute/hot, intelligent, athletic, friendly, nice eyes, and a nice smile.

But that's the general consensus. Not every girl's desire fits into that category. And pretty soon, girls figure out, by their late teens, that their ideal man is never going to come. That that perfect guy probably doesn't even exist.

I can't speak for every girl, but for me? I won't kid myself by saying that looks don't matter, because, at some level, it does. No matter how altruistic, how deep one tries to be, deep down, you want a guy that you can wake up to every morning, without thinking, and just drown in his eyes. I guess for me, that's the main physical aspect that matters, because, as cliche as this may sound, eyes do show the person inside-- serving as the proverbial "window to the soul." Any eye color can be considered beautiful-- but the one thing that I like about eyes are that you can tell when a guy really loves you once you take a long, deep look into his eyes. Sounds a bit corny, but it is kind of the typical girl answer.

Now what do I really want in a man? I want someone who is there for me, when I'm angry, when I'm sad, when I'm being moody, or when I'm barfing up last nights meal because of food poisoning. I want someone who can look at me, while my head is perhaps a foot away from the toilet bowl, and say I'm beautiful even as I'm regurgitating steak as he holds up my hair. I want someone who threatens to beat up any bullies of mine, or someone who argues in my name when I'm not around and I'm being slandered. Someone who actually cares and isn't just in it to get laid or someone who isn't in it just to say "hey, I have a girlfriend." Someone who really knows what books I like, who supports the same campaigns as I do, someone who is open-minded and loves the same things I do and understands the issues that I fight for.

I guess... after all that sentimental rambling, you want a concise description of a girl's dream guy?

Again, can't speak for everyone, but these are the qualities I covet most in a man:

Personality:
1) OUTSPOKEN. That is the MOST IMPORTANT quality in significant other is that he speaks his mind. No bullsht. Someone who doesn't fudge over things to satisfy others-- and just is, although at times blunt, truthful. Trustworthy. Honest. And isn't too chickensht to fight for his cause-- that if he believes in something, and I mean, TRULY supports a cause, he'd be willing to argue for that cause until the end. That is the greatest quality a guy can have.
2) Open-minded. This may just be me, but I'm a bit of a stickler for certain social and political issues. Someone who is closed-minded isn't very attractive. I want someone who is NOT bigotted. Someone who is NOT prejudiced. Someone who is open to new possibilities in life and love.
3) Caring/Loving. Yeah, this is an atypical response from girls and women alike, but personally. Sometimes, in love, less is more. I think when a guy overdoes the mush in a relationship, their signs of affection become meaningless. The little things that he does for her are so much more meaningful than overly done, over-rated expressions of devotion. Him staying with her when she's ill, bringing in a cup of chicken noodle that he cooked himself (no matter how foul tasting) means a whole lot more to me than any diamond ring. It means more than a million I Love You's said during impassioned moments. It's a sign that he truly cares. Because ANYONE can buy something. Anyone can say something-- but they might not truly mean it. Caring is when your loved one is dying and you're willing to give up your heart so that they'll live.
4) Passionate. When I look for a guy, he must, MUST be passionate in everything he enjoys doing or supports. Sure, if he's doing something LAME, like something he vehemently dislikes, of course he wouldn't be passionate about it. but if it's something he really likes or cares about, I'd hope he puts in a great deal of effort and passion into his actions.
5) Romantic, but not to a fault. I want someone who is subtly romantic... again, romance is something that CAN be overdone. I'm one of those silly romantics that believes that one lily probably means more than dozens of roses. It's all in the meaning, not the quantity. That goes for romantic gestures as well. One well placed, true-to-heart sentiment that means more than hours of planned romance is more appealing, personally.
6) Funny. Well, not funny as in laugh-out-loud funny, but in the "oh, i'm trying to be funny to amuse you but failing miserably" funny way. Like he's so pathetic in his attempt just to please you through humor that you laugh. That's what I mean.
7) Intelligent. This does NOT always mean the straight A student... just someone who I am able to carry on a conversation with, without him nodding off in the middle of it. Someone who enjoys talking about life, about aspirations, about things beyond MTV and what's hot that week. Someone who is able to speak of something meaningful and of substance.
8) Faithful. Being cheated on isn't fun for anyone.That's what I think I'd look for in a guy.

As for the other aspects that I mentioned in the first sentence of this response, the athlete, the hottie, the cutie, the sexy, the nice smile-- well. Truthfully, they don't matter. Sure, it's nice to have someone with those qualities-- but in the long run. Those things fade. Something that's so much more eternal is very much preferred over someone who merely has the body or the cute smile. Because... we aren't all photogenic. Heck, my own school photographs probably only have a nice smile every 2 out of 5 pictures. Trying to have a true smile when there's nothing to smile about is pretty difficult... so they tend to look forced.

Ah, but I digress. Hopefully this answers your question adequately and that you haven't become irritated with the ramblings of a dreaming female student.

Answer 2

I wish there were more guys like you that could actually be that honest with their feelings. You sound like a great guy that will make the right girl really happy.

Your a keeper in my book.

Guys do that because they need to feed their ego, because they are not secure with themselves. Dont forget tho, alot of girls present themselves as sex toys and want to be just that. Funny thing, these guys who view them as sex toys...well thats enough for alot of the girls, its all about being soooo Hot, ..they all deserve one another.

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Answer 3

Honesty

Answer 4

honesty, sincerity, sense of humor, caring, understanding, nice smile, nice eyes, fun-loving, spontaneous, respectful, did i mention understanding!? yes there's more, but those are the basics.

Answer 5

I look for how much sweetness is in a guy.

Answer 6

exactly what u just said. oh... they have 2 b funny 2! :-)