My boyfriend hits my friend's and i'm afraid he's going to hit me. He has put his fist up and almost hit me, my friend stoped him. Then he hit here .I have no clue what to do. Last time i broke up with him he cut himself.
2006-08-10 16:08:50 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Always remember and never forget........you are not responsible for what he does. Ever. Cutting himself was a plea for your sympathy, like a little boy would.
This guy has "serious" problems and unless you really want to take them on you better break up again. And stay that way. You have ample reason.
If he is "almost" hitting you now, while you are dating, you will be in serious trouble after you marry. He is an abuser and you will pay dearly if you do not get away from him now.
Boyfriends do not almost hit their girlfriends. Not if they are normal and not if they really care for her.
Run, do not walk, away from him now. You will be very sorry if you don't.
2006-08-10 16:19:55 · answer #1 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him cut himself. He'll get tired of it real quick. Why are you with an idiot? Don't you want a great boyfriend, one you don't have to babysit? Theres a whole world of guys out there, and you want to be stuck with a nut? What will he do next time for attention?, he'll have to "Up the Anty", which means, he'll have to be twice the "Drama Queen" he was this time. Unless you love and need the drama, drop this loser and find a better suited mate for yourself. This situation will never, ever get better. If you don't believe me, ask a hot line for advice, or a doctor, they'll tell you the same thing. Do you like this kind of relationship? Are you in it for all the drama? Be smart, don't be with a jerk who manipulates you by stupid threats. Let him cut himself, heck, I'd hand him the blade, give him a phone to call 911 when hes had enough of his own ignorance, and then he'll have to face everyone the next day. That would be totally embarrassing for him and humbling, which is what a manipulative little creep like that needs. What a bully and you're a fool if you stay with an Butt End like that. Since he's a loser, you'll be one too if you stay with him. A nice pair you'd make.
2006-08-10 16:18:52 · answer #2 · answered by snickers_ha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a healthy relationship at all! It probably will get to the stage where your boyfriend will hit you and there wont be anyone there to defend you. If I was you I would get out the the relationship as no good can come from this. Don't feel guilty about his acts of self mutilation as it is not your problem, your boyfriend needs help. I think people that do these kind of things are seeking attention and it is obviously their way of coping. You need to be strong and do what you think is best for yourself. Good luck!
2006-08-10 16:18:52 · answer #3 · answered by mermaiden_4_ever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is crazy If and when he decides to hit you, you hit him back with something to let him know you are not going to allow him to hit you. After you do that he'll think twice about everything. Break up with him that's his life if he wanted to kill or hurt himself seriously last time he would have done it. That's his life he's not that crazy if you don't get out of it you'll end up being the hurt one in the relationship.
2006-08-10 16:14:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
F THAT!!!!!!!!!! it's not your responsibility to make sure he doesn't hurt himself because your afraid for your life. Why live in fear of someone who "supposedly" loves you enough to hurt himself. He's just using you, he knows you hate to see him hurt himself and he uses that against you. and it's sad to say, he's going to keep using that against you until you do something about it. If he's hitting your friends he will start to hit you and if you end up with kids, he will hit them. Do you think you can live with that? I don't think you should have to, you deserve better than that, and if I were you, I would keep on looking, because he isn't what you deserve. Good Luck!
2006-08-10 16:16:41 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing for both of you would be to break it off. If he hits you, he could get into serious trouble----and you DO NOT deserve to go through this. If you think he is suicidal, you need to talk to someone who can help him. Let his parents/other loved ones know that he needs help. Good Luck.
2006-08-10 16:14:24 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls are weird...if he hit you he don't love you...He IS going to (slap/punch/etc) into tomorrow...If he cuts himself, he cuts himself...he just wants to be in control...I'm guessing he cant push anyone else around but you...Just leave him...and you let all your friends take the punishment thats wrong
2006-08-10 16:15:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you really have to ask? i mean hitting and or any violence has nothing to do with love or respect or relationships. if you love and respect yourself, then get out of this now. if not it will only get worse. and if you leave him and he cuts hinmself..so be it. that crap is extremely selfish and it is his issue. now if you say oh i really love him or am afraid of what he might do if i leave him...well you should say that now...you should be a fraid of what he will do if you stay with him. and if you want to help then, break off relationship and suggest he get help. tell him you are afraid and that you cant be with someone you can not trust or get respect from. again violence has nothing to do with love.
2006-08-10 16:15:24 · answer #8 · answered by baron b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to him about his anger and the violence, you should get him some help, and if he doesn't listen to you, you should really leave him, because guys like that are really dangerous, if he hits you now, he'll probably do something worse later on. my best advice is to leave him, doesn't matter if he cut himself, you need to save your own life.
2006-08-10 16:14:28 · answer #9 · answered by superboredom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is just a matter of time before he starts on you, and if he is cutting himself you need to stay away he needs help
2006-08-10 16:12:54 · answer #10 · answered by fetter_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋