My two year old still sneaks into our bed...?

Question

I did the whole let him fall asleep and put him back in his bed thing, then I tried the "nanny" deal where you put him in his bed and basically let him cry himself to sleep. If he gets out of bed don't talk or make eye contact just keep putting him back in his bed. It worked for a while but then I was so DAMN exhausted I would wake up in the morning and there he would be. Dosen't matter about my hubby cause he works nights. But Geez oh pete's sometimes it freaks me out to roll over and feel him there. Or be in a deep sleep and get kicked in the chest or something. any new tricks out there?

Answer 1

Girl, I bought my boys a bunk bed, ages 11/2 yrs, & 5yrs. I bought my girl a Princess day bed w/ canopy she is 2 1/2 yrs. My baby boy has slept in his bed 1 or 2x. He sleeps with me and my husband. Every so often my girl is in bed with us and my 5 yr old is almost always in my bed. Picture 5 of us in a KING size bed. Not a great comfort for me. I end up on the couch sometimes with one or two of the kids. or in my son' s room with one or three of them. Lets just say I don;t see it ending. He feels comfortable with you. Maybe since your husband is not there.When he comes into your room. go into his w/out him. Then atleast he gets what he wants and you get to sleep in solitude, I sometimes love to sleep with them. Cause I know they are safe with me.......

Answer 2

You could put up a gate in your bedroom doorway. I'd keep it there at all times, even during the day so he knows it's there for good and it isn't coming down. I've heard that if you lock kids in their room, they can become clausterphobic; that's why I suggested putting up the barrier to your room.

I really do think that the nanny idea would have worked best though. You need to train yourself to wake up as soon as you hear him coming in the room. Maybe put a bell on the other side of the door so as soon as he touches the door to come it, you'll wake up from the sound it makes. The gate should be a last resort. Hope that helps.

Answer 3

My kids are 3 and 5 and I am all of the sudden having that problem. I haven't found anything that does work. When they were 2 they always slept in their bed. If they did get up I would rub their back until they fell asleep or tell them stories....ect. Now they are older and doing it again....let me tell you I know how it feels to be kicked and rolled on or basically pushed out of the bed. I also know how it is to get like 3 hours for sleep every night. This is one thing I am still working on.

Answer 4

All kids go through this.. They wake up in the middle of the night and it freaks them out to be alone. One thing that may help (especially if he isn't potty trained yet) is to make sure he has his favorite toys in his room and take out anything he might get hurt on... two year olds are very curious and active! Get one of those plain brown interior doors and saw the top half off (cut it above the door knob and high enough that he can't use anything to climb on to try and get out - chest high works pretty good). Reverse the door knob and when you put him to bed, lock it from the outside of the room. You'll still be able to hear him if he cries or needs you, but he won't be able to get out and get into anything or come to your room. When he is a little older you can put his regular door back up.

Answer 5

I think you just have to keep putting him back in his bed. Over and over! Sorry, I know how tiring it is to have your sleep continually interupted but if you want to stop it you have to be consistent. He is old enough to know he is getting away with it. Can you think of a special reward you can promise he will get, ONLY if he stays in his own bed until morning? If it is something he wants badly enough he may be willing to work for it.

I have been away from my husband for awhile and when my 3 year old gets up too early I have been letting her get in my bed so I can get a little extra sleep. Now we are going to be together again soon and I am worried about how hard it might be to break this habit! So good luck!

Answer 6

My kids still do that on occasion........I took a big blanket and folded it to fit the space between my side of the bed and the wall, and then put a pillow down there. I told them that my bed was mine, but that if they needed to come in with me they could sleep on the "nite emergency bed". They have dropped off coming in quite abit as they have gottin older, they only show up once or twice a month now......maybe this will work for you too?

Answer 7

Why wouldn't you just let him sleep with you? Mothers and children are biologically designed to sleep together...fighting it is only going to cause trauma for him, and less sleep for both of you.
If it's difficult to be in the same bed, you could put his bed or a little mattress in your room.
Just trust your child and your mothering instincts. They're never wrong. =)

Answer 8

He's still basically a baby. My two year old nephew still likes to sleep with his mother at night (during the day he sleeps by himself). Don't try to force him to stay in his bed. He'll grow out of it soon enough. Don't worry.

Answer 9

yep i went through that with my son whe he was 2-3 years old he would sneak into bed i would let him fall asleep then put him back to his own bed. it worked eventually he slept in his own bed. tell the big quake hit then it was in our room for another six months but this time laying on padded bed on floor.

Answer 10

I would give anything to have my two year old sneak into my bed.... the only problem is he is 16 now!! Enjoy it while you can because they really do grow so fast but unfortunately we only realize this when it is to late. Savor every moment